Do I miss the person, or the relationship?

It depends. We miss the memories, the time we had spent with those people. Let me say it this way, suppose you meet a stranger, had to spend an entire day with him/her. You get home and that's it , you may never meet that person again but you still remember the time spend with that person for some days. Even ,when we had no relation , we tend to miss the memories. So yeah you miss your memories with that person. We miss those memories and end up missing that person because those memories are associated with them. Every little memory remind us of them. So , we should daily try to move on a little

Personally I’ve asked myself the same question over a million times, and honestly, it took me years to figure out the answer as it took a lot of time, growth and personal experiences through the years for me to finally get the answer I was looking for. It all depends on the relationship itself and the timeframe in which it occurred. To me, she happened to be my first relationship and when it was over, I couldn’t help but figured what would have happened if things didn’t ended the way it did. But truth is, maybe some things are meant to happen for you to finally get that special person you were supposed to be with. At least, that was what I thought as I finally met my partner in crime, my soul mate and my best friend all in one person. My answer to the question? I do not miss either one, though she was my first relationship, it was genuinely just a first attachment, nothing more and nothing less. Though I’m grateful as if it weren’t for her, I wouldn’t have been where I am to this day, nor would I have met my current partner. No regrets.

Sometimes you miss the relationship you have with the person not the person itself. You miss the conversations, affectionateness, and the love they use to show you. So think about it this way. You can always create more memories with new people; create relationships with new people and experience these things yourself! Don't hold on to someone because of the memories you all have with each other rather than hold on to relationships that are positive and can be beneficial to you in the long run instead of causing you more pain than good! I hope my answer helped you (:

Imagine what it was like with that individual. Then, imagine it with someone else. Do you feel more strongly in the scenario with your ex than the one with a random person? If so, it may be that you miss the person. Which is totally okay!.. Reflect on how healthy that relationship was, and remember that time heals all wounds. It’s easy to get hung up on how a certain person made you FEEL, when really any decent person could do the same. It’s a hard point to come to terms with, but when you do, it’ll make moving on a lot easier! Good luck and best wishes (:

I believe it depends on the situation. The person can be horrible but you miss the relationship aspect, and vice versa. I thought I missed the person for a long time, but when I did some self-reflecting I realized I just missed the relationship and their personality. Always take time for yourself and self care!

Both, but isn't seperating the person from the relationship a way of separating the actually inseparable. I belief human connections and romantic love is more real than matter and shines beyond spacetime... I would say you miss the person and the relationship, if there is hope of getting back together with someone - don't even ask the question, if this seems beyond your current reality to be reunited, there is surely more than one 'the one'. I can and will assure you of that. (because i can and i empathize, and they are not hollow assurances (like dry math, quantum physics and what have you), this stuff is real. take care, and you will find love again.

I honestly can not tell you that. You may be missing one or the other or may be missing both. I can not tell you what you are missing. But, from my personal experience, when I was missing the person I was finding myself thinking more about what they might be doing in that exact moment or start to worry if they had ate, or if they were okay. Then when i was missing the relationship I would find myself reliving those old memories or looking at old videos/pictures. It's hard to tell yourself which you are missing honestly.

I always like to assume you miss the relationship. It's the comfort and the ease that comes with being with a person and the change that is felt after breaking up makes you miss that feeling. I don't know how to tell if you miss the person but I know for a fact that I have thought about missing a person when I was only missing a person to go to the grocery store with or to eat meals with or to provide body heat when I'm cold. Nothing imparticular about them comes to mind when I think about the relationship, more just the convenience and ease that it always brought me.

This is defintiley a tricky question. It's easy to miss the idea of having someone to rely on and getting that feeling confused with actually missing the person. The first step to deciphering this is to learn how to be comfortable and happy being with yourself. IT's important to assign yourself the role of being the person "thats always there" once you learn how to enjoy being by yourself, then you'll understand and grow to learn whether if you miss the person or the relationship. Give yourself space and I want to encourage you to relearn yourself. Good luck!

In my experience, it usually begins with missing the person. At least that is what I acknowledge in the beginning. As time progresses, I gain clarity on whether it is the person or the relationship. Seldom its the person more than the relationship. For me, the value lies within the relationship. The two way street is so important to me. Rarely it is the person I miss because usually the feeling I would get regarding the person, would still regard mostly on the memories of our relationship and not just how I feel about or remember of them. Like my grandparents, I was closer to my maternal grandmother than my paternal grandfather. I have many memories spending time with my grandmother whereas I do not have many with my grandfather. I don't remember missing my grandfather, but I often miss my grandmother. They are both my grandparents and I want to believe I have an equal love for them both but I do long for and miss the times I had with my grandmother more.

Well, that's one interesting question. Maybe you could ask yourself if the person could be replaced. If you had a similar relationship with a different person, would you still feel like you were missing something? You could also ask yourself which aspects you are missing and see if you miss it in general, for example being close to someone physically or is it about THEIR physical presence. If you enjoyed positive things that you got out of the relationship it might be a hint that you are missing that, if you liked things that made the person individual then that's a hint of you missing the person. Either way do keep in mind that you had a relationship with a person so it is likely that you are missing both as an own thing or even the combination of having this relationship with that person.

More like the memories. Break up isn't the best feeling especially after years of being with someone. No matter how hard you try to forget, that memories will stay. It is not bad to cherish those memories because to begin with, you became happy having that person around. It is normal to miss the feeling of having someone saying everyday how much they love you, doing acts to show affection and care. Dear, it is completely normal. Time will come all your wounds will heal, to the point that you no longer miss the person nor the memories. Keep the happy memories it is free and not bad to treasure them.

Hi there, how does this make you feel? And what ended the relationship? Once you have answered these questions you can begin to think of whether it is related to that persons actions, or the fun events you went to together - ie: the fabrication of what kept you both together. It is only really you that can decide if it is the person you miss but it is easy to understand this with time, meditation and advice. Sometimes it is the person, but often we must meet these people to learn lessons. I wish you the best in your journey :)

I think sometimes we make up scenarios of a relationship in our head and when that relationship ends, we miss the version of that person that we made up in our head. I used to be involved with a guy who was always up and down, but in my head I would try to only focus on the good things. That way when things were over it was harder for me to move on because I tried to only focus on the good memories and ignore the bad ones. When I finally was able to come to terms with who he really was, I realized that I was no longer attached to him, and that finally helped me stop missing him.

Sometimes it can be difficult to differentiate between missing the person or the relationship itself. Relationships feel comforting and after a breakup, we can find ourselves missing that feeling of being in a relationship more than the actual person. Identifying the reasoning for the breakup and how you felt with the person in the relationship can be a great tool to understand if it's the person you miss or just that romantic connection. If it's the person, you'll know because you miss the way that they made you feel and the things you two did together. If it's the relationship you miss, it'll be obvious because you'll find you just miss all of the actions and emotions that make a relationship a relationship

This is a great question and i think that once you realize what the answer is it can be pretty beneficial for your growth and understanding of yourself. Sometimes the thing we miss in a certain relationship is the person, but not the way that person really is, but rather how we perceived them and idolized them in the beginning. Also we miss how that person made us feel. The relationship we had with that person might be one of a kind, or might be just something we already had in our life, but that certainly doesn't diminished it's importance to us. We, as human beings, need to feel loved and cared for, that's why we form relationships with others. At the end of the day i think we miss the relationship we thought we had, or we wanted to have, rather than the actual person.

You might miss the relationship and what it was. It is easy to think you miss the person since they are the one who helped in creating the memories of the relationship. The good parts of relationships are what people remember the most and because the person is associated with those memories, they miss the person. So although it is mainly the relationship that you may miss, a tiny part of that is the person as well. The person and the relationship go hand in hand with each other. Without the person, you wouldn't be missing the relationship. Therefore, you might be missing both.

It is normal to reminiscence on past relationships. There are many aspects that might make us feel nostalgic of relationships that have ended. Reminding yourself on why the relationship ended in the first could help you focus on the present. The person in the relationship perhaps had different goals. Your needs might not have been met and the person was not willing to work on them. Despite the cause, evaluating the reason the relationship ended can help you focus on the future. This can eventually help you heal and move on. It is easy to feel sadness when thinking of the part. It can make you question if you made the correct choice. Focusing on the present and remembering that just because there were good times in the relationship does not mean you should always go back.

sometimes we miss the person and sometimes the memories. if you think about the good times.. and you feel like u want to have those great moments back.. then you're probably missing the relationship. but if you think about how the person made u happy.. things like, they were always there for u. they supported you in everything. kept you calm whenever you lose your temper. smiled for your happiness.. cried for your sorrows. made you feel loved. cared for you. pulled u out of the darkness and everything the person did. their way of talking and all. then you're missing the person. those are just my thoughts about it

Often the answer to this question can be both, but sometimes we do simply miss being in a relationship. As humans we are designed for connection. We want and desire and ultimately, need connection. So if you find yourself lonely after a breakup that is completely normal. Our hearts can hurt so much when a relationship ends. It takes awhile to grieve a breakup. Give yourself some time. Be kind to yourself and take care of yourself. Depending on the nature of the relationship, yes, you might really miss the good parts about the person or good times you hard before the relationship changed or got more difficult. One things that can help it either talking through this with a trusted friend or Listener, or therapist, or journaling your thoughts and feelings. Sending you good vibes for healing.

Honestly, from my own personal experience, it's both. When you spend all of your time and energy into this one person, you end up getting very attached and soon even - maybe - you're allowing yourself to be vulnerable with them. Being with someone can often be comforting. Having a relationship is something lots of people want. You really do miss the person, as well as being romantically involved with them - however that looks for you - and it's such a shame that's so sad when it all ends. It's not wrong to miss either one - person or relationship - it's natural and normal. But know this, it also depends on the person. If they were abusive to you at times and then other times they were everything you've ever wanted, it's most likely that you are missing being in a relationship with them. So just look at your life; that relationship: was your partner heaven or hell? In the end, was it all worth the heartache? Thank you so much for your time...