He cheated on his girlfriend with me. Why is he ignoring me?
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Anonymous
February 4th, 2019 1:57pm
Just think about it for a second. He is risking his relationship in order to talk to you, a person outside the relationship. Maybe he regrets cheating and he decided to move on from your relationship so he can be with his actual girlfriend or he is taking a break from interacting with you so his girlfriend does not suspect anything. No offense but I hope he moved on from this interaction because that is a really unhealthy relationship and the girlfriend doesn't deserve to be a part of this. This can ruin lives and I do not think you should demand his attention.
Anonymous
May 21st, 2016 4:36pm
Maybe because he got someone NEW.
or maybe he is went back to his girlfriend.
There is also a possibility that he is busy with something important.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2016 4:28pm
Maybe because he understood that cheating isn't a a great thing to do? He might still care about his girlfriend and he doesn't want to hurt her feelings because of infidelity.
Hi, I know this is really difficult to understand. There will be a hundred different emotions running through his mind right now, guilt, regret, excitement, happiness, confusion and so many more. Please give him time, although what happened is not an ideal situation, maybe give him space and see what happens in time. I hope this helps. X
Anonymous
July 19th, 2018 11:04pm
He doesn't know what to feel and what not to. He's probably emotionally lost. Probably just trying to figure himself out a bit
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2016 1:40am
He probably thinks he made an awful mistake by cheating on his girlfriend. It could be that he regrets cheating for that one night stand and wants to keep his long term relationship.
Anonymous
January 4th, 2017 6:42am
Well, he's just cheated. Obviously he's going to be going through some major emotions and decisions. Who does he choose? Who does he tell? How does he feel? What's the best solution?
And he was in a relationship with his girlfriend. He will probably feel guilt in some way or another. Put yourself in his shoes.
While it might be frustrating to be ignored, especially after you've been thrown into the relationship drama, realize that the couple will be going through a lot. Communication is key, but you might want to let him work out what he needs to work out for himself.
Just don't let others make your decisions for you. If you don't want to be with him, you might want to think about telling him soon, before any major changes are made. (If they are made.)
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2016 11:49pm
Because you were obviously his bit on the side now he realises he wants his girlfriend back, this is not a tricky answer to answer
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2018 9:45am
Cheating is much more than a one-time practice. Once done, it could have adverse effects on the parties involved due to constant feelings of guilt, insecurity, emptiness, loss of control, and other negative emotions. He is most probably ignoring you because of those emotions confronting his conscience.
May be the guilt haunts him?..
Usually at these situations... People feel guilty for what happened and try to make the mistake right... This might be a step to reconsider himself..
He feels guilty for what he did and probably needs time to comprehend what happened. Give him sometime and ask him at the right time.
Perhaps he feels guilty for having done it and so does not want to face you. He might still have feelings for his girlfriend and want to fix things with her.
I have been the girlfriend that got cheated on and my bf has changed a lot recently. Maybe he thought he needed something new and then realized it wasn't worth it. You are a worthy person and you don't deserve to be second best find a person that puts you first. A man that is with someone won't do that for you. He will use you to pass time.
Because he doesn't value you, just like he doesn't value his girlfriend. You don't want to be with a cheater do you? If he cheated on her, he will likely cheat on you too.
Many times when someone has an affair while in a relationship, it is due to impulse. Consider that he may be embarrassed with his actions, and wants to try to forget that he ever made the decision to have an affair in the first place. That type of romantic partner is not the one you want. Keep your eyes open for someone with genuine interest in you!
he might be ignoring you because he's trying to be around his girlfriend
Anonymous
July 18th, 2018 6:30am
That fact is he is a CHEATER! Why would you expect any other behaviour. The fact is why would you expect him to behave any differently with you? He is a total gem. Personally I think you need to take time out and get in touch with yourself. You helped him cheat on a girl- is this what you think you are worth? Please find some self love and find a single guy to be with. Always ask the question as to how a guy status wise before starting a new relationship. Get to know each other as friends and wether or not you meet his friends and family. Cheaters get what cheaters get.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2018 4:12am
He may be feeling guilt for cheating. Maybe she found out about the two of you. You should confront him about what is going on.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2018 5:26pm
He may feel guilty about hurting her and also hurting you, I would give him so time to sort out these emotions.
He is probably feeling massively guilty. You may have to just come to terms with the fact that even though me may have cheated on her with you, he may want to stay with her. Its really a hard thing to go through and you deserve to be with somebody who can give themselves to you without guilt.
Sounds like he’s not a good guy if he’s willing to risk two hearts. Remove this type of negativity from your life!
He may be trying to regain the relationship he had back. He could have decided that he made a mistake of cheating and doesn't want you in his life anymore. Either way give him time, he's gonna need it.
Anonymous
June 18th, 2020 2:03am
He has not been fair to either you or his girlfriend. It is easy to question and blame ourselves and wonder if it is something about us that is causing another person to act this way. The truth is that a person who follows this kind of pattern of behaviour will do this to everyone they encounter. It is not as though one miraculous person can fulfill their voids to make them happy. He will do this repeatedly to others over and over again in a vicious cycle. This person is an energy vampire and has nothing to do with anything about you. You are not the one at fault here.
You weren't his girlfriend and he may feel bad about cheating on his girlfriend and so he will have stopped talking to you in order to earn his girlfriend's respect back
Anonymous
August 24th, 2016 1:28pm
He might love you or he might've regretted cheating but in both ways you shouldn't depend on him because if he cheated on his girlfriend he might also cheat on you
Anonymous
November 21st, 2020 11:32pm
Firstly, you must feel confused and saddened by your circumstances. I’m sorry to hear it.
You can’t ever know with certainty without that person telling you themselves. It is possible this person decided to be honest with his girlfriend and try to work it out. This is why getting involved with people who are already in relationships can be very emotionally turbulent.
Truly, if you knew the answer, would that make you feel any better? Do you really want to be with someone who cheats? If someone cheats on one partner, there is no guarantee that they would not do it to someone else.
Hope you can gain some clarity soon. Best wishes.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2016 11:16pm
Maybe because his girlfriend told him to, that's happened before. If not, try to ask him. And talk things out.
Anonymous
May 26th, 2016 11:35am
cause he know he make a mistake and doesnt whan t to repeat the same mistake so i suggest you to talk with him does he want to be with you or her
because his love is now taking him to post traumatic situation and there he is repenting over his deeds..
Someone who has once cheated could possibly lose interest easily. If he lost interest of his girlfriend of you, he might do the same to you. It is a sad and difficult cycle, but it is best avoided when you find someone who truly cares for you first.
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