What do I do if my ex keeps contacting me?
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Possibly politely, this is a very unfriendly way. But it should be cut off early, there is no need to continue contact. For ex-boyfriends/girlfriends, many of us can't bear our hearts, and always have an illusion about our ex. In fact, the best way for us is to give up.
Another is to be a normal friend
This may be the best practice for some people. It is not impossible for an ex to become an ordinary friend. Just imagine, if your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend took the initiative to contact you, there must be something special. If there is nothing, people will not come to you. Be a good friend, help when you are in trouble, and chat when you have something.
If you do not want them to contact you anymore, it would be best to block their phone number and them on social media. If it continues, and they do not leave you alone, changing phone numbers and usernames can be helpful as well. I have dealt with this and I personally find that responding can cause conflict, whether with the person or internally about the situation, and that removing that from happening all together has been most helpful for me. If it becomes a larger issue, and they start reaching out even after changing your phone number, blocking, and social media information, I would then call it harassment. Getting others involved in this situation would be necessary.
Anonymous
April 24th, 2020 3:02pm
Has it been a while and they reached out? Do you still have feelings for them? If you still have feelings for this ex, I wouldn't respond (especially if they're texting you at like 2 am). If you don't want to be their friend, you shouldn't respond. The best course of action is to just not respond. Just ignore them and go text someone else. You may hurt in the moment, but you will feel better in the long run. If things get worse and this ex continues to make contact, tell them to stop that or you can just block them.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2018 11:08pm
Tell them to not contact you anymore and explain why. Depending on the severity and content of the messages, block them or report them to your organisation.
If you really want to move on then the only option is to block her/him on all social media and on phone messaging.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2017 4:20pm
What I did when my ex kept contacting me. I simply blocked his phone numer / any social media. Just banning someone out of your life might sometimes just make your life better especially if they hurt you.
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2017 6:29pm
If it is bothering you and keeping you from moving on, then I guess it is time to make your boundaries really clear to them. Tell them how you honestly feel and that you can't continue to stay in touch because it is not going to be healthy for you as well as your ex. If there is no other way they would stop, you might have to block them from all platforms. Remember the reason(s) why the relationship ended and stick to the decisions you made for your own good. Letting them interrupt your life will keep you from building yourself up and being independent again. So check with yourself again - what will be good for you? And then make sure you stick to it.
Anonymous
October 3rd, 2016 7:46pm
You should start by asking them nicely to stop contacting you and if that doesn't work then maybe you should just try and block them or if it gets really extreme call the cops
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2016 11:50am
You can 'block' him/her in ways such as social media. You could also remove the contacts that both of you save each other numbers
If you have moved on they need to know if taking doesn't get through to them although it may seem harsh it is as easy as anything to press the block button on them, no more messages
Block or delete them so they cannot contact you, there an ex for a reason. Moving forward in your life is best instead of holding onto the past,
No Contact. It's hard going cold turkey, but it's so worth it in the end. If your ex contacting you is preventing you from moving on, blocking them, whether on text or social media, will really help.
Anonymous
September 17th, 2016 9:00pm
If you arent fond of them contacting you, simply ask them to please stop and leave you alone. You shouldn't feel like you are put in a corner.
If your ex keeps contacting you ysoy can tell him to stop. If he doesnt stop block his number or fb or whatever he can talk to you on. Of he somehow keeps messenging you after all that you can go to the cops and they can do something because if hes/ shes gone through this much work theybare stalking you
It's possible they may still like you. Just explain to them you wish not to talk to them and block them.
Don't respond in anyway. Responding will only promote more contact. If necessary change your phone number, email, and any other contact information. Your friends will understand and it will be worth the effort.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2016 12:08am
I had this same issue. This girl is persistent. After telling her in person and through text not to contact me anymore, she would totally disregard and still keep going on. She actually said to block her #, but then make a fake # the following day to text me. This was a special case. I had to go to the police. While i was at the police station, she showed up at my house. Officers came and told her not to come back. I hope she finally got the hint since me saying it outright wasn't enough. I spent some time here with a listener about it. The listener really helped for me to at least get it off my chest and tell my story. The sad truth, is that this girl is 33 with 2 kids yet still acts like this. Can you imagine? Best of luck in your situation. I know it's not a picnic by any means.
If your ex keeps contacting you and contact is not something you want or need you have to cut that contact. If telling your ex does not work you'll have to block or remove the means of contact for it to happen. It can be healthy for both parties to be able to let go and deal with things. You can always resume contact in the future if you both feel it is appropriate.
It might seem harsh or difficult at the time, but you simply need to block communications with them.
I would recommend you blocking their number. If they continue to find ways to contact you, please contact the police. Good luck.
Anonymous
April 19th, 2016 5:34pm
You could try telling a trusted adult to help you out with this issue, or you can try telling him to stop contacting you if its making you feel uncomfortable or threatened.
Stop answering...not even a hello...block him or her/ change your number and don't look for that person again becouse if you do you have them hopes; and then thy don't leave.
This happened to me and there is honestly nothing wrong with deleting.blocking their number and from facebook or anything like that, if you decided thats what you want then you should go through with that decision.
Change your phone number. Block 'em on every site known to man. Gather evidence if they're harassing you. Then eat some popcorn or something.
Anonymous
February 11th, 2016 1:09am
Calmly explain to them that you do not wish to keep contact with them and ask them to stop messaging you. If that doesn't work, block their number so you don't receive the messages anymore.
If your past hurt or past love is there around you, then it's a sign of choosing something for you. You can either choose to say yes to the past Love or you can simply say No to the past hurt. However it all depends on the past conditions and the person you are now.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 11:59am
Never answer. Block them, change your number and just erase therefrom your life. People leave for a reason so they should stay gone.
Anonymous
February 6th, 2016 4:49pm
Tell them to stop stop calling and if they don't, then tell them you are going to call the police and if they keep calling you then call the police and report them or just block them on the phone.
Ask him to stop if he doesn't follow your request block all communications with him via text social media and or by phone.
Block them ,,,or file a restraining order...if neither works ,just move to a new place for a fresh start
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