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How do you get over the feeling that people are laughing at you?

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Profile: straightasaflexibleruler
straightasaflexibleruler
February 24th, 2018 12:33am
I try not to put too much importance on the opinion's of others. It doesn't matter if they are laughing at you or if they're not, don't care about it. It's them Not you. They have the problem.
Profile: WinterCallsHereo
WinterCallsHereo
February 28th, 2018 4:24am
Ask them if they are laughing at you, the best way to solve this one is to confront it, if they were laughing tell them you don't appreciate it and wish for it to stop.
Profile: Infpbutalive
Infpbutalive
December 12th, 2014 5:12pm
For me if it is not meant to be mean I laugh along with them. Otherwise, I will tell them that what they are doing is upsetting me.
Profile: Arkelight
Arkelight
December 28th, 2014 3:00am
You first have to answer the question, why do you feel that people are laughing at you. This sort of negative thinking, which could be classified as Rumination often has an underlining cause. There are techniques out there to help manage this however, I would suggest definitely looking into it.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2015 12:47am
I get over that feeling by smiling and pretending I'm alone, or surrounded by friends. I also look at the situation to see if people are laughing at me or something around me!
Profile: Rockandrollrocks
Rockandrollrocks
December 12th, 2015 9:54am
Self-assurance. When you know your worth, everyone else will too. Own your personality! If you doubt yourself, others will too.
Profile: heatherishere64
heatherishere64
December 16th, 2015 10:31pm
I laugh back at the person who is laughing at me, I tend to think nothing of it and move on with my day ~
Anonymous
December 20th, 2015 10:41am
Most people only focus on themselves and their appearance when they're out. They probably didn't even notice you, let alone they're laughing at you. There is no spotlight on you. People are never laughing at you. You're safe outside.
Profile: Shikamaru42
Shikamaru42
December 23rd, 2015 12:13pm
I personally try to keep my mind focused on the facts when such feelings arise. I mean, most of the time, if you think about it, that feeling turns out to be based on nothing but one's own insecurities. There often is little to no evidence for people actually doing that.
Profile: MusicBenjamin
MusicBenjamin
December 30th, 2015 1:32am
Laugh at yourself as well. Recognize that life is a serious thing, but doesn't need to be taken seriously all the time. Recognize the funny and enjoyable things and laugh together. Words can't hurt you, only your perception of those words can, so let potential negativity roll off like water off a duck's back. Let's all share a laugh!
Profile: GentleSoul13
GentleSoul13
January 7th, 2016 9:07pm
I imagine what I have done in my life that was funny, and I laugh about it and share with others to make them smile as well.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 3:10am
It's best to ignore them or laugh with them! It may be all in your head not everyone is going to be out to get you, sometimes we get paranoid
Profile: MatthewTheMagical
MatthewTheMagical
June 8th, 2016 10:50am
It depends on who's laughing at me, and it depends in which way. I usually don't. I'll think about it all day, and maybe for more than a day.
Profile: JaketheTransguyFTM
JaketheTransguyFTM
June 9th, 2016 6:01pm
You remind yourself that you are amazing. That people can be rude, but is no reason to be mad at others.
Profile: Youareberrybeautiful
Youareberrybeautiful
October 9th, 2016 5:07am
I tilt my head up smile and walk by to my own beat not a care in the world. Listening to music helps me block out the world around me as well, instrumental is the best!
Anonymous
October 16th, 2016 5:23pm
When you think about the situations, how many times do you remember that when you laughed at someone? and how long did you laugh, do you tease him/her till date? obviously no.
Profile: Thehonesthelpergoose
Thehonesthelpergoose
October 20th, 2016 4:49am
Don't give in to what they want. and that is to get to you. keep your head up even though sometimes that can be tough ....its worth it in the end.
Profile: Sunshine201
Sunshine201
February 17th, 2017 8:16am
Spend more time with people who care about you ,close to you and truly respect you, it's important to feel loved and respected, then self suggest that every human on earth can't be like those encouraging people around you, doing anything as a small effort for yourself, works. It will take its own time, but any effort to get over that feeling is worth it, your will to overcome it will beat any negativity, trust in yourself,
Anonymous
March 15th, 2017 5:11am
Talk to someone about it or do something that makes me feel better and try to think of positive things instead of negative things
Profile: JD821
JD821
March 24th, 2017 7:59pm
You should learn to celebrate your strengths and laugh at your weaknesses, only then do you have control and can get past it. If others are laughing at you at your expense, chances are they need to make fun of you to make themselves feel better. As hard as it is, just ignore it and focus on yourself. At the end of the day, you don't need anyone's approval but your own.
Profile: bouncyVision80
bouncyVision80
April 27th, 2017 7:29am
One should learn to laugh at themselves. Try to know the reason why people laugh at you and taking it sportingly and correcting those things. Will eventually make you a better person and make you get over the feeling.
Profile: LittleCarol
LittleCarol
May 12th, 2017 1:42pm
It's uncomfortable to feel as though you are being laughed at. Remind yourself that you are a valuable person and that you have the right to feel safe and supported.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2017 6:46pm
Realize what they think, say or do should not matter to you. Let them do what they want to do. You continue to live and be successful.
Profile: xItsDeex
xItsDeex
November 1st, 2017 8:37pm
Honestly I just ignore them. When I was younger it bugged me a lot. I got the urge to have a comeback at them but I was too weak and scared to say something back so I just stayed quiet and kept it in. Somedays I did talked back to them but when that’s the case they enjoy seeing you being bothered with it. They make you question yourself and the thing they’re laughing about. It doesn’t really matter it’s either not true or none of their businesses. When you give people a vibe that might make them think that you’re a “potential victim” they'll naturally aim for you they look for the weakest that’s simply the whole math. When you ignore them or keep your head high no matter what they won’t bug you and they even can find you cooler believe it or not. Keep your head straight, shoulders back and if they try to annoy you, hurt you or laugh at you try to laugh along or even better ignore the f out of them.
Profile: SerenRIC21
SerenRIC21
November 8th, 2017 12:14am
I'll accept the situation, the fact I'm feeling down by some incident of people laughing at me. But I'll let myself know it's not a all time with all person situation. Even who're laughing if I can, I'll approach them politely sometimes. I'll try to know them above the laughed at me feeling. I'll let them know myself better and sometimes it changes view point. Any situation like this I try to use my hobby or any strength to fill me with positivity. It helps me to give a confidence boost. No matter what I respect myself and be ready to cope with things. I don't hesitate to right myself and be a better person if I'm wrong in something. That helps a lot.
Profile: thapi
thapi
November 10th, 2017 4:11pm
asking people of what they think of you might end up creating some awkward moments which are not necessary one of the best ways is to do self evaluation and if you don't see a problem with yourself then lift your heard up and not think about others because there is not person who can motivate you better than yourself.
Profile: fictionfreak09
fictionfreak09
November 18th, 2017 4:02am
Well, sometimes our friends and family laugh at us just for fun without actually intending any harm to us. But sometimes we are a target for bullying that often comes in the form of mockery. i think the best way to deal with such mockeries is by ignoring them, and not letting any of such words get to us. We need to believe in who we are, and not on someone else's words.
Profile: newcounsellor
newcounsellor
December 7th, 2017 3:30am
Cognitive behavioural techniques are helpful. Feelings are not always accurate, but if we monitor our thoughts, beliefs or assumptions - and then challenge if they are true (with evidence to support it) then more often than not we find that we cannot always rely on the validity of our mind. We can challenge these thoughts, with new behaviours, or, we can simply be aware of them and let them pass though without causing too much damage to our lives.
Profile: GrizzlyGummyBear
GrizzlyGummyBear
December 13th, 2017 3:25am
It's always best to assume a joke or rumour isn't about you until someone has confirmed that is it about you. You'll be much happier giving others the benefit of the doubt.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2017 3:53pm
I try to divert my attention to something else. Also i keep repeating to myself that people are not laughing.