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Anonymous
February 17th, 2018 12:54am
Sometimes. There is always a possibility that the relationship can bloom into something wonderful. Rebound or not.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2018 5:59am
Rebound relationships seems to be a subjective term. It moreso depends on the reason why we get into them. If we see something we like in the person that we just left, and there may be some equal negative qualities, than the relationship may take a turn for the worse. But if you happen to meet someone unexpectedly, rather than seeking something like the former relationship, shortly after your previous one and the person has qualities better suited for you and your health, than there is a chance it could work. Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith and listen to your intuition as to the real reason you are in this relationship.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2018 7:01pm
I have hardly ever come across a rebound relationship that actually works because you're ever "in love" with the person and to make a relationship work without love doesn't even seem practical to me.
Anonymous
April 7th, 2018 6:36pm
Hardly, often times a person would not have given themselves enough time to heal after their previous relationship, and will have so much baggage
Anonymous
April 20th, 2018 3:58am
It is hard to say. It is different for everyone. I was in a rebound relationship and I regret it. I was not clearly and ended up breaking up with the guy. I wish I had never been his girlfriend.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2018 4:19am
If the relationship is predicated on a good friendship, respect, well-thought out and mutually asked for.
There are a variety of times when they don't work(There are a lot of reasons so don't quote me on these being the only few) is when you feel that the person is seeking instant gratification or some sort of jealous revenge.
Its also best to allow them time for them to explore their own options and be clearheaded before entering a relationship.
So long as the other party has respect for the other sure! If there is disrespect or contempt present, that's something that should be looked at prior to resuming relationships. Take it slow and have fun in the mean time ;)
Both yes and no. They can work as they can grow into something far more meaningful, but it's important to remember that you shouldn't give someone false sense of security, because you're lacking comfort. Be kind to both yourself and others.
It can do. But statistics would argue that the probability for it to work out is rather low. I cannot speak for your specifically. If both are willing to give it a serious go and are able to let go of the past, I would give it another shoot.
Sometimes. However, usually the problems you had in the previous relationship tend to spill over and transfer to the new rebound relationship and then you end up facing the same issues.
Usually, they do not because the decisions made at this time tend to be impulsive which means they are not thought through. However there have been times where it works, this could be because the rebound was with someone that you cared about and have a strong bond with.
I think it depends on the situation. If you are with that person solely to get back at an ex and nothing else, the chances of it working are slim. However, if you truly care about the person and you are doing it to move on and leave that ex behind, I believe it can have a real possibility of working.
Generally not . Short answer : Partners are not stable with regard to their relationship . A Break up might have been caused due to a conflict which is likely to occur yet again if both parties are disagreeable .
Every so often because there is an obvious initial thing that draws someone to a "rebound" but most of the time no, because someone's state of mind is altered and their "interest" can come from a place of sadness rather than true intrigue.
If the rebound relationship means you're truly moving on and not replacing someone and not expecting the same as before, it could work. If the relationship is healthy and is meant for growing of both people in it, then yes.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2018 11:29am
It depends. Too many factors. If the next person turn out to be a monster, then it wont work.
If it involves a lot of honesty, reflexion and acceptance of the past it can, otherwise in my opinion not.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2018 2:47pm
No one can say for sure. The results for a rebound relationship varies. It is affected by the 2 specific individuals, their personalities, environment and so on.
Never say never, although in my experience of rebound relationships personally, they've not ended well. If it's a rebound relationship then you're possibly trying to fill that gap that your previous partner and yourself had together with another individual. A rebound relationship could work but it's different case by case. Just be aware of going into one, that there's a high chance that it might not end well, then there's the factors of the bond you have with the person too. Just repair yourself and mend your wounds from the previous relationship before you strut off into another one, it'll hurt you more otherwise.
To answer this you have to establish what ‘works’ means to you. If you are using that relationship to fill a hole and makes you feel better in the short term then sure. You may also meet someone’s on the rebound that is perfect for your personality. Never rule anything out until you have exhausted that opertunity.
I have seen them fail more often than work. The ones that have worked out for people I think was nothing short of lucky.
Anonymous
July 28th, 2018 11:46am
A rebound relationship will rarely work out. You're getting in a relationship in spite of hurting another or getting over someone else- you heart will always been invested in that person and you'll always like that person.
Hardly ever, but YES!
As long as two persons are open about it, their chemistry matches - they can come together as a rebound (for one or both) and make it work after the "old feelings" are gone.
Think of it as emotional bagage that you shed "together" with someone - it is a strange way to connect, but love comes back when you least expect it ;)
Anonymous
August 5th, 2018 5:58pm
It depends on what your looking for. But if your a emotional person i would have to say no. Because then you are only becoming attached to another person. It is best to take time off and detach yourself from the other person!
Anonymous
September 21st, 2018 10:17am
Rebound relationships can go two ways - the first is that it doesn't work out as you're only using the person to get over someone and there isn't any genuine feelings for the other person. This will end rather quickly when you get over the person in question. The second way it could go is that you end up falling for this person in the rebound relationship. As love is a choice, technically, you can make any relationship work as you can choose to love the person. So yes, rebound relationships can work if the both of you want it to work.
A relationship will never work if we depend on it to get over emotional trauma. Healing from a relationship is a process in itself, and to add another process of starting a healthy relationship can only make us more confused. Healing from a relationship can take time and hard work. Starting a new relationship doesn’t add anything to the healing process, that process involves self love and grief processing. A new relationship is best approached when we are steady in the love we have for ourselves so we don’t find ourselves relying on others to give us that love that truly lies inside ourselves.
It sounds like you're faced with the prospect of a rebound relationship and are looking for information to either justify the relationship or justify a non-relationship. Really you should be considering your own, subjective experience that we know nothing about. For example. oftentimes in rebound relationships couples will make all sorts of promises to change and do better and fix the problems that plagued the last attempt. It is up to you to decide if you really believe that people should change for relationships, that such change is even possible, and that you are willing to take another person's word that they will do that. Change on that scale requires 150% effort from both parties. If there is any question of doubt, best to reconsider. Also ask yourself if you have already decided on what you want to do. Oftentimes people in your situation will exhibit cognitive bias, which causes you to agree with answers that support your intended outcome and discount answers that do not agree with you. If you have come here looking for justification that you should continue dating this person, you won't find it. It is unlikely that you are truly neutral on this question; it's likely that you've already chosen a side. The problem with that is it is harder to convince you of an answer that is not compatible with your own.
Another point is our propensity to forgive and forget, as cliche as that sounds. Time heals all wounds. It makes errors seem less serious, less egregious, and we often forget the specifics. Ask yourself if there's any possibility of that happening. That will certainly affect your judgement; if you do not truly remember every detail of why the relationship failed in the first place, you will not remember until you have engaged in the relationship again. Our simple desire to not be lonely seemingly defies logic in a disturbing amount of situations.
What would be the consequence of engaging in the same relationship? You might stave off loneliness. You have someone to share your life with. You might lengthen your own sadness and in a few months be in the same exact situation when you could have moved on. Relationships are ultimately emotional things, yet we must use reason every now and then when we choose to engage with them.
Rebound relationships can work, as a rebound. However i don't think that they work as long term relationships, just because the feelings for the person in the previous relationship don't have time to dissipate properly. This being said, Rebound relationships can be a good way to get over someone in the moment, as a short term answer to the bigger problem at hand. They can help you see what wasn't right in your previous relationship, so you are able to do better in the future, and so you know what works best for you, and what is or isn't good for you.
I’m sure they may be times where rebounds really actually turn out to be the relationship you’re looking for, it’s not impossible but it is extremely risky. Normally, rebounds are a way to cover that hole in your heart where someone else’s to be. It’s like you’re putting a band-aid over it. It’ll stay for a while and may even look like it working but it will lose its stick. It may even be a matter if you’re trying to get this new rebound relationship to fit in the shape of your previous one but sometimes it just won’t fit, no matter how hard you push it and it will end up cracking and breaking. I would say approach with caution.
Anonymous
November 13th, 2018 12:52am
Very rarely, in my experience. No matter the reason for the break up, we often need time to process what happened and how we want to proceed next. Immediately jumping into another relationship effects our ability to do that. Without time to process what went wrong in the last relationship, we are at risk of repeating those mistakes. Sometimes loneliness leads us to get into another relationship without giving ourselves time to move on. This is not healthy for us or our new partner. Without time to distance ourselves from the past, we run the risk of bringing our old baggage into our new relationship, increasing the odds of something going wrong.
Think of it this way, let's say you lived in a very smelly house. This house smells so bad, eventually you decide to move. If all of your blankets smelled like your old house, would you bring them with you to the new one? No! So why would you carry your baggage to a new relationship?
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