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Do rebound relationships ever work?

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Anonymous
September 17th, 2016 10:48pm
Rebound relationships are typically made to fill the void of the old one. I've never had a rebound relationship, but based off of what they were like for my friends, I would think that it is highly unlikely that they will go anywhere meaningful.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2017 1:53am
They can if both people try their upmost best, if only one person is giving their all then the answer is no
Anonymous
December 4th, 2017 4:06am
I personally think that if your going to go out with someone is because you have feelings for that person and because you want to be with it because of how he/she is I don't see it fair that u use someone else and play around with there heart just to get someone else from your mind and to distract yourself tbh I don't know of they work but from my point of view I don't think so but everyone is different it's ok to have different opinions
eeveeon
December 6th, 2017 9:12am
It can't be defined for one person. It is subjective. Where a relationship that forms out of a rebound might work for some, it may not work for others.
ConsolingPenguin
December 14th, 2017 11:51pm
It's very possible! Recognizing where a relationship went wrong and building on the past problem means dedication! However, not learning from the mistakes can just lead to another downfall.
Simpledelicatewords
January 5th, 2018 4:47pm
Sometimes, but the thing about rebounds are you're usually really sensitive and looking for the feelings you once had. You deceive yourself this is what you want and fall way to fast without taking the time to get to know them. Rebound relationships work if you think of it as pursuing a normal relationship and going slow like you would there. Reserving your feelings to make sure this is what you want is best in my opinion.
chefor
January 10th, 2018 7:21am
It depends. This person you rebound with might be a great friend to you and a source you can confide in. It really depends on the person. There's no right answer, you know what works best for you.
Greatlistener87
September 13th, 2016 5:32am
Possible is you do fall in love with that rebound person at the end then it might just work out. But if you are just a rebound and nothing else then nope it will not.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2017 10:30am
It depends on how forgiving you are, and whether you're ready to accept each other again despite all the differences and setbacks you've had in your previous relationships.
safeshoulder2CryOn
July 12th, 2020 8:33pm
Rebound relationships refer to those relationships that are formed right after the end of another relationship. On average, 90% of rebound relationships fail within three months. Lets explore why it has a high tendency of failing. Firstly as the person wishes to move on from past relationship as quickly as possible, they quickly enter the very first opportunity coming their way. The intense relief from a failed precursor brings unusual optimism for in the new romantic opportunity. They are infatuated over their new partner and deem their new partners above all other priorities. They are blinded to the flaws as they are locked in the honeymoon stage.After this stage, reality slowly seeps and they both notice each others flaws and they start experiencing difficulties. Resentment, regret and disappointment follows soon. Hence if you are currently in a rebound relationship you may be faced with the reality of breakup or reconnection. Hence it is always crucial to take things slowly.
afrese2015
January 24th, 2020 12:22am
That completely depends on the person(s) involved. It also depends on how long you were with the previous person and how soon after you go into a new relationship. If you had true genuine love for the previous person it would be difficult to forget that love very quickly, which means the you are not putting in 100 percent to the new relationship. Generally people who jump right into something new are simply looking to overcome the pain from the last one. They want a distraction, they feel lonely, they are desperate for something to hold on too again. It's normal, and understandable. That doesn't mean the the "rebound relationship" can't work, it just simply depends on the reason you are with that person.
HoneyBear3
November 2nd, 2019 8:30pm
It depends on the intent. You say "rebound," which to me means jumping into a relationship immediately after one ends in an effort to continue being with someone no matter who they are. In that case, it is not healthy, nor "working" for either person. Relationships should not be based upon an inherit need to be loved by someone; almost everyone has that desire but it is not an excuse to use others for short term comfort. If you are currently in a "rebound relationship," I would suggest you think deeply about how this relationships began and your inner insecurities that may have led to a relationship started off of fear.
iubarcaelum
September 10th, 2020 5:27pm
do rebound relationships ever work? personally, i think yes. i've been dating a guy for almost a year now and we had dated twice before this. i never believed in second chances but i do believe people need time and i believe, in order to work out, relationships need to have trust, communication and last but not the least, efforts. relationships need time to click. everyone makes mistakes but in the end, it always comes down to if you're really ready to face the world with that person? it's not about how many chances you give someone but it's about the time and person you choose to be with.
AmarahSofia
September 10th, 2020 8:05am
Depending on people. But for me, before we enter relationship we must assure that we are ready. We enter relationship bcos we love that person, we should not use others to get over with our feelings. Let us all value people and their vulnerability. We all deserve true and pure love. Relationship isnt just about love but commitment and understanding. Let us not take anyone's for granted. Rebound relationships mostly happen when one's cant get over with their past. They seek to find comfort in order to relieve the pain and sadness. It is a lame reason to use other people to get over with our misery because we are causing other people's misery too by using them. Human feelings are not decoy to get used and played with it.b
psych0l0gy
September 9th, 2020 2:10am
Sometimes it can. Ig you and your partner believe in each other then i think that can work. Sometimes it doesn't but you need to be optimistic so you can keep that relationship healthy. The most important thing is that how you feel in that relationship and you need to know what you exactly want and expect from your partner. You need to tell each other what you feel, even when you have a problem. Sometimes people don't believe in rebound relationships but it's okay because sometimes it doesn't work out. You must know that if you thinks that your partner is toxic, you shouldn't come back to him.
Anonymous
September 2nd, 2020 2:51am
Yes, of course! Especially when we just had bad breakups, rebound will help us move on faster from the ex. We will be able to build our confidence back faster and even better. Hence rebound can promise and also lead us into a better relationship, the one that actually works. We will be able to apply what we just learned from our previous breakups to avoid another breakups. We now know what we want exactly from our relationship and will able to respect our new partner better than before. So, yes, I think rebound relationship can and will work, if we want it to work.
DiamondDepree
February 9th, 2020 3:08am
Rebound relationships can work however studies show that only 35% has actually succeeded leaving a large percentage of 65% failing in the first 6 months. This happens because the new partner the rebound is only filling in the gap left from the last relationship. Breaking up with a woman you truly love can be one of the toughest experiences to go through in life. In a serious relationship, you will usually invest a lot of your time, energy and emotions trying to make it work. Eventually, much of your life may revolve around her and big decisions that you used to make on your own when you were single, are now often made with her buy-in or with her interests in mind. No matter what happened during the relationship, no matter how “good” or “bad” you were together and no matter what caused the breakup; when it is all over, you are usually left feeling battered and bruised.
Danniethegirl
August 23rd, 2020 5:54am
Break-ups can be devastating, distressing, cause unhappiness, and cause feelings of loss or grief. Seeking comfort can actually be part of the healing process. Rebound relationships are those that begin shortly after a previous relationship ends and before you've let go of all emotional ties to your ex. More often then not, these are simply a distraction from feelings of loss and regret and are said to be a self defense mechanism. Studies have show rebound relationships can actually be healthy for you if you enter them with the right midset. If the goal is to move on with your life in a positive way, rebounds are potentially healthy for you. Evidence from Brumbaugh & Fraley (2014) shows that rebound relationships help people feel mroe confident and recover from their loss faster. This is caused by severing the emotional attachment for their ex when starting a new relationship. This same study showed that decreasing the time between a break-up and new relationship actually yields greater well-being, higher self-esteem, and deeper respect for their significant other.
allnaturalUnicorns70
September 29th, 2016 3:00pm
Any relationship can work, so long as both participants are in a position to give to the relationship and eachother. If one side is totally self-focused (and if they are still in pain from the breakup that can be an issue) makes it difficult to have a good relationship.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2020 7:10am
I believe that rebound relationships are built upon negative emotion. This is not to say that they are doomed to failure. I believe that they are simply starting from a point that is more difficult. Then again, some rebounds are built upon a feeling of freedom and a chance to do new things. Therefore, as with all things, the context of the relationships start has a great deal to do with the success or failure of the "launch". A relationship is so complex that to break it down into so simple of terms is unhealthy.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2020 11:49pm
Mine worked! We split after some months, and rebounded after 2-3 months. We have been together for almost five years now. Never say never, it really depends on the people involved :) it was the best thing that happened to me really, I am so happy we rebounded and I feel grateful every single day. It takes a lot of maturity and a lot of forgiving for the past errors, but it's possible. Of course this doesn't apply in extreme cases and in toxic and abusive relationships, in that case, totally stay away from them! It isn't the norm luckily ^^
dontgiveup3
March 19th, 2020 4:34pm
I had this boyfriend I adored to pieces, I felt as he possibly felt the same way but eventually things came to an end and we our separate ways. I decided that maybe I could just move on and find someone else, what I missed was before I got into a relationship, I need to be in one myself. Rebound relationships can feel like you're not alone anymore but you never were! I don't particularly think a rebound relationship could work if you're not yet already healed from your previous relationship. Take time on self-love, you're worth it :)
MagicalUnicorn312
April 1st, 2020 5:13am
I don't believe that rebound relationships work because they are on the false pretenses that everything will work out with the "replacement." Along with that, the rebound isn't the person they are, it's the person you want them to be. Rebounding is a way of coping because those who we love have rejected us, and in spite of that we chose to find someone else in hopes to prove that it could work out between them, when in reality it will not. But because we are so into wanting things to work out, we force ourselves to try and when it doesn't it ends up leaving us even more heartbroken.
wonderfulUnicorn30
December 8th, 2016 8:41am
Honestly yes. Rebound relationships can help you open up more to somebody because you are more hurt.
Anonymous
April 24th, 2020 10:05pm
I personally think that it might feel like it is helping in the moment, but it might make you not have time to process your emotions from the previous relationship. It is important to give yourself that time to heal emotionally until you are able to give your heart to someone else. Also, the rebound might have strong feelings for you and you might not feel the same so it might be unfair to them. Unless there is an agreement that you both are on the same page. Overall, I do not think it can work out unless you are mentally ready to move on.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2020 7:08am
A breakup causes an emotional and physical gap and a rebound can be the solution. Not only can a partner supply the physical needs that were lost through their physical presence and by fulfilling sexual needs, but if a new partner is in some way similar to an ex, feelings of attachment can naturally transfer towards a new partner without a large investment of time. Science supports that rebound relationships can be beneficial in dealing with getting over an ex, but it leads to the assumption that a rebound is only as good as its ability to be the same or better than your ex. Your ultimate choice to either seek out a rebound or deal with your emotions on your own should be based on the answer to the question, “Is the rebound better than your ex in any way, physically or emotionally?” For example, if your ex always comes out on top, you're going to think about and miss your ex more, which means the rebound is doing the exact opposite of what it was meant to do.
YourBoiGray
April 25th, 2020 8:15am
In my experience. No. I'm in a rebound relationship right now, and I don't think it's working. It's painful. And every text/exchange just hurts. Because you are merely substituting one person for another. It's hard though. Cause you crave the feeling that person gave you and the love they gave you. But just finding a replacement is no way to go about it. Coming to terms with the fact that the old relationship is over, and working through those emotions is important. And something that is frankly necessary to move past the breakup and move on as a person. Love is tough. But you can make it through.
KACOSMIC
April 30th, 2020 2:22pm
Think that you love each other and that as much as you have fallen out, things can still work out. Let the other person breathe, miss you, your company, the moments they had together, don't send messages all the time asking for forgiveness, saying that you can't live without it, even if it is true, wait a while. You more than anyone know that love exists between you and that there is a very strong bond that unites you, believe in this love, ask for one last chance, no matter how much time passes and everything gets more difficult, don't let to believe.
Ashley339
May 6th, 2020 4:23am
I believe that under special circumstances they could work. But usually when you jump into a rebound relationship you are just using that person to try and get over someone that you recently got out of a relationship with, or to try and make them jealous/ get back at them. And that makes it hard to catch feelings for a rebound. You’re usually still too invested in the person you were with beforehand to make a real connection with that person. But if that person ended up helping you get over your past relationship and you formed a connection with them in the process of that you could end up in a very happy relationship.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2020 5:28pm
Rebound relationships do work if both the person are equally comitted towards it and again ready to be together with more respect and love towards each other. Broken relationships create differences. It sometimes make hard to trust again. Broken things too need something to get fixed again. So does the relationship. It requires belie that two people can take each other with open heart with faith that whatever kept them apart will not do again. It takes time. I think if worked rebound relationships proves much more stronger. Relation can be of any type but the thing that every relation need Is love, respect, loyalty and most important understanding.