Should I tell my boyfriend that I cheated?

Yes, as much as it hurts, you need to. Truth and honesty strengthens relationships, forgiveness is tough but earned. If you don't tell him, and he finds out, then it's over. If you tell him and you beg for his forgiveness, and want to prove yourself, then he should give you a chance at least.

No one on this site will know all the ins and outs of your relationship. The fact that you came here suggests you are unsure about the morality of the situation; perhaps you are stuck between keeping him in a state of blissful ignorance and being afraid of what he will do when he finds out. Perhaps you are delaying the inevitable and you feel guilty. In cases such as these, general advice is the best anyone can do. Relationships require open communication and trust to function. If you feel that you have done something to compromise that trust, it may cause a rift that can potentially end the relationship. Ultimately it is up to you to make this decision, and delaying the decision only prolongs your moral conundrum.

Keeping it to yourself may prolong your own stress as the guilt could way heavily on your conscience. The longer you leave it the harder it will become to tell your partner and will ultimately completely ruin the trust built between you. It's better you get it done with and try and discuss both of your feelings. Even though I do believe this, don't push yourself into it- find the right situation in a comfortable area to tell him, make sure you're both ready to hear the truth and make sure if he needs it, you give him space, for the best.

Definitely. If you don't then it'll hurt him even more if he finds out from someone else. But if you tell him, sure, he might be sad and mad at you for cheating, but if you don't, he'll be sad and mad at you for cheating AND lying to him.

Yes you should. It shows that you care enough to admit your mistakes and are willing to work it out. If you keep it a secret and he finds out he will probably never trust you again.

I believe you should tell him. Relationships are about trust and honesty so if telling him that you cheated may hurt but he honesty is ill surely be appreciated in the long run.

I understand you probably feel scared or confused at this moment, but take a break and focus on you for at least an hour and at the end come to your decision. Sometimes its best to look at your situation with a clear mind.

Honesty and trust is very important in a relationship, if you respect your partner yes I think you should tell him what you've done, then it will be up to him to forgive you or not.

While being open and honest might seem like the right thing to do, the decision you make should really be based on what you can live with," says Jane Greer, Ph.D., a New York-based marriage and sex therapist and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship. "The ideal situation is that you're honest with your partner about being unfaithful and you work through the issue together,” she says. "But for a lot of different reasons, it doesn't always work out that way." If you cheat—whether it was a one-night stand or a fling that ended—and you realize how important your relationship is and promise to yourself that it will never happen again, Greer says that you don't have to necessarily share it with your S.O. If you know your partner will be unforgiving, and that coming clean will destroy the relationship, it might be better to keep your guilt to yourself. Despite not being honest with your partner, she says that it is possible to grow from your mistake and make an effort to not take your bond for granted. That being said, Greer thinks you absolutely should tell your partner if he catches you (otherwise you're going to make him feel like an idiot) or if you feel that being honest is more true to your character and is worth risking a relationship for.

It's completely your decision it is good if you don't want to live with this heavy heart obviously it will hurt him but you can't keep him in dark he has right to know maybe he'll not forgive you hurt you back but you can't run away you have to face it. Just take some courage and tell him why did you do that. It is your fault and your mistake you have to apologise to him. If you feel sorry for him just tell him. So that you don't have to regret that what if I have told him. Just do what you seems right for both of you

Short answer yes. If you are with your boyfriend for all the right reasons then there should be no reason not to tell him. Same works for the opposite gender.

Yes, I think it’s good to be honest with him. Carrying this around inside yourself can cause many unpleasant feelings and while telling him the truth may also bring hard to deal with feelings, it’s a good first step in the healing process for you both. It may hurt him to know the truth but I think it’s important for him to know, especially if you are wanting to continue to have a relationship with him. If he had been the one to cheat would you want to know? And if you found out from someone other than him how would that make you feel? These are important things to think about while you contemplate telling him.

Yes , it will hurt but you will find peace ... If love is true then you can both over come this , justify your actions and be honest .. he is worth it

I think you should. Because in a relationship, trust and honesty comes first. And if you really loved him you wouldn't do it again :)

I think you should tell him, for a relationship to work out well, truth and honesty are very important. No doubt, it would be very hard for him to hear this and for you to speak this at first, but hiding it won't make it better either, you would always be living with the fear and guilt of you cheating on him, it can create stress on you which can further worsen your relationship and also if at any time later he comes to know of this, it'll all become worse. It's always best to tell the truth, I've experienced it, it seems hard at first, the fear covers you, but afterwards things only better, biggest of all is that even you yourselves do get rid of the secret lie. Thanks! These were my thoughts, I hope they'll provide some help : )

I think that u should. It might make him upset, but he will be thanful that u told him instead of others

I feel you should definitely tell your boyfriend that you cheated. Transparency is the key in any relationship.

Yes, don't let him find out by himself, you owe him that. Unless you want to leave him, in which case you shouldn't add to his pain for no reason.

Ideally speaking yes, but when and how is critical. You are the best judge! You are the best judge of whether to tell or not as well, as you know your situation and how your boyfriend will react. If your conscience is pricking you constantly and you prefer a clear mind rather than worry about the consequences then go and tell him by all means. If you think that he will not be able to handle truth well and if you hide it, everything will be great in the relationship and at the same time you will be able to forgive yourself and not repeat it, then you might think of not telling him. I very strongly believe that a strong and long lasting relationship is always based on honesty and mutual trust & respect. All the best!

Depends on the circumstances and who you are as a person as well as who both of you are as a couple. I don't know what happened but as you have already allowed yourself to cheat I would assume that the relationship is over or dying off slowly so I would suggest to tell him and to break it off instead of potentially hurting him (even more).

The decision to tell someone about cheating is a personal one, and one that I can't make for you. But I can share a story about the time I cheated and chose to tell my partner about it: I had been with my girlfriend for almost two years. Things had gone really well for us. But then I went into a depressive episode. My relationship with my girlfriend was okay, but I felt extremely numb, disconnected from my loved ones, and like nothing mattered anymore. To make a long story short, I ended up cheating on my girlfriend with another girl I met in a class I had at college. The guilt that I felt afterwards was extremely intense. I debated for a long time about whether I should say something, as it had only been a one-time occurrence. I was afraid of losing her. Eventually, I decided to tell my girlfriend the truth, because I felt she deserved to know the truth, even if it meant we broke up. Over time, she decided to forgive me and that she wanted to work things out. I went to therapy and made an effort to address the reasons behind why I chose to cheat. We've now been together for just over three years. I can't guarantee that you'll get the outcome you want, but I can say that the truth truly does set you free. Always remember that you aren't your mistakes. Change is possible. Love always, A friend :)

No, you should not if this was just a sexual incident with no further consequences but a guilty consciousness. Yes, if this was an act of love or affection, for it will have dire consequences, if you subdue such feelings. Morale has nothing to do with sex, but a lot with love. Your boyfriend has a right to know, if you do not love him any more for we have a stark responsibility for those who love us and as a consequence we must protect them from all harm. Even from harm that we may or may not inflict on them. Make up your mind about this incident and try to find out whether it has been sexual desire or affection that let you commit. Much love to you sister.

This is a question I hear a lot. If you cheated on your boyfriend, you should absolutely tell him. If you don't tell him, he will probably find out from someone else, and that will be even worse. Telling him yourself shows that you realize that what you did was wrong, that you are genuinely sorry about it, and that you are willing to talk things out to find out how your relationship will go from there. It is super important that you tell him as soon as possible, so you can both work through any problems or concerns, and develop trust again.

It depends on your motive. If you are only telling him so you can soothe your guilt, that you should not. You are just trying to make yourself feel better, other than doing what is best for him. If you are genuinely trying to do the right thing, then you have to decide whether telling him the trust will do more good than harm. Some white lies could be very helpful for the relationship. Nevertheless, it also depends on whether you still want to maintain the relationship. By telling him, it might lead to ending your relationship with him.

One needs to think and ask themself if your own subconscious mind is not liking the fact that you are cheating or you dont want to cheat because you have a boyfriend? What makes you most afraid? You conscience or the principles you are obliged to follow by the society?! You need to ask yourself what is important to you and there lies your answer!

If it was me, i would because trust is key to a relationship. So for you to tell him that is something big because most people wouldnt tell there partner they did.

It depends. Questions to ask yourself: Are you telling him to hurt him or make him jealous? Are you telling him to provoke him so that he'll get revenge on the person you cheated with? Are you telling him for constructive reasons? Do you feel a strong moral obligation to tell him? The motive for telling him is very important.

Yes, you can't keep this and think about that every day, let him move forward and make his own opinion. He could took the news really good, see that you regret maybe. Or he will simply move on and start something new, but it's important to not hide this. You will hurt yourself mentally and emotionally

Ya Cause A)You knew twas wrong but did it anyway B) It's selfish to hide from him & pretend it's ok.

If you love him and respect him, yes. Honesty is always best. You must be willing to accept the consequences. You may even gain respect for your honesty.