He said I was perfect for him, but he chose someone else?
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Anonymous
February 12th, 2017 9:44am
Just because he chose someone else does not mean you are not perfect, if he let you go that is his fault, and he will be missing out.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2017 9:06pm
sometimes words are just words, you need some actions in your life if he says things wait for him to prove it!
People says things they dont mean and do things they dont intend. Unless he is the realist, a man of his word, otherwise people make decision based on situation. Situation changes, people change.
Perfection is overestimated. People are scared of perfection. Perfection implies accountability and not everyone is ready to be fully responsible for someone else's happiness. It's quite sad, but also human. "You are perfect for me, but this is the wrong time", "you are perfect for me, but I'm not ready"... be perfect for yourself, be your first choice and be someone else's FIRST choice, even if you're not perfect.
Because at times people choice changes or at times they want to explore more and in that hunting process they lose someone important or someone worth holding of
Sometimes people are indecisive about what they want. Sometimes they aren't truthful in their feelings. I've gone through this situation and realized that if they leave in that manner then they weren't meant to stay and you should let them leave.
I got through that, too. The thing is boys are always indecisive and easily influenceable. Don't rely to much on their words, they rarely mean them. Look out for their actions rather than words.
It sounds like he wasn't being completely truthful. No one can be perfect for another person, no matter how hard they try, but that is normal and healthy. Many boys will try to sweet talk you by saying you are "perfect" for them. This could be true, but it also mightn't be. Either way, you shouldn't let this person's opinion of you or choices affect your opinion of yourself.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2017 7:08pm
He was only saying that to soften the blow of the hurt that was inevitably coming. Sugarcoating the branch swing to a different person. It's a horrible feeling being told something like that yet their actions speak an entirely different language, but my advice from personal experience is to watch what they do rather than listen to what they say.
I'm really sorry about that. People do things for different reasons which we may not know. But this does not mean that you are worthless in any way, or that you are not good enough. Respect his decisions, and dont let it weigh you down. Try your best to move on, and spend time doing things that make you happy. all the best!
Then that literally means he wasn't perfect for you. That literally means you are worth more and deserve better.
Sounds like basically any guy who isn’t actually ready to hold an actual relationship, he likes the thought of having you around but not actually wanting to be together he’s in it for the sexual thrill
Anonymous
July 15th, 2016 2:24am
It must be hard right now because you feel as this person was supposed to be there for you because you guys were perfect together but sometimes us as humans we tend to go for things that we think is better for us so the best thing to do is build your self-esteem
Well not everyone is perfect, we will all found out perfect half. He probably did that because he thought you didn't feel the same.
Sometimes you have to not value or take to heart what others tell you. If you take to heart what spouses or anyone for that matter says to you, you will spend the majority of your life sad miserable etc. it’s trully his lost and if he doesn’t see it that way then that’s his problem not yours. He’s someone else problem now
Yes. And he will do the same for the next person. He is clearly the type of guy who is willing to tell you anything to get you to go along with what he wants. I know how you must feel, heartbroken, disappointed, and let down. This experience will only make you stronger. Now you know that a person may say it but not show it. Remember that actions speak MUCH louder than words, and always a look for the action to support the words. Keep this in mind for yourself as well. Do not tell someone that they are your center of everything, at least not until you are absolutely 110% sure of your feelings for this person.
Heartbreaks are the worst but we can not control how others react to situations. Just remember that even the most beautiful and "perfect" women have been heartbroken at some point and this does not mean there is anything wrong with you. It also does not mean the right person will not come along. So, gather up your self-esteem and think about how he missed out on a great person!
Anonymous
August 27th, 2016 9:28pm
Sometimes people get confused as to what to say to let you down easy, he sured tried not to hurt you too much, but it looks like he didn't like you that way after all.
Maybe he was trying to lessen the blow of not choosing you. Or maybe you were just too perfect for him and he wanted something imperfect. Either case, it's his loss. You get to move on and not be with someone who didn't chose you despite your perfectness.
Sometimes people don't say what they are truly thinking, or they change their minds. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you.
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2016 5:19pm
He was having issues and wanted to see if the grass is greener on the other side. It could also be that he could'nt make up his mind at that time.
We all are human, we say things and we do the opposite. It surely must have nothing to do with you but with their own selves
Anonymous
May 28th, 2018 11:19pm
Words don't mean anything sweetie! Action does. Maybe you aren't perfect for him because Fate is saving you for someone who deserves this perfection
Anonymous
April 5th, 2018 3:22am
Well maybe you were not perfect for him and somebody will come a long and will see that you are amazing
It is not only about perfection. There is feeling. Don’t obsess on beeing Perfect for someone. Be yourself and you will get biggest chances to meet someone who will be crazy about you.
Anonymous
April 16th, 2022 5:48pm
He probably used pretty words: you deserve better. Let his actions speak for themselves. Maybe you really are a good match; maybe he is a good match with multiple people (you might be too). Whatever the compatibility is, he either (1) didn't know what he was talking about compatibility-wise; (2) was trying to make you feel better; or (3) other external circumstances got in the way. You probably deserved a harder honesty from that person. Respect yourself enough to believe you really do deserve better for yourself. Center yourself; heal; do things you like; whatever you need to focus on yourself for awhile--find what you can learn from time spent with that person, and move forward strongly. You got this
Anonymous
May 30th, 2018 5:02pm
You might have been "perfect for him" but was he perfect for you? Nope he wasn't. He wasn't perfect for you so you aren't missing anything
Anonymous
May 13th, 2018 10:25am
Sometimes people say things in the heat of the moment that they might not mean or they might have felt just because of that moment. But just know that this guy is not worth it if he chooses someone else over you, especially after saying that to you. It just shows his true nature, be glad that he is gone (silver lining i guess?)
Anonymous
May 28th, 2018 10:09pm
He doesn't sound like a very good guy for you. If he truly thought that you were perfect he wouldv'e shose you.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2018 12:05pm
People don’t always want what’s perfect because people don’t always believe they deserve perfection.
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