What do I do if my ex keeps contacting me?
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Anonymous
July 30th, 2015 9:08am
I would ask them to stop contacting me if they are being not friendly or respectful. Now if they are being nice and respectful listen to what they have to say.
Change your number, block your ex's number or pick up and ask them to stop calling you. If they continue to do it report them to the police.
Depends, do u want him to contact you? If not then tell him to stop if it leeps up call police and block him on any social media and change numbers or watever the issue.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 7:14am
If your ex keeps contacting you, for once just try not ignoring! When he / she will see you are not getting affected, they perhaps may stop contacting u! Try not giving the reaction they expect from you!
Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 12:09pm
If it's unwanted communication i suggest you first say you do not wish to speak to him/her and then block the number or delete it. Or even rename their contact to "Do not answer"
Be sure to stand firm if this is not what you are wanting. The best thing you can do is to make yourself clear if you are not wanting to be contacted by this person. If the situation persists, you can always get authorities involved if it becomes worse. But stand firm in your decision and stay hopeful that it will not escalate. If it does, please contact your local authorities for further assistance in the matter.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2015 1:43pm
It might be best to block your ex on social media sites and if they contact you by phone you can choose to ignore them or block their call but it really is your choice
firmly tell him to stop, and screenshot that message or record you saying that. if he continues, block and report his number. if he even contacts you even further, im afraid you have to bring the law into this, and don't forget to show your text/audio proof of your concern.
It depends if it's children related or custodial contact them if not and you're not wanting to no longer contact ignore them change your number do not respond
The best thing to do is ignore it. You can block your ex on social media or if you're a apple user you can block their number so they can't contact you in any way. "Cancel out my ex, I put a line through that *" - Drake
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2015 10:49pm
it depends how they are contacting you cause you can easily change your number and block them from any social media websites
It can be very beneficial to find positive ways to keep your self busy such as hanging out with a friend, so you are not prone to respond; unless however you find that it's what you want. If it is of a bother to you, maybe try expressing that to your ex and tell them you'd prefer to be left alone. If it becomes so bothersome to the point of harassment, blocking the number maybe an option.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 2:05pm
If you want them to stop contacting you, tell them so once very clearly, block them in every medium that will let you, then don't respond to any of their further attempts. If you respond after 1000 tries, that just teaches them that it takes 1000 tries to get you to answer. Tell your mutual friends not to pass along any messages. You may have to get a restraining order if your ex doesn't stop.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 11:26pm
Decide whether you want to be with him or to break up definitively. If it is the second one,block him on all social media and on your phone.think well before.
Start by politely telling him or her you would like to stop having communication and state your reasoning, and eventually stop responding if he or she persists. Eventually the communication should stop.
Remain calm. It is always up to you whether you want to answer that email or phone call or text. It's ok to be polite and say you need space before getting in contact again, to let him or her know that it isn't a good time for you right now. If the message isn't being received and understood, you have the right to let him or her know that you are blocking communication for now and do so.
The best way to deal with that would be to change your phone number, block their email address and all social media accounts. Your ex contacting you isn't good for your emotional health. If all else fails, it would be best to contact your local law enforcement agencies.
Well, you should first think about your next step before acting unconsciously and try to make him/her let u free for once and for all, if thats what makes u feel okay :) .
If your ex keeps contacting you after you've told them not to, block them on social media/your phone. Talk to your parents, friends, or other trusted adults. If they continue to harass you, your last resort option is to call the police.
If you feel uncomfortable with your ex still contacting you, you may want to ask her/him why he still wants to talk. In the case that he/she want anwsers you should give them anwser. If they want to make you feel bad you should tell them to stop or talk to someone they know.
Ask yourself why; if you've been giving signs, chances are, you need to approach them differently. If not, and you just would like peace, then ignoring calls would be the best thing to do (after considering the others' emotional status).
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 5:31am
~Love is meant to be appreciated. You own there heart? How does it feel to be a slave master.
Contact your local authorities, especially if you believe there is any chance of harm on yourself or others.
It depends on the ex and the situation but normally I would try to kindly tell them that I am uncomfortable with that and if they cannot respect my wishes to not keep in contact at the current time you can either block them on all accounts or file a restraining order against them in cases or extreme instability.
Anonymous
August 13th, 2015 12:28am
Just be yourself and be polite but if you feel uncomfortable then walk away or tell them straight up
Anonymous
August 14th, 2015 2:19pm
Make it incredibly clear that you don't wish to maintain contact. If you've been more sweet about it earlier, make sure you're more assertive about it.
If you want them to then start a conversation. However if you don't tell them you don't want to talk or just ignore them. Although if it's going too far e.g weeks on end then change your number and block them on social networking sites. If it get's any worse contact your local authorities.
Anonymous
August 16th, 2015 7:57am
Tell them that you are no longer interested in them and you want to be left alone. Don't let them get to you
Anonymous
August 16th, 2015 11:27pm
Talk to someone about it, or maybe tell your ex that you are not interested anymore and to stop.
Anonymous
October 6th, 2015 3:40am
My ex, who I broke up with 4 months ago, has recently begun to get in contact with me again. She drove 45 minutes to drop some clothes off at my house for my son, yet declined to wait until I was home to do so and left them at the doorstep rather than wait. She has texted me a handful of times to which I usually reply promptly. However she rarely responds- and if so it is at least a day later. I have never initiated contact except to wish her a happy birthday and this was only after she had contacted me first after the break. I initiated the breakup but she certainly finished it my moving all of her furniture and belongings out of my home. My guess is she doesn't even know what she wants, but the lack of response is keeping me on edge- I know what most of you will say to this- but remember- she initiated only to leave me hanging. I don't know her motive and while I'm admittedly excited about seeing her again, I would rather know whether she was simply being friendly or has more in mind. I don't enjoy these type of games and would rather move on if that's where it is- but such as it is I feel like I've been knocked right back into a limbo of wonder. I texted (after she initiated contact) if she wanted to talk or if she was just being friendly. No response as of yet- it's a simple question- and this dangling is the worst type of waiting game. I feel like I'm the one who is waiting for her approval or rejection when she is the one who is contacting me- maybe that's how she wants it. I was ok before, and will be so again- just as soon as I know where I'm going...
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