Is it still worth trying if he/she broke up with me several times?
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Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 5:14pm
It depends . If he/she broke up with you for pathetic reasons and broken your heart many times it’s probably not worth it as you may just end up broken again in the end .
Not in my opinion.
If the relationship ended several times and it still didn't work out then that's saying that something is wrong. If you yourself still want to pursue he/she then go for it! But remember what happened previously.
If it is a negative experience for you, I believe it is not. But you are the best judge of you. You know you better and you know that person better and you know the situation better. Follow your heart and a path of positivity.
Anonymous
April 12th, 2018 3:52am
If the things get better once you get back together, it's fine. Because that means you're improving your relationship and you are making good changes. If things are still the same and you are having the same problems for the ones you broke up, then it's not a healthy relationship because you are doing the same things and just hoping not to break up.
With a relationship that is on and off on several occasions, it would be best to discern why this keeps happening. Are they the same reasons? Are problems not being fixed? Also, trying to understand why your partner is doing this rather than working things out is a key. Are they insecure and afraid? Are they using this as a scare tactic to get out of trouble with you? These things can only be answered by you and should be examined before you make a choice. Remember, if you aren't sure because you have many feelings, ask yourself "If my best friend was in this situation, what would I tell them?"
Honestly no because if the person has already broken your heart one to many times they are going to keep doing it...
Anonymous
April 15th, 2018 6:04pm
No. Clearly there is something lacking between you two, something that isn't clicking or you just have different personalities
I've broken up with people several times before. I did it because I was confused about my feelings and didn't feel that the other person did enough to keep me which made me feel unwanted almost. If you want to keep the relationship going then you need to ask what the reason is for the multiple break ups, try to be completely honest about your feelings and what could possibly be going wrong. Just remember to respect yourself and try and get a realistic view on it, sometimes it's better to rip the band-aid off, let go and move on to save yourself from a prolonged struggle. Most importantly, I guess it all depends on the individual case and it's up to you 100% to decide what you do next.
Anonymous
April 19th, 2018 2:37am
I would ask myself if it's always the same reason? I think that's a think to consider. It depends really. You know best. Maybe you can talk about it with a listener to make you feel more clear about the situation.
Anonymous
April 24th, 2018 8:15pm
In my opinion it isn't but that's a decision you'll have to make on your own. Do you really want to put yourself through that again?
this is what i myself am going through and its suckssss but what i did was i talked to him like a deep conversation stating what we want outta the relationship if it will be different. and just went from there
Anonymous
April 29th, 2018 6:39am
Depends on what reasons you guys had for the breakup. If it was an on off dating kind of thing get closure from her and ask yourself if you love her enough to try one more time. If you don't think your feelings are strong or if your reasons for break ups were quite bad, I suggest moving on.
It has been my experience with on/off again relationships that they're never really going to be stable. The broken nature of the relationship is often because one or more of the people involved aren't invested in the relationship. Why keep going back to someone you know is going to keep breaking your heart?
Anonymous
May 12th, 2018 8:13am
Depending on how it ended each time. Whether it was ugly or relatively mutual. Maybe if it has happened several times, it may be best to try and see how life without them would be
Probably not. As much as you may hate it, you can't force someone to love you. Just know that there are plenty of people out there that will love you as much as you love them. Don't waste your time waiting for something that will never happen. You deserve to be happy.
Every situation is different and I.T is important to look at the reasons why this consistently happens. I can't imagine that the relationship is super healthy if the break ups are consistent. I.T may be best to give yourself some space and listen to your gut.
Anonymous
June 21st, 2018 4:15am
In my opinion, it is not worth trying. The fact that they broke up with you several times is proof enough that they do not appreciate you and take you for granted, and chances of them breaking up with you again are high.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2018 5:56am
First of all, to know if it worth trying or not, well try to remember what are some of the reasons used for breakups?
In my opinion, if the breakups often happen between you two for the silliest reason 😂 then you might consider to put a full stop there.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2018 3:45pm
A good place to start when this question arises is to ask "why did he/she break up with me so many times?". Both people usually contribute to conflict in a relationship but sometimes the other person is just not in the right mindset to be able to love us the way we deserve to be loved. If you find that you were the main reason for the break up, focus on fixing those aspects before you try to make the relationship work. However if his/her reasons for the break up are related to them alone and it is not within your control, perhaps it is best to be thankful for the good times but to ultimately let go of them. Do what is best for your heart, and stay true to the needs of your soul. I wish you all the best xx
No. You deserve better and shouldn't keep going through that. They obviously don't appreciate you. You will find someone much better ^^
I'm going to be very bias here and very "me" and maybe even ubprofessional... but no! It is not worth trying again. Beside my own experiences, there have been hundreds of other relationships that struggles and struggle simply because there is an ignoring of what really needs to be done that would be absolutely best for both people involved. Yes, it feels romantic that whole "try and try and try again" but think about what everything is actually telling you. What your PARTNER is telling you. Believe them when they say they "don't know anymore" or anything that indicates they're not really there for you anymore. You know what's romantic? Ease. Happiness. Togetherness. Being on the same wavelength. Etc. And, yes... it is absolutely exists outside of the relationship you're in right now as hard as may be to fathom. Give your effort to someone who wants it... and who wants to give it to you, too.
There is a limit for everything, If he/she doesn't respect you now will be for the future. Next time it happens walk away.
Ask yourself if they respect you or not and if you trust them or not. A healthy relationship has both respect and trust. This is the answer to "is it still worth it". If both are yes then it is, if not then decide on what is the best to do.
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2018 8:50am
If he/she broke up with you many times then no because there are so many more people out there and you deserve the best
Anonymous
August 22nd, 2018 8:37pm
If that person has broke up with you so many times to the point where you have to question your relationship, it’s not worth it. You shouldn’t have to keep going back to a ‘toxic’ relationship if that person is just going to break your heart again. Breakups can cause so many different issues like metal health such as depression. It really depends on the situation, if he/she is going through a rough time themselves, you should give them a little time to sort themselves out before they can sort anything else out. Fixing yourself is 100% key.
In my opinion, if they break your heart the second time, don't give them any other chances. 1) If they broke up with you several times, that shows they don't value you for who you are. 2) Don't give yourself away to them, especially if you see they don't care as much as you do for them. Don't let anyone take advantage of you and ruin your happiness and peace. If someone approaches you and loves you for you, they will learn to display it in a way that delights you. They'll learn to find your likes of affection.
I don't think it's worth it cause usually the same thing that makes he/she break up with you countless times will be the reason why you will keep on breaking up especially if that thing is not fixed. When we break up from a relationship we often remember the best part of the relationship and we start missing them therefore the urge to want to go back to that person. Once we act on it and go back to the last person we then realize the things we couldn't stand that made us leave the relationship in the first place and we break it off again. The cycle keeps going until the other party is really left damaged. When you break up with someone if you try it again if you must and it doesn't work out its always best to move on.
well its worth it if you are good at keep trying. if it happened so many times and still you are together that means there is something special. with time this special feeling goes away. if you really feel loved then keep trying until you marry else stop right away, as it would be more painful later. Its just that its okay to breakup and patchup but you should know the value of the person you are doing it for.
just remember being patient is the solution. be patient and calm and try to live your life up to the day. if you feel happy amogst yourself ull be happy no matter what.
it depends on what he/she is doing that, if there is a very big and good reason, perhaps it is worth trying. otherwise no. you must always know that you are so valuable and you are not meant to be played with. always fight for something that you love and care for. but never degrade yourself. always know you value, your worth and let nothing and no one to make you feel unworthy. and even if you found one big reason for his/her doing. try to solve it out, still dont accept to breakup everyday, because it will make your heart suffer.
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