He cheated on his girlfriend with me. Why is he ignoring me?
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Anonymous
May 5th, 2019 5:55am
Maybe he realized cheating on his gf was wrong. Or maybe he wasn't serious with you. But I would suggest you to ask him directly why he is doing so instead of assuming why he is ignoring you. Assuming why he is ignoring you won't give you any answers. There could be two reasons : either he made you believe that he will leave his gf and come with you or you didn't ask him anything and believed him that he would leave his gf and come to you. Whatever the reason maybe you have to right to ask him your questions. I hope this helps you. 😊 Good day.
He may be ignoring you because he's realised that what he was done is wrong and made the situation worse by bringing you into it. Avoidance of conflict is a natural human response - especially when there are things at stake.
In cases like this, there is little you can do other than give him time to acknowledge the situation and his place in it as well as yours. When he has figured all this out in his own time, he may speak to you again, or he may just move on entirely. No one will really know what he intends to do other than himself, so unfortunately the only thing you can do is wait.
I personally feel that It's not okay to entertain someone who is in an exclusive relationship. That hurts everyone involved. Also, I think cheating happens between two empty people. They don't have any happiness to offer each other. All they can offer is complains and saddness from other partner. These are all my own personal observations. So if he is ignoring you, then he offered his saddness in the relationship you had. He probably may not have anything else to offer you. I feel very bad everytime someone entertains a cheater or escalates things to cheating it hurts family and many times childeren.
Sometimes people feel insecure in themselves due to low self-esteem,
They seek validation in others as it makes them feel good about themselves,
They also want the benefits of a long term girlfriend or partner,
Clearly they are drawn back to that partner and are now scared that this infidelity will be revealed,
Their behaviour in ignoring you is not your fault and you are a valuable person,
It is more a reflection of the man in question,
If you were together he would also cheat on you too,
It is important to value and love yourself and realise you do not need others to define this for you,
You are good enough.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2020 3:07am
He could be ignoring you because he feels guilty of his actions, hurting you in the process. He did something that can be unforgivable to someone who loved him. He could either be a bad person or you are a reminder of his bad actions. Regret is a strong emotion, and so is guilt. It is not your fault that he made a bad choice, thus hurting 2 other people in the process. He could be ignoring you because he is upset at himself but you must not put yourself down because of him. Again, it is not your fault.
well, from my personal experience, if someone is cheating on someone with you, they may lose connection because of regret. maybe him and his girlfriend broke up, or she figured out she was being cheated on. people usually end up feeling regret when things are ended, you never miss something until you lose it. he may have realized his mistake for cheating on her. he may have found his love for her. i do not agree with cheating, so therefore i would bever let someone get into a relationship with me if they are already in one. you will most likely find someone, don't let him bring you down too much.
This is a tough situation for anybody to be in. It's very likely that he probably just feels bad about cheating and wants to get his relationship back on track. He's probably trying to ease his guilt by severing contact with you in order to get back in his girlfriend's good graces. I know it must be confusing for you especially if this had been an ongoing thing and not just something that happened once, but he seems to be prioritizing his girlfriend at the moment which can't be easy for him given that he cheated in the first place.
Anonymous
February 15th, 2020 5:19am
Perhaps he regrets cheating on his partner, not because of a loss of feelings for you, but because of his conscience. The conflict within his heart and mind. Perhaps he realizes that yes, whilst he has feelings for you, that is not the way to go about it all.He feels wrong but doesn't know what to do. If he went out of his way to cheat on his girlfriend, it means he really likes you or love you. But, at the same time, he knows that it was wrong to cheat on that poor girl. Don't worry. Just go up and ask him yourself as to why he is ignoring you.
I am really sorry to hear about this, you didnt deserve to be cheated or treated like this.
I assume that he may feel embarrased, ashamed, scared to face you or in the worst case scenario, i am afraid to say that that he may have moved on. Please take care of yourself. Dont let someone who hurts you or treats you worthless to have chances to upset you. Maybe, after a while he may message you or respond to you.
If you are comfortable, you can always talk to me or any listener here. We would love to help you feel better.
There could be a lot of reasons. It depends on the context of the situation. Was it only a physical thing, was it also emotional? Now, it depends also on the frequency. Was it a one time thing or was it something continuous? It is time to really pay attention to see if what he said were his intentions matches his actions. It is likely that he's ignoring you because he feels regret and does not know to deal with it. It could also be because he is confused and is unsure as to which will be the next step between you two and between his girlfriend and him. And unfortunately, sometimes the infidelities are only a one time thing and does not imply that he was looking for something else. Either way, remember to give the importance and attention to people according to what they have earned.
Because he is a cheater. Well, the problem with a boy who cheats his girlfriend with you it's that he isn't accountable and so he will disappear or ignore you. You are not the problem, he is the problem. You deserve a man who will love you in an exclusive and special way, you don't deserve a man like this because if he doesn't see the importance of being honest with his girlfriend, he won't see the importance of having a long and beautiful relationship with a girl. I don't know exactly why he is ignoring you, but I know that a man like this is not the man for you.
Anonymous
August 29th, 2020 7:23pm
Self love is essential. People cheat on their partner for many many reasons, some of them could be that they fall out of love, others might be that they were just bored. Being cheated on is one of the most painful experiences for some people, if this person did not care about this girlfriend, he, most likely won't care about you or anyone else either. His girlfriend deserved respect, and you do as well. But respect also starts with ourselves. If we do not care of ourselves first, we do not love ourselves or do not respect ourselves, no one will either. If he cheated on his girlfriend with you, and now he is ignoring you, he is probably not worth your time.
Anonymous
September 19th, 2020 9:36am
If you knew he was with another woman, what made you go out with him? Do you think that just because he cheated on her with you, that you are someone special to him? Perhaps he is in love with his girlfriend and realizes he made a mistake when he went out with you. Perhaps you were just a fling. How does that make you feel? Do you think things would be better if he paid attention to you while still going out with someone else? And, if he did dump the other woman for you, what makes you think he would be faithful to you?
Maybe he come to his sense, and rethinking about his relationship with her girlfriend and how much it means to him. You need to have honest talk with him, so you both can know the reality and move on. Do you really see yourself having a future with him, you need to think about that and consider all possible future factors , is it a healthy relationship or not?! Every think will be only known for sure , when you both have a honest talk about it. I understand how you feel, but you need to be emotionally strong in situations like this.
Hi!
After reading through this, I can only imagine the emotions you are going through. However, from personal experience, it is potential that he is ignoring you to make it right with his previous partner. Simply put, he could be trying to convince his girlfriend that you are not a threat to the relationship. This is very likely not because of something you did. It is very likely the man you slept with is very confused about what he wants, or more specifically, who he wants.
Im sorry, I know situations like this can be extremely hurtful; I hope you find this to be helpful!
Hello. Thank you for the question.
It could be that you both are feeling guilty of it. It could be that he doesn't know what he wants in a relationship. It could be that you are feeling guilty yourself.
Does he talk about marriage ? Do you talk about it ? Are you both in a serious relationship ? Is the relationship emotionally connecting you both ? It could be all these things why it is not working.
He may have no moral responsibility towards you or your ex. You are now feeling dejected for stealing someone's happiness and not feeling better. I hope this answer helps a bit. Take care. Be true to yourself.
There are many reasons he might be ignoring you, but it's best not to make any assumptions without talking to him - you never know he's really feeling. He might be going through a lot or have a lot to sort out considering the situation, but oftentimes they might just need time! He could be feeling anxious about his relationship, he may be regretting his actions if he feels he has hurt his girlfriend etc, or he might just need some space right now. If you've reached out, all you can do is wait and hope that he is alright.
He may be feeling guilty, or unsure of his decision to cheat. This is not a reflection of yourself. This is a reflection he is making of himself. It is likely not a personal front to you. Give him time to reflect and find his own answer to the dilemma he has created. Do not take it personally. He has made a big decision and will need to address this before he can make his next move. Take this time to think on your part of the issue. Address how you feel about the situation. Do you feel any specific emotions about it? Why?
Anonymous
November 21st, 2021 5:35am
Often times, the individual who cheats on their partner is not sound in character. Breaking an active commitment is a red flag, and should not be ignored. If they are still together, his girlfriend may have asked him to cut contact with you in order to rebuild their relationship. If they separated, he may be attempting to regain her love, or simply realized that he needs to work on himself. It is also important to ask yourself if this is a person you truly want to be in contact with you. If he has a history of breaking commitments, it is not reasonable to expect that he would maintain a commitment to consistent communication with you.
The first reason is because he is regretting his decision to cheat over his girlfriend with you. Once you find out that he is regretting his action of cheating over his girlfriend with you, it is better for you to leave him. When you do something bad and you know that it is actually bad there will be an internal conflict in your conscience. He is having the same conflict and still trying to figure out which decision is the right decision for him. Having you as another girl aside from his girlfriend shows that his emotion is not stable and he does not know what decision he should take
Anonymous
May 12th, 2022 9:56am
Did you ask the same question to him while he was cheating his girlfriend? Sometime for sex often people stoop very low and starve for any possibilities out there , the same way he may have used you and you also couldn't resist because of your needs. After realisation they often tend to undo the things temporarily. So since you served his purpose for that moment and he got from you what he wanted, he's moving on but there is possibility that he will come to you again if he will feel the needs. These types of modern relationship nowadays have become needs driven , the dark truth.
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 6:39pm
He is ignoring you because he has a girlfriend and you're the other woman. Forget about him, you don't need that.
Sometimes when a guy cheats with you he was insecure about the relationship. Maybe he is ignoring you to find out what he was insecure about or even to be honest with is girlfriend and try to make things better.
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2016 11:21pm
He could be ignoring you because he feels unfaithful to his girlfriend, he could also be speaking to his girlfriend about what you both have done and trying to break up with her so make matters easier.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2016 5:58pm
He probably doesn't think he needs to give you any attention, for him you're just a someone right now
This is something that a lot of us have went through. There could be a number of reasons, chances are he probably assumed that it was a casual hook up and didn't feel the need to get back to you because he's afraid you might want to be in a committed relationship. Another reason could be that he's scared that his girlfriend might find out, which is why he wants to cut all ties from you
He may feel guilty about the situation because he had a moment where he questioned his relationship with his girlfriend. So he cheated. Afterwards he realized the mistake he made and he's probably trying to forget it even happened.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2016 9:31pm
Because maybe he understood it was wrong and he is guilty. You also should move on. Maybe he really likes his gf
Either he figured things out with his girlfriend and wants to make things right. He just wanted to use you. He feels guilty for what he did to her and you. He doesn't want to hurt you anymore. There are many reasons why he could be ignoring you and many reasons why he did it. What is important is how you feel about what happened and is happening, if you want to be with a man who is willing to cheat on his girlfriend with you. And why you feel he cheated on her, not just the reasons you come up with to make it feel right, but the real deep down reasons.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2016 2:06pm
Perhaps his girlfriend found out, perhaps guilt has started to kick in for him and perhaps he got scared of running two relationships at the same time - whatever it was, you are worth someone much better than that!
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