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What can I talk about with my boyfriend on the phone?

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Last Updated: 08/15/2021 at 7:48pm
What can I talk about with my boyfriend on the phone?
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Anonymous
May 26th, 2018 9:13pm
You can talk about hobbies or interests. Get to know each other more and strengthen your bond! You can even make plans with each other.
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nikkigiveslove
May 30th, 2018 5:53pm
you can talk about many things. How your guys day went, about the future, goals, dreams, work/ school.
Anonymous
June 7th, 2018 7:09am
Anything that you are comfortable with. Only the sky is the limit, but remember that you don't have to talk about anything that makes you uncomfortable.
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Caitlyn7COT
June 8th, 2018 2:08pm
Anything and everything! Your day, their day - what went wrong, what went bad, and you'll quickly find that you'll be strengthening your bond with each other through supporting one another.
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FakzWift
June 14th, 2018 2:44pm
I would say if it's your boyfriend you can talk about literally anything. He is supposed to be the one you trust and love the most after all.
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calmingNight81
June 15th, 2018 11:21pm
Possibly discuss your hopes and fears about the future with him. For example what you both want to achieve, your goals, and maybe even your fears. This will help you both to get to know each other much more intimately and might give you some insight into his behavior or habits.
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ElaineSaysHello
June 16th, 2018 5:39am
You don't need to have a deep conversation all the time. Small talk, no matter what, just the sound of your voice can be consoling to your partner and vice versa. Sometimes a simple "how's your day?" or morning/night greeting works wonders. :)
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scalenejaelyn
June 24th, 2018 7:44pm
goals/plans for the future, conspiracy theories you heard/read about, share your favorite song at the moment
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blueVase149
June 29th, 2018 7:38am
Everything?! From what happened in your life today to what he did with his time. From his interests to yours and right down to all the things you would like to do with him right now if you were alone in the same room :)
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Kempokarate12
July 4th, 2018 5:10am
The wonderful thing about phones is that they help connect people who can't be physically together. You should be able to say the same thing on the phone as you would in person. If it's something you are comfortable discussing with your significant other it shouldn't matter whether you do it face-to-face or through a device.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2018 8:45pm
Just be completely normal. your boyfriend loves the way you are no matter how silly you think you are or weird he likes you for just being yourself so talk to him about anything that comes to your mind.laugh together,share memories and goals in life and try to be positive in your relationship and if there's any thing that worries you don't doubt to tell him cause he will care
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iman2002
July 12th, 2018 11:30am
About how well my day went. How much I love him. I'll motivate him. Discuss about serious things. Share something I can not with someone else. Laugh on stupid stuff. Take advices. Give advices. Share problems. Giving love all the way.
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Rotem
November 19th, 2019 1:40pm
I spent hours during the army speaking with my boyfriend over the phone. We both were located in different bases very far away from each other and every time we had the chance to talk on the phone we would use it. There are many things to talk about and only sometimes there's an awkward silence. But it can always be filled with an ice breaker or a story. As we grow and experience things we always have something to talk about. Talk about your favorite music - if you been to concerts or festivals, talk about traveling about dreams and goals that you have. Ask silly questions, ask anything.
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Wildjay786
January 11th, 2020 2:53pm
You could talk about your day ask him about his day fantasize what would you have done if you were with him talk about your studies friends and family or work or colleagues there are so many things to talk about you guys could tease each other and theres much more to it. just romance isnt the goal of a relations its to enjoy your time help each other in times of desperation and being available to each other when no one else is listening to each other understand each other make plans laugh together if you want something more you can ask me directly.
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GoldenFury13
January 22nd, 2020 7:34pm
If you are finding it hard to keep a steady conversation with your partner you should try asking stuff about them, even the most basic of questions. Stuff like what is your favorite animal or where do you want to do when you are older. You could ask deeper things like what is the most peer pressured you have ever been or what are you looking for in life, family, kids, pets, etc. Make sure that he is asking about you, you don't want to be following a trail that has long gone dry. If he isn't curious about you he probably isn't worth it.
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Unicornell
January 23rd, 2020 1:08pm
I mean it depends if you guys want to learn more about each other you can always ask each o t h e r questions if you are big fans of music you can talk about your favorite types of music and movies and even talk about what lies in the future if you guys have been together for a long time and even ask him what he would like to talk about so he has some say in the conversation too it's always good to start off with some nice small talk but not too much small talk (:
Anonymous
February 14th, 2020 2:33pm
I can understand why you’re asking this. My boyfriend and I also have trouble starting conversations. Sometimes the best conversations can be from simply getting to know each other, no matter how long you’ve been in the relationship. By asking each other questions about the other person can really help get to know your s.o. Another tip is try bringing up some past experiences or stories you feel comfortable enough sharing. That can also really help strengthen your bond. You could also talk about how your day was and talk about how you feel. Depending on the situation, you might need to tweak these tips a little bit to apply to your relationship.
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Endlessdreemer
February 20th, 2020 10:01pm
Ask him to tell you about his day. Bring up current things going on in either of your lives: new job, class, family situation, etc. Get to know him on a deeper level. For example, what his dreams are; areas he wants to improve on; what he wants out of life; your family dynamics; what kind of marriage or long term relationship you want. If all else fails, maybe pop culture: latest or best movie, politics, music, etc. in addition you can chat about your dream vacations, your future goals together or separately. Phone sex can also be exciting.
Anonymous
February 21st, 2020 8:52pm
You can talk about how your day went, how his day went, ask each other what you did today, ask each other how you’re feeling and how you can support them and be there for them. You could talk about what you both have planned for the week ahead or maybe even the weekend if it’s a Friday, ask each other out on dates, talk about things that make you both happy, tell each other the goals you reached this week, you can invite each other out to plans if you aren’t busy, make each other feel wanted, loved and cared for. There’s so much you can talk about.
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herealways27
March 6th, 2020 7:02am
It sounds like you are running out of topics to discuss with your boyfriend on the phone. I think a topic that can work everyday is to ask how his day was and share about your day to him. If you can, don’t try to keep it short. You might want to get closer to him by digging deeper into what happened and how you felt about them. Usually, from one thing that happened during a day, you can always relate it to other stories in the past that you can think of. By doing this, he can get to understand more about your current and past experience, and that should also take up a lot of time talking with your boyfriend too!
Anonymous
March 26th, 2020 5:01am
Talk about things that interest both of you or use the phone conversation as a way to connect on a deeper level. There are a lot of resources online for sparking conversation. Psychology Today has a great article called "36 Questions to Bring You Closer Together" which has a lot of these. By doing these on a night when you feel you have little to chat about, you will be able to learn more about yourself as well as each other. There are also similar ones throughout the web that can give you more prompts for talking, but just having conversations about what interests the both of you have is a great start.
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Lynzdeedee
March 29th, 2020 2:36pm
You can talk about anything really. How your day has been and ask how his day is going. You can talk about how the relationship is going and things you both like about it and things you'd like to change. Understand each other and how your both feeling. It is important to both check in with each other and make sure your both still getting what you want from the relationship. You can plan days that you want to see each other on and days out together having planned fun activities with each other. It's best to be open and honest with each other at all times.
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GuardianRose12
April 4th, 2020 11:08pm
Great question, The fun about talking to your partner on the phone you can both can talk about what ever you want to really, start of asking how is day is and if he got any plans for the rest of the day, what activities you both like to do together and maybe set a date up that you can both meet up, Ask your boyfriend what his favourite things are ie colour, favourite food, best TV show and find out why just really get to know him better, Tell him how you have been feeling that day and what you been up to that day
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circusmirror123
April 8th, 2020 6:26pm
You can talk about anything you want to talk about! A good way to start is talking about how your day was, how you're feeling and what you got up to today, or maybe what you're planning to do today! You can also talk about the last time you two were together, or the last time you spoke. Another thing you could talk about is your goals or aims, so what you want to achieve or something you think would be cool if you could do. It's also super cool if you guys do something together on the phone, like watching the same thing on Netflix!
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Ssolis97
April 25th, 2020 5:02pm
You can ask him how his day is going, if he has eaten, or if he slept right, what’s his plans for the day. Try to connect with him and make him feel like you care. Ask him things you don’t yet know about him try to learn something new about him. Ask what are his favorite hobbies or activities he’s interested in doing on a daily bases. Ask him if he has time to spend time with you. You can talk about the good memories of y’all’s relationship and try to laugh with him. Who doesn’t like a bit of a laugh, right!
Anonymous
May 21st, 2020 11:11am
You could start with simple things such as 'how was your day today?'. Listen to their answers, and engage in the conversation as much as possible. From there, I think that the conversation should flow on it's own. As the conversation goes on, you could talk about all the things you enjoy, and ask them what they think. This was, you can find out more about their likes and dislikes while keeping the conversation light. Relationships take time and effort, so do not rush anything. Just do what feels right for you, and trust the rest to fall in place on it's own.
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supportall15
May 29th, 2020 3:07am
Hi, I understand coming up with conversations is super difficult in any situation with anybody. But thankfully, there are so many topics you could talk about, the most important thing to remember is to let it flow, a forced conversation is the worst! My best friend has the same exact problem with her boyfriend while I naturally have really good conversations with him. Some tips are too just start with small talk and expand from there, unless you’re extremely comfortable discussing, stay away from religion and politics because those are such controversial and tricky subjects. Your day, likes/dislikes, pop culture, school, and being a little flirty are just a few ideas of what you could talk about.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2020 8:49am
That is a question many of us ask ourselves and others a lot. What could we talk about on a phone call with our partner? Texting or hanging out with them seems pretty easy, but being on the phone with them could always feel uncomfortable and sometimes it is pretty awkward. The answer is; whatever you want to talk about. You could talk about your day, your interests, and even the events happening around us. Most of the times, you would start by catching up on things, and probably end up discussing BLM, or COVID-19 breakout. You could always talk about your interests, e.g. astrology, music, history, and poetry even! Each topic would lead you to another, and you could end up on the phone with them for hours long! The start is always tricky and awkward, but once you've launched your topic everything would sort itself into place.
Anonymous
June 18th, 2020 2:21pm
You can talk with your boyfriend about anything that makes you comfortable and happy. This can be casual and relaxing chit chat, or making plans for the future or if nobody is overhearing the conversation it can be anything on the romantic spectrum. You can still show love over the phone, and still keep each other company. Sometimes it can be awkward to talk on the phone instead of in person or text but there's plenty of things that you can talk about to get to know each other better or to show that you love each other. Good luck!
Anonymous
June 18th, 2020 7:01pm
We usually talk about the most random things like movies or what happened during our days. We also talk about what we'd do when we see each other. Just a lot of random topics. It's also nice to watch shows together. It gives you more stuff to talk about. And if you want, you could do phone s*x. But that just depends on whether or not you are comfortable with that. You can also pray together. Or watch anime together!!