How do you deal with the temptation to contact your ex?

they're your ex for a reason. remember that. people don't usually change & it's most likely for the best if you don't talk to them or see them anymore. maybe try cutting them off entirely? deleting messages, unfollow & block them, get rid of things that remind you of them etc. at the end of the day, you know yourself best.

To be honest not very well. Many times I still want to be friends, because usually I still care about the person. Unless the split was very ugly, and even then I hope after time we can at least be amicable. Though I find that is hardly the case. So how I deal is "It's called Break-up Because it's Broken." It's a book, it's not going to 100% cure your itch. But it helped me through a couple of breakups. The aftermath of a break up is a tricky thing, if anyone figures it out please let me know!

I keep a list of all the reasons why I broke up with my ex and I make sure to look at it every time I feel the need to contact him.

Just Pause, think about your present, your ex's present , has he / she moved on ? Have you moved on ? Based on that diffuse the temptation

Attempt to make yourself busy with something else completely, be it carpentry, reading, hunting or something else. Whatever gets your attention and 100% of your focus. Eventually, your feelings for your ex will fade.

Avoid reading old conversations or photos and erasing the number also helped me. Personally, I try to distract and focus on myself. Do something that makes you happy, or take care of yourself, learn a new skill or hobby. Break ups are difficult, but they are also a new beginning, enjoy this moment to love who really matters, yourself.

Sometimes I'll think how bad he treated me

Lots of exercise and distractions by hanging out with friends and family. Eventually, you will feel better and start dating other people with your ex out of mind. Good luck! :)

Delete their number from the phone, unfriend/block on social media and find something more productive to do with your time.

I remind myself of the reasons we are no longer together, and I think about the possible negative outcomes.

You think of the negativity that it could bring but think of how happy you'll be if you just let go and try not to think of your ex too much

What do you want to achieve from that contact? Remind yourself why it ended in the first place. Most of the time, it won't lead anywhere good.

To not have temptations to contact your ex, delete their phone number so you don't click on it, stay off of social media for awhile, and focus on yourself

First I talk to other people who love me truly. I spend time in reading, listening to songs , enjoying my own company. But at first I started loving myself

If you truly want to refrain from contact, ask yourself why you broke up to begin with. A reminder of that may help buffer the urge to contact him/her.

Do something else (reading, listening to music) so that you will forget that you ever wanted to contact your ex again. That will help, or if it doesn't, then block his number and social medias off your phone so you can't contact him in any way.

well do you want to? or are they or someone trying you get to talk to them? we need more info on why and how

I deal with this temptation by putting it on my low priority list but if it's constant and won't leave my mind I make myself busy or I remember the important things I need to accomplish. And if this temptation strikes at night while I'm trying to sleep I'll distract myself with something I enjoy doing until I'm too tired to want to contact my ex.

Contacting your Ex lover/Spouse can give you stress.you can think about why they are your "Ex"? . I am sure you will find something that can give you reason to stop. its always good for us to move on in life. if we keep thinking about past ,it will not solve any issue but it will just add emotional pain in our mind.you can save yourself from this pain by not contacting your "Ex". you can distract your mind when you get temptation to contact them again by engaging yourself in something which makes you happy,may be you can talk to your friends ,make yourself busy in any hobby you like.if you keep your brain busy that temptation can go. Best Of Luck

You think about how it will turn out if you do. You also think about why you shouldn’t text your ex. You try the best you can to resist temptation.

Seek out social support from friends and family. If you've made the decision not to contact your ex, and if you've decided that you're not right for each other, remind yourself of the reasons for the breakup. Odds are they haven't changed. Work on yourself. Find new activities and explore yourself and the world. The temptation is just that; it's a temporary feeling that will come and go. It's natural and normal to miss someone who used to be a big part of your life. But not contacting your ex helps you heal, and it helps them heal.

Why do you want to contact them? Ask yourself this first, is it a good reason or a bad reason to? Resist the urge. Distract yourself. Maybe find a new hobby, or pursue your current hobbies. Do something that takes your mind off them. If you need further help, find support here on 7 Cups.

It is important to maintain a healthy and self respecting mindset during and after a relationship. You could set short terms goals that nurture your own physical and emotional health, such as going on a jog if you find yourself thinking negative thoughts.

Set a goal and stay away from social media. Spend time with your family and friends. Do some sporting activity. and block her.

What you need is some "distraction" and some "positivity". It can be done by doing work of any kind that keeps your head busy and should be of your liking . Take my example, I was miserable after my break up and not able to focus on anything and always feeling like contacting her. I tried reading books and some other things also but i was not able to focus properly. By luck you can say, one friend suggested me to go to 7 Cups and have some relief by talking to someone, but instead I joined 7 cups as a listener because I wanted to add some positivity to my life by helping people. As I am a fairly good listener in my real life, I started enjoying the work here and going good. It keeps my head busy and positivity all around. I am saying this because if you are not doing anything, then your mind is not busy and consequently it will wander in those negative thoughts which subsequently increases your propensity to contact your ex. As negative thoughts easily occupies the mind than positive ones, it is pertinent that you add some positivity to your life and come out of such crisis. Positivity can be added by doing anything that you like, it's your choice. So make a good choice and have a great life ahead. Best Wishes.

Write down what you want to say to them on a piece of paper. That way you can get out what you wanted to say without actually saying it to them

Delete his contact number! Remove him from social media and think of something that makes you happy that isn't him!

Just think of how you are doing now and go talk to a friend that was there thur your relationship and who was there when it ended and see the thoughts of how they hirt you or ruined your life

Sometimes the temptation to contact your ex partners can be strong and overwhelming. I tend to find that a good way to deal with this temptation is to try and occupy your thoughts with something else, such as a hobby, reach out to friends or even right down your thoughts in a journal

It is very personal thing, you should always try to find what suits you the best! For me it was a simple thing i've read: Make a note of 2-5 things that made you break up, the things you dislike about your ex and simply read it each time you feel like contacting. My list had 50+ things and only a few weeks later, i don't even think about contacting. Repulsive thought even! It has really helped me, hope it helps you too!