He cheated on his girlfriend with me. Why is he ignoring me?
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Anonymous
May 17th, 2016 2:56pm
Maybe because his girlfriend doesn't know or he hasn't told her yet? He may find it easier to distance himself from you until he knows what he's going to do regarding that situation
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 8:20pm
He might feel uncomfortable in his conscience and is trying to sort out the situation. Hope this helps!
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 11:39pm
He may feel regretful of the situation, or just confused in general. Maybe you should try texting him first!
Anonymous
May 27th, 2016 5:25am
because he is probably feeling guilty for doing such a dishonest act and/or he realized he did a non loyal thing by cheating on his girlfriend with you
Anonymous
May 27th, 2016 11:50am
There are so many reasons he could be ignoring you.
If he isn't making you a priotity, then he is not worth your time and you should move on and ignore him when he contacts you back.
I was with someone during my breakup and went back to my husband, he feels I ignore him. I can only explain from my experience that if he didn't leave and stay gone (and choose you), he will have you as second best on his list, not a priority, if you allow him to.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2016 5:20am
Maybe he feels guilty about the pain he's caused you and his girlfriend. He did the wrong thing by cheating on her, he may realize his mistake now and wishes to keep you out.
Maybe he is going through a guilt phase, or maybe this time he is cheating on you with someone else..... All the best and good luck!!
Anonymous
June 30th, 2016 2:23am
It's probably because he realized that cheating on his girlfriend was a mistake. don't take it personally and I think you should find someone who really supports and cherishes you.
He may feel ashamed he made the decisions he made. Or he's trying to figure himself out. Give him time to come around.
Anonymous
August 13th, 2016 9:19am
We all have a code of values. Some we learn intuitively, some come from society or family. When we violate these values it can be difficult to make sense of ourselves leaving us feeling confused and guilty. Which in turn can lead us to turn off from what we have done on an emotional level. Ignoring you is a way of not confronting this inner conflict that he is contending with.
Anonymous
August 27th, 2016 12:32am
Maybe because he has to manage his time with you and his other girlfriend. He doesn't want his other girlfriend know he's cheating on her, right? (:
Anonymous
August 31st, 2016 2:50am
He may feel guilty. Or thinking things over. He shouldn't have cheated on his girlfriend though. Also, maybe he's ending things.
well, he clearly feels guilty about cheating and obviously drop your guys relationship or friendship
cheaters are never trust worthy ive always thought that if he did it once he can always do it again.
Maybe he realized he made a mistake and he wants to stay with his girlfriend, but that isn't fair to her or you, you should confront him about it!
Anonymous
September 24th, 2016 9:17pm
Perhaps he feel guilty and doesn't want to make the situation worse. Or he is choosing to now remain faithful.
He may feel bad for doing that to his girlfriend. If he feels guilty about it, he's probably trying to get away so that he doesnt do it again, or he may not have thought it was a big deal
Anonymous
November 10th, 2016 8:39pm
he probably feels guilty .. and is ignoring you because he cannot seem to look at you properly after what he has done
Personally, I would be suspicious. You have to be wise, he may have cheated on her with you but it is unpredictable as he could have been cheating with multiple people. Showing the willingness to cheat is a warning sign beware that he isn't doing the same to you.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2016 5:25pm
He has regret and guilt and is "hurting" you because he does not want to hurt his girlfriend. That, and he lacks courage.
He may have finally realized how wrong it was to cheat on his girlfriend with you and he wants to do right now.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2017 8:46pm
Maybe he realised that what he did to his girlfriend wasnt okay and now he regrets about it. But you never know, the best thing would be to ask him about it
I Am Just A Listener, Not At Liberty to Give Advice. It's Hard Dealing With Someone Who Is Already In A Relationships, Even If He Only Did It For A Sense Of Comfort
I suppose the person is feeling a bit guilty.He might also be thinking that you would be trusting him less since you know he cheated with someone else just to be with you.
Anonymous
August 21st, 2018 11:05am
Is this the first time he cheated? How long did he cheat on her with you for? The answer depends on the person that he is. Was it a one time thing that he deeply regrets and is to ashamed to talk to you about, or does he make a regular thing of cheating on her and you’ve just become yesterdays news? Is being with a man that cheats on his girlfriend what you want in life?? Was you hoping he would want to be with you and breakup with her? He’s clearly a man whose relationship is in trouble and as much as it hurts, if you were the girlfriend he cheated on would you not appreciate he trying to do what is right and avoid contact with you?
He shouldn’t of cheated at all. If he loved someone and someone loved him back there should of been no cheating if he’s ignoring you eh either noticed he was wrong or is trying to think things through.
You deserve someone who is just all about you and not someone who doesn’t know what they want.
Love is a strong word and it’s one of the most difficult things in the world. You should never ever feel as a second option and you should always be treated the best way you can, and find the right one for yourself, if they ignore you, forget them and move on.
Because he is not interested to leave her and you are the living reminder of what he has done. It is not your fault, you can just move on on your own also. Don't worry its going to pass with time, try to not fix on him as he would be in your future. Next time when he would come just be aware that there is another person involved and perhaps not do the same thing than now. It will hurt everyone involved. Have a good evening and I wish you a quick recovery with this situation. Hope this helps
Anonymous
January 5th, 2019 7:30pm
He may feel guilty and ashamed of cheating on his girlfriend and has decided that seeing or interacting with you exacerbates those feelings. It's easier to avoid someone who evokes feelings or guilt than is is to take ownership of the feelings and actions that led to the cheating.
It's also possible that he was honest with his girlfriend and told her about the cheating, and now he is making an effort to stay away from you in order to avoid feelings of temptation. It may be that his girlfriend has requested that he cut contact with you so that they can come together and address the issues in their relationship that led to the cheating.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2019 8:31pm
Maybe he knows now that it was a failure and he loves his girlfriend more then he thought he would do.
To love someone is sometimes really hard because the feelings aren't linear. They are ups and downs. To cheat on someone is shitty. But to ignore someone can really hurts. Sometimes people make decision without over thinking that it can hurts other people too. It is really hard and impossible to think for more people than for one. Yeah i sometimes to live the life you deserve is hard but to give someone the worth they deserve is for some people really impossible. I am sorry for you but it would help you the most if you would forget him.
It could be any number of reasons. The most likely would be that he wants to be with his girlfriend. If he has told her then she probably doesn't want him talking to you. If he hasn't told her he may be feeling guilty or trying to keep her from finding out. If he wants to stay with his girlfriend you may never hear from him. If he wants to stay with her and cheat on her, is that someone you would want to be with? Can you trust him? You may be stressed about this and wishing he would be in touch. I understand that feels hard. I would say think of his girlfriend and how you may feel if it was you. We all deserve an honest relationship
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