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Do I need to tell people that I'm depressed?

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Do I need to tell people that I'm depressed?
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Profile: Tulipsmile
Tulipsmile
June 26th, 2023 4:18pm
It depends upon who are the people that you want to tell them, because not everyone can understand that if they say they understand maybe they will say that just to make you feel better, but when you talk to people you trust people that know you know your problems, things about your life ,family ,etc.. people will not judgment you then I think yes you can tell them , but sometimes I think we say that we want to tell people but we don't that's always happen with me because I feel afraid sometimes I don't know why ,or I feel like they sympathize with me and sometimes I hate that sorry to say that
Profile: Skylarstorm
Skylarstorm
May 14th, 2018 3:56pm
Telling people that you're depressed is a good idea, it lets people know about what you're going through so that they can work with you and help with the issues that you're facing.
Profile: Cherm
Cherm
May 9th, 2018 9:05am
Its up to you actually, everyone has their own freedom to tell or not to tell. If you are willing to tell, finding your close friend(s) or family is the best as they are with you almost all the time. So even when you are depressed, there are someone who you can reach out to.
Profile: Elegantrainfall
Elegantrainfall
May 1st, 2018 1:22am
You need to tell your support net work. When it was me I told a close friend and one family member. My support network incase I needed any help
Profile: organticPeace28
organticPeace28
February 13th, 2018 2:14pm
You are under no obligation to tell people about your depression. With this in mind, I think that it is good for you to have someone you can talk about it with. Having support during difficult times can also help with recovery.
Profile: Sintix
Sintix
February 5th, 2018 7:39pm
If it's not something you want people knowing, don't feel pressured to. But, I do believe letting at least a close friend know so they can be there for you is good.
Profile: peacefulHug92
peacefulHug92
January 1st, 2018 9:54am
That decision is up for you to decide, however if I were in your shoes I'd want at least some people to know. Depression can be very isolating and lonely, but when people around you know your struggling and support you, it can make it that little bit easier ❤
Profile: courteousSky479
courteousSky479
November 7th, 2017 11:26pm
I think about suicide a lot and I don’t know what to do. Last year I told my closest friend how I felt and she told everyone, including my mom so I went to counseling and lied and lied about how I felt just because I hated how people treated me when they thought I was suicidal. I do not want to tell anyone. I am 13 so can I make it go away by myself? Do I absolutely have to get help??
Anonymous
October 30th, 2017 9:31am
Telling people that you are depressed doesn't necessarily brings you out of depression. You could go into it more if you start feeling that they don't care for you. The first and major step has always to be taken by you. You have realized what's wrong with you and you are the best person to decide how you have to get it done correctly.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2016 5:48am
It's not a mandatory thing, but it's always the best way. Keeping it to yourself does not benefit you in any way, instead, there is a possibility that it will become worse. Talk about it with someone you trust, it will definitely make you feel better, trust me.
Profile: BloodiedClaws
BloodiedClaws
February 11th, 2016 7:15am
Yeah, probably. It's not the best idea to keep that stuff from people who can get you professional help. Therapists are a bit better than binge eating and talking to the deer-dragon with cherry blossoms on it's wings inside your head about the futility of the human race.
Profile: pretty
pretty
January 8th, 2016 7:16am
Yes of course you need to tell people who cares for you and you can trust but not all the people you know who actually don't care about you...
Profile: thoughtfulTree67
thoughtfulTree67
December 31st, 2015 4:04am
No, you don't need to tell people you're depressed. You know what's best for you. If you need help, you should definitely tell someone.
Profile: Azil90
Azil90
December 20th, 2015 9:21pm
If you feel like your depression is taking hold of your life, stopping you from being as happy as you want to, then absolutely! Even if only a friend, or someone anonymous online, venting and expressing how you feel is important to understand what is going on.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 7:32pm
Only if it is truly necessary and with people you trust like your best friends, spouse, or family members. Never feel pressured to tell someone.
Profile: kittykat
kittykat
October 30th, 2014 9:11pm
That's all up to you! You don't have to do anything that you don't want to, and the decision to share your personal struggles with depression is just that -- personal. That said, seeking support for depression is an essential component for recovery. Whether you're reaching out to a mental health professional or getting community support online or in real life, having other people keeps you from feeling overwhelming isolation. And if you believe the people in your life will understand, you can share your struggles with them so that they understand where you're coming from and what you need from them.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 2:55am
Depending on the person you tell. For example, like friends and family is a definite yes. Not others
Profile: gekko
gekko
December 31st, 2015 2:25am
No. Depression isn't something you should tell everyone. It usually makes people look at you in a different light. However, it's that's what you want, then it's all up to you.
Profile: jmc997
jmc997
December 31st, 2015 1:36am
You don't have to tell anyone if that isn't what you want or feel like doing, but if they're close to you and you know they'll react well, they'd be a good support system for you
Profile: funnyVision29
funnyVision29
December 30th, 2015 9:41pm
First you need to take a step back and think about if you trust that person with that information. If you do it also be good to consider if that information would be important to tell that person.
Profile: OceanBreeze
OceanBreeze
December 30th, 2015 3:01pm
It is very important to tell someone that you're depressed. However, be careful about who you trust. Find a friend or adult that you TRUST, and tell them that you're depressed. That way, they'll know immediately that you're serious and will be willing to find you the help you need.
Profile: FriendlyEmmy
FriendlyEmmy
December 30th, 2015 5:00am
I honestly think you should. Once that's been lifted off of you chest you can stating taking the right path to becoming better.
Profile: Aprildays2432
Aprildays2432
December 30th, 2015 12:36am
You absolutely do not need to tell people that you are depressed. While it could help so they could understand why you do certain things, if you are not comfortable sharing this then just don't tell them. You can tell as little or as much people about your depression that you want.
Profile: JayIvory5711
JayIvory5711
December 27th, 2015 11:13pm
No, not necessarily. You don't have to tell people that if you aren't comfortable. If you feel the need to then it's fine, but it all depends on if you think it'll help your situation.
Profile: CaringJoy
CaringJoy
December 27th, 2015 10:08pm
Suffering alone can be hard so we need the support and love of people we can trust that have good intentions. I suggest only telling the people you trust that care about you, are supportive and non-judgmental.
Profile: SmileyJess
SmileyJess
December 27th, 2015 9:12pm
I would advise to let the people in your life know about the problems you are facing in order to get the support you deserve and need. A family member or close friend is always best as you can trust them the most. It is easier to cope with knowing you have someone there for you. Also having someone who has some idea of what you're going through can be useful because some days will be worse than others and you won't have to explain to much about how you are feeling if they already know your problems. Additionally, it can make you feel less alone knowing someone feels the same way. However everybody doesn't need to know your problems because you also need a place you can go where nobody knows about that side of you somewhere you can go and forget about your troubles.
Profile: MissSatan
MissSatan
December 26th, 2015 9:02pm
If you can't bear to keep it inside yourself. If you try and hold onto your pain too long, it'll overcome you. It'll become you. It'll slowly eat away at you, and turn you into something else. If you don't think you can hold it inside you and fight it on your own, you have to tell somebody. Because, I can promise you, you don't want to become what depression can turn you into.
Profile: joyfulApple58
joyfulApple58
December 27th, 2015 12:12am
No! You do not have to, but if you would like to do so go ahead. There is nothing wrong with telling someone you trust what's going on in your life.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 10:16pm
It might be a good idea too. They might be able to help you. No one has to go through depression alone.
Profile: kindheartedKitty71
kindheartedKitty71
December 27th, 2015 8:56am
You only "need" to tell the people you want to tell, and who you trust.. Do not tell anyone if you are not comfortable.