How do you get over the feeling that people are laughing at you?
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2 thoughts... first that you are bringing cheers to others, this is a good thing. Second to listen the joke and improve from there... life is too short to be taking it too seriously
Pretend to like yourself and fake confidence. Try to laugh at yourself when appropriate and you will feel that no one laughs at you, but with you.
In this situation I would tell my self to focus on something or move from that place that makes me uncomfortable
I used to have that idea in my head. Then I started doing drama and I improved my social anxiety. Now when I hear a laugh, I’ll sometimes think about it and then think “why would they be laughing at me?â€
I take a deep breath and I think of a happy place in my mind. This allows me to relax and calm down.
When I was younger people would laugh at me, it made me feel better and I would lash out a few years later I see them on the Street, And it dont mean nothing, I wish I new That back then, At the time I wish I knew that it won't matter in a few years
Think and believe they they are laughing with you. Be proud of yourself and be strong. Those people laugh with others because they are weak. Don't be intimidated by them but stand up to them. Show them that you don't care. You are your own person. You must make yourself happy. Ignore what others think. Imagine they're laughing with you because you are just so amazing. That you are glamerous Be confident and Don t let others stand in your way and break you down. Believe in yourself. Why should you care what others think? You must be happy. Don't let others make you sad.
You must look for reasons to love yourself, or surround yourself with people who make you feel positive about yourself. You will -possibly (it’s true for me)- only believe people are laughing at you if you yourself see a reason why try would be laughing at you. An example of this would be, if you are embarrassed of something that happened and everyone around you seems be laughing or acting slightly different when you’re around, you may blame that embarrassing moment for why they’re laughing at you. But at the end of the day, whether others are laughing at you or not shouldn’t matter. Your own opinion on yourself and how you feel about yourself should be all that matters.
I know it's easier said then done but let it roll off your back. People will laugh and be mean but in the end if they see it's not bothering you they will get board with it and leave you alone. So act like you could care a less and it won't be fun for them anymore.
If you feel like other people are laughing at you it might be due to negative self image.To be honest people are so preoccupied with themselves they barely can pay attention to others.To get over that feeling you need to change the way you talk to yourself in your head. Focus on all your positive qualities.For example look at the mirror and say 10 things you love about yourself.Be very mindful about what's going on in your head and don't let negative thoughts take over in social situations.You do not need that in your life. Good luck and stay blessed!
Anonymous
May 9th, 2019 11:28am
This is a hard one.. As human beings, it’s natural to worry about what others think, and when we know what it is, whether it’s good or not, it’s easy to believe them. But know this: Often, when people laugh at you, those are people who are hurting deeply and are insecure in themselves. They use bullying/rudeness as a coping mechanism. If you think about that the next time someone laughs at you, it should be easier to at least attempt to avoid/ignore them. However, if it’s a continuing issue, then you might want to consult a parent/other trusted adult for guidance and advice.
Anonymous
August 15th, 2019 5:47pm
My friend, I tell you. I feel that you shouldn't take it seriously. The best way to get over it is by ignoring. Do not give them the feeling that it bothers you. Let them laugh until they get exhausted.
You can question them if you want to know what made them laugh at you. Reply with a smile and move on.
Do not think about it at all. Leave it at that very moment.
If you have to say something. Just reply saying - I'm glad/happy that made you laugh at me.
Finally, Ignoring is the key to handle any situation. I believe it helps you!
People who laugh at you are often weak to face their real problems and combat the feeling of not being aware of their own state of mind. Those people are probably in need of a good life-advisor, but without the self-consciousness to admit it.
There is nothing to get over, because these people are not for you. You have to carry on without worrying that someone sooner or later is going to make fun of you. Especially if they are not so important to you - giving meaning to your life. If you are experiencing any kind of bullying. ...Be brave.
I just say to myself "Your opinions don't matter to me. I believe in myself. I love myself and your opinions are not worth a dime to me." Just ignore them and know that if you work hard and you overcome them, you might someday be higher up than them and then you will be the one laughing. Just know that karma will bite them in the bum at the worst time that it could. Laughing at people won't get them anywhere but the bottom of the world. People need to be careful about just who they laugh at.
I can personally relate to the issue you are currently facing right now, and honestly, it would be very very hard not to think and feel that people are laughing at you especially when they find you different as an individual.
But what I can advise you is, please remember that their actions and beliefs do not reflect your character and worth for this reflects them. Additionally, these people who makes fun of you by laughing, I'm assuming are individuals that does not know you fully which means that you don't have to validate their opinions towards you.
Please be yourself at all times and I truly believe that the best revenge for them is for you to keep on being positive, happy and unbothered by their actions. PERIODT.
I remind myself that they are not laughing at me, they are laughing at the funny situation. They think it's harmless to laugh, so I laugh as well.
I have always been used to people laughing at me because well I am clumsy. I cannot walk straight I am always falling down or breaking things but I always laugh along with them. I could cry or get angry at them but what is the use, besides whenever I do fall or break something I find it funny and laugh before anyone else can :)
Anonymous
December 9th, 2015 8:16pm
You just got to practise your confidence and know that your smarter and better than the person that starts laughing at you, let other people see that your confident too. No one is born dumb and scientists have told us that we are actually ten times prettier than what we see ourselves in the mirror ;)
Anonymous
December 9th, 2015 11:39pm
Well you need to ignore them.. because its certainly not nice to Laugh at someone. Because they have no reason to laugh at You! I had this same situation a couple years back... It was awful, until I had the guts to go up to that person/group and say ¨Why are u laughing at me.. U dont even know me. Just back off¨ and they stopped laughing at me.. and they even apoligized
Anonymous
December 11th, 2015 1:40am
I laugh it off and pretend it doesn't bother me, so they do not win the battle, or I say something to them and ask for them to please stop. If they don't then I would go to someone else and ask for help, because it is a form of bullying
Realise that they obviously have nothing better to do than put others down. They also probably have something going on deeper than just what they're showing if they want to take it out on others. Just remember you're better than that :)
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 3:31am
I went to tell the trusted adult in the area so that they could sought it out. It carried on so I went to student services and it all got fixed writhing the space of a week.
Some people laugh because they are afraid if they don't, they too will be laughed at. Learn to find the people who will enjoy the strange things about you.
You can get over that feeling because people are not always supposed to laugh at you. They also have something to do other than that.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 7:34pm
you don't. You just love yourself and be confident enough not to think what other irrelevant people are doing. If you see what you are doing is good then you do you. Looking behind you to see what others think will only make you trip
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 8:20pm
Become more confident. It's actually not that hard. Instead of Salinger up in the mirror pointing out "flaws" point out at least 3 things you like about yourself every morning & focus on that throughout the day! Another thing that works is going out buying some clothes! Sometimes wearing new clothes can make you more positive about your look!
Think about your good qualities, Think about how far you have gotten and how far you can still go in life.
Think more that they are laughing WITH you and it makes all the difference in the world. Just make a joke out of everything negative, and learn from that experience. As an actor, when I'm on stage sometimes I think that people are laughing at me personally because I messed up or something. But I just laugh along with them, and it makes everything a lot easier!
Discover and reflect on why you have this feeling. What is it that you feel people are laughing at?
Accept that what your are experiencing is self doubt--then conquer it. Identify all the positive and beautiful things that make you, simply you!
The majority of the time, people are more concerned about their bubble and worrying about the same things you are--so much so they aren't laughing at you, but wondering if you are them.
We all have those vulnerabilities.
Capitalize on the good and flaunt it--and know the vast majority are in the same boat.
The minority are small minded and have other battles they most conquer and grow.
Be strong and be proud of magnificent you!
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 5:11pm
Sometimes, this is always pretty powerful for me as a thought exercise. Sometimes in my life I've told people things like these and they've hit me back with, "Do you think about people that way?" Then I kind of realize that no, I don't; I just go about my own da being very caught up in my own things that I don't waste a whole lot of energy being petty like that. It helps a lot to calm me down and think about it logically.
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