What do I do if my ex keeps contacting me?
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Anonymous
August 8th, 2015 4:20am
It's okay to talk to them. Just keep the conversations short; fifteen minutes at the most. Sound happy and do not get personal. If they start to get personal just keep your distance and remain friendly but not intimate. Ex is short for excommunicated. You can be friendly without being you ex's friend.
The best way to deal with that would be to change your phone number, block their email address and all social media accounts. Your ex contacting you isn't good for your emotional health. If all else fails, it would be best to contact your local law enforcement agencies.
i think it all depends on what you want... In my case I like to stay friends with the people i've dated because they become someone I care for even if it cant be until a few months after the break up. Its hard for me to imagine that I would stop caring about someone i once loved. If its too hard to be friends after the break up I think you can be straight with them and let them know its not helping you to keep being in contact
Remain calm. It is always up to you whether you want to answer that email or phone call or text. It's ok to be polite and say you need space before getting in contact again, to let him or her know that it isn't a good time for you right now. If the message isn't being received and understood, you have the right to let him or her know that you are blocking communication for now and do so.
Ignore it,if it does not work the first time why go for it a second time,in other words I suggest to your change phone number.
Start by politely telling him or her you would like to stop having communication and state your reasoning, and eventually stop responding if he or she persists. Eventually the communication should stop.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 11:26pm
Decide whether you want to be with him or to break up definitively. If it is the second one,block him on all social media and on your phone.think well before.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 2:05pm
If you want them to stop contacting you, tell them so once very clearly, block them in every medium that will let you, then don't respond to any of their further attempts. If you respond after 1000 tries, that just teaches them that it takes 1000 tries to get you to answer. Tell your mutual friends not to pass along any messages. You may have to get a restraining order if your ex doesn't stop.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 12:51pm
No relationship should be deprived of compassion - But, do give them the clarity of where you stand with them, and you can't fulfill their expectations for certain reasons. Personally, I would try and keep things on a positive note. However, if they're abusive or irrational then you might decide to take a more firm action...
It can be very beneficial to find positive ways to keep your self busy such as hanging out with a friend, so you are not prone to respond; unless however you find that it's what you want. If it is of a bother to you, maybe try expressing that to your ex and tell them you'd prefer to be left alone. If it becomes so bothersome to the point of harassment, blocking the number maybe an option.
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2015 10:49pm
it depends how they are contacting you cause you can easily change your number and block them from any social media websites
The best thing to do is ignore it. You can block your ex on social media or if you're a apple user you can block their number so they can't contact you in any way. "Cancel out my ex, I put a line through that *" - Drake
It depends if it's children related or custodial contact them if not and you're not wanting to no longer contact ignore them change your number do not respond
firmly tell him to stop, and screenshot that message or record you saying that. if he continues, block and report his number. if he even contacts you even further, im afraid you have to bring the law into this, and don't forget to show your text/audio proof of your concern.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2015 1:43pm
It might be best to block your ex on social media sites and if they contact you by phone you can choose to ignore them or block their call but it really is your choice
You don't contact him back! It's the same as anything else, you don't want to encourage the bad behavior. They're your ex for a reason, remember that! Respect yourself and leave it alone. If it gets out of hand, you can tell them to stop, or just go to the authorities. But other than that, stay away.
Be sure to stand firm if this is not what you are wanting. The best thing you can do is to make yourself clear if you are not wanting to be contacted by this person. If the situation persists, you can always get authorities involved if it becomes worse. But stand firm in your decision and stay hopeful that it will not escalate. If it does, please contact your local authorities for further assistance in the matter.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 12:09pm
If it's unwanted communication i suggest you first say you do not wish to speak to him/her and then block the number or delete it. Or even rename their contact to "Do not answer"
Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 7:14am
If your ex keeps contacting you, for once just try not ignoring! When he / she will see you are not getting affected, they perhaps may stop contacting u! Try not giving the reaction they expect from you!
Depends, do u want him to contact you? If not then tell him to stop if it leeps up call police and block him on any social media and change numbers or watever the issue.
Change your number, block your ex's number or pick up and ask them to stop calling you. If they continue to do it report them to the police.
Anonymous
July 30th, 2015 9:08am
I would ask them to stop contacting me if they are being not friendly or respectful. Now if they are being nice and respectful listen to what they have to say.
Anonymous
July 29th, 2015 11:37pm
Tell him/her you have no desire to be in contact anymore, then block him/her if him/her don't stop.
Anonymous
July 28th, 2015 7:03pm
Kindly ask them to stop. There is a reason why you broke up. Make it very clear that you won't put up with it.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2015 9:20am
calmly and politely ask your ex to stop contacting you. Then block his contacts or just simply ignore his attempts.
If this continual contact becomes harassment you can file complaint orders or speak to an authoritative member of society for help. Loved ones should most probably also be informed, you shouldn't go this alone. However make sure it is clear between your Ex and you that you are not okay with this contact.
Sometimes relationships can be saved and sometimes they can't. If you and your ex are still respectful towards each other, I don't see why you shouldn't stay in contact sometimes. But if your ex continues to contact you and you don't want them to, I think it's important to ask yourself: What message am I sending to make them think I want to continue communicating with them. It's important that we set boundaries with the people in our lives.
WELL thats a hard one for one thing tellll then to stop if theyy keep doing it you might need to get some legal actions on your side for help because your ex might be cravy or just loves you to much
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2015 11:22pm
if asking him politely does not stop him, what i found most useful was to seek one of his friends for help, no one's friends wants to see that person making a fool of itself. what is most important is that you dont stop doing the things you like or going to the places you usually frequent because an ex is making you feel uncomfortable
You need to tell him to stay away, that you don't want to hear from him. Unfollow him on social medias, if necessary block him, the same with your phone
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