Should I tell my boyfriend that I cheated?

If you love him and respect him, yes. Honesty is always best. You must be willing to accept the consequences. You may even gain respect for your honesty.

Yes I think that people should its like one way when ur kissing me he would be kissing him. Just saying but so overall yes.

This will hurt him immensely, but it is good for you as well as your boyfriend in the long run of life.

Yes. Having no honesty between your partner doesn't lead to a lasting relationship and often end up in conflicts.

Ya Cause A)You knew twas wrong but did it anyway B) It's selfish to hide from him & pretend it's ok.

trust is the biggest part of a relationship, and the guilt from the fact you cheated could cause alot of mental damage that will need releasing sooner because later it will not lead to good places, everyone should be honest with everyone in their lifes, if it ends terribly then theres a lesson learnt but we shouldn't deny anyone the truth.

the question here is do you care about your relationship enough...do you regret it , if you do then being honest about about it may ease you up

You should. He deserves to know the truth. And he deserves to decide. If you regret what you did, apologize and make sure he knows. Tell him why you cheated. Tell him what you truly feel. Save him from the heartache. Let him decide. If he loves you, you know from his actions. But if he really loves you and you cheated. Youd never find another like him. Love him, and dont leave him. Think if you really love him what if he cheated on you.

you should let him know, and also let him know why you did it. we sometimes think the truth will hurt but it is the lies that hurt more. if you cheated with no reason then maybe you need to ask yourself why, but I strongly believe whoever you cheated upon, has the right to know. this might sound hash or too modest, but all relationships are built on trust and loyalty. so whatever was the reason as to why you cheated, you should be able to discuss it with your boyfriend because he has the right to know about it.

Yes. Don't keep it a lie, it'll only make it worse. Bring it up gently. Tell him the reasoning behind it. And just hope for the best. Cheating can be hard to take in, so just try and remain calm about it. Try to tell them in person, because over text or phone is harder to take in. Be alone when you mention it. There may be a fight. But remain calm, that is the best you can really do. Don't yell, don't hide it. Keeping it a secret only makes it worse. Tell him directly. If there is anything else, please lemme know

Yes, honesty is the best way forward. It may come out eventually and the backlash and downfall will be even worse than what it would have even if you were just honest in the first place. If you discuss this with your boyfriend now you still have a chance at repairing the relationship and working on your problems together. You should also ask yourself, what brought you to cheating in the first place? You must have an area of unhappiness or unfulfilling aspects of your relationship that has led you to seek happiness else where. Have a good long think about it and I hope you resolve things soon x

Yes. The longer you go without telling him the harder it will be for the both of you. With these types of things there is always a level of guilt that sets in, holding that to yourself really just brings forward a more toxic relationship moving forward. The longer you wait the messier it gets in the long term. Sometimes we make mistakes, easier to admit them and try to move on with or without each other than living in a relationship holding a big burden like this. Its neither healthy on the pair of you or even yourself.

Honesty is one of the key parts of a relationship. Also, being able to confess your mistakes is a key part of strength. If you’re honest, at least you’re not hiding anything anymore. Your boyfriend will be hurt, of course, but if he really loves you that much, he will forgive you and mercifully give you a second chance. It will hurt him worse to let him find out on his own, rather than continue keeping it secreted from him. Honesty is an attractive quality and an admirable strength. If he loves you that much, he will see it in you.

If you feel you are ready to handle any consequences, then go for it! You will have to prepare yourself with anything that can possibly happen when bringing up something like that. I suggest taking the time writing out what you want to say and work your way up with bringing it up with him to help you better get your important info and point across. Carrying the weight of some secrets can be daunting on your shoulders and wellness. I hope you find this helpful and I hope everything goes well between both of you!!!

If you want a honest relationship i think you should. Would it be a honest relationship anymore if you lied or didn't tell? Do you want to have the pressure and stress to hide it for as long as your relationship will last? Is it worth to start stressing about every day? Most often it isn't, as it takes so much out of your daily energy you won't be able to do anywhere near the things you normally do, because you use all your energy on worrying. Also how would you feel like if he didn't tell about cheating to you? Wouldn't it be upsetting? Treat your close ones like you want to be treated. If you're fine with him lying about similar stuff, sure, keep it a secret. But if you're not fine, why would you put him trough something similar you wouldn't want to go through?

yes , you should. it is unfair to your boyfriend if you keep on lying to him. you really want what is best for him. however, his reaction might not be positive as he will be going through several emotions such as pain, sadness, and betrayal. it might be the end to your relationship with him , but you did what is right by telling him the truth that he deserves. it is important for you to tell him the reason why you did it. in addition, make sure to be as kind and sweet as possible since he must’ve had enough on his plate already.

Yes.

Honesty is one of the building foundation for a relationship. It's also the key reason why there's an increase in trust issues and so many fall outs. If you really think that he's the one and you want to continue the relationship it's important that you remain honest. People make mistakes and there comes a time when we realize how wrong we were. If something like that was done to you, how would you want him to react? Would you want him to be honest and tell you about what he did? Place yourself in his shoes that should help you to analyze the situation. If you think it's not working out tell him that too. There's no point in staying in a relationship where true love doesn't exist. Both of deserve better. After all it's better to hurt someone with the truth than comfort with a lie. I hope that helps you reach some clarity.

I think honesty is what makes a relationship move forward. Hiding infidelity is in no way beneficial to the growth of a relationship or the individuals involved. Although cheating can end a relationship, it'll be a lot worse if it is hidden because it will be like living a lie and can lead ti a build up of resentment. Coming clean may not be easy, but it's better than hiding. If you are the victim in the relationship, you'll want to know if your partner is unfaithful. Being kept in the dark and finding out by yourself can be very painful. Save your boyfriend that pain and come clean.

I believe this is a double edge question. On one hand you have to tell just in case you feel guilt and for karmic reasons as I am sure you would not want someone to do the same to you. On the other hand, we have to decipher the true reasoning behind the cheating. Was it out of unhappiness, neglect, abuse, there are so many variables that have to be decided in order to give an answer. But, I am a firm believer in karma and believe that there are many ways to end something versus going to the extreme.

What do you think you should do? What do you chose to be the right answer? You could choose either way and have multiple different outcomes. Think about what the right thing to do to you is. Whatever you chose know it was what you wanted. If you have doubts you can always take time to deal with them however think of your situation as someone elses what would you tell them to do. What do you think is the right choice. It is completely up to you what happens. Whatever you do know your in control and that it was what you wanted to do. Be your own person.

Yes! Being open and honest shows integrity, and that is something everybody in the world needs to be. Even though admitting to a mistake can be difficult, it's a choice you have to make not only for him but your self as well. He deserves to know the truth even if it may hurt. Think about how you would feel in a situation like this if the tables were reversed. Always remember the golden rule. "Treat others how you want to be treated". Besides, maybe you should think about the reason you cheated in the first place. Maybe your boyfriend just isn't the right one for you.

Loving someone means you're willing to be completely honest and open with them because the love you both have for each other won't change a thing just because of a mistake. It may or may not even be your fault in a situation like this, at the end of the day you'll probably feel guilty that it happened and you'll need support from your boyfriend to help you cope with the emotions. I haven't walked a day in your shoes so I can't tell you what to do, Although I do trust that you have an understanding boyfriend and that I'm always here to listen.

This is your decision and your decision only. However, there are some things that you should consider. 1) if you were cheated on would you like to know it? 2) if you don't tell him, it will be on you to carry the burned of hiding something. Being honest can be difficult but honesty is also the foundation of a great relationship. Many couples go through cheating and they become stronger after that. In any case, whatever you decide to do, you'll learn something about yourself. Everybody does mistakes, sometimes they can leave us huge scars, but in this case you have the opportunity to improve the relationship with yourself.

Always put yourself in his position. Would you have wanted to know if your boyfriend had cheated on you. It's not my place to advice you on how to go about your life but always think from the other person's perspective. Respect your boyfriend as an individual and as a human being you loved or used to love. It's also okay if you don't want to tell him because you're guilty or just because you are afraid of his reaction. You entitled to your own feelings and that's completely fine. You are the best judge of your own choices and decisions.

Yes! Lying to him or keeping the secret is much worse than just being honest with him! It could even make you feel better if you tell him! If he finds out some other way than by you it would hurt him worse than if you just tell him! He maybe mad but you need to tell him! You shouldn’t be cheating in the first place but you should still tell him! If you need any help or just someone to vent to I am here for you! I would be more than happy to help you! 😀 ~ Makaylahelps3550

You should tell your boyfriend that you cheated, it's only fair to him and yourself. Honesty and communication is the most important in a relationship. If you want to continue on your relationship with your boyfriend he deserves the truth, and you shouldn't avoid it. Don't beat yourself up for it though, we all make mistakes but we forgive those we truly love and care for in whatever they do. Don't repeat those same mistakes, and learn how to forgive and accept yourself. If this continues to bother you, it's best you tell your boyfriend and talk about it and decide from there where you want the relationship to go together.

I do believe sometimes somethings are better left unsaid, like maybe you have a small crush ,but not something as big of a deal like cheating. You should tell him even though it’s hard to. I mean you’d want to know if he cheated, right? It will suck but it’s for the best. It’ll be good for him and you. You will feel as though a weight was lifted off your shoulders and have a clear conscience. He deserves to know this. If it was a one time thing just tell him it was a mistake and you want to move past it and will never do that again.

Absolutely should tell them. It can either be a mistake that the two of you work through together or you let it fester until it becomes an infection that poisons the relationship. In my own experience I was forced into the 2nd outcome and then manipulated and lied to further as if I was insane for my suspicions etc. There was no future for that relationship because of how much damage the endless lying had done. I can't describe the pain and misery I went through and most days I am doing everything I can not to let people notice my heart is broken and I've got no will to live. If you truly want to be with him, tell him the truth now. Before it's too late...

Trust is extremely important in any relationship. You might think that nobody will ever know but the truth has the ability of making itself known. It might be better in the long run if you tell your boyfriend now. Personally, I don't think you should cheat but considering that you did this is something that you should talk to your boyfriend about. It's a big deal and it's better if he hears it from you than from someone else. That could potentially make it worse for everyone involved. By telling him directly, you still have the chance to make sure he understands your side and have the best chance of continuing your relationship after this.