Do I miss the person, or the relationship?

Maybe it's just the feeling the person gave you when you were in relationship with them. Post-relationship you still know that the person once was able to give you that feeling, so you see them in that same light.. and seeing them, you feel the same thing over again even if they no longer behave like it. You may say you miss the relationship, because of what that person made you feel, and missing the person is figuratively saying you miss how they were. So I guess that is something which is in coexistence most of the times.

It depends on where you are at in relation to the loss - how recent it is. At first we tend to miss the person. It is also likely we remember the really good times and tend to forget the bad or see them in an altered way that make them not seem as bad. After some time it can seem like maybe you miss someone but perhaps not the person you were with although you may still long for them at times. I'm this place I have found what you're missing is a relationship and being close with someone. You likely feel lonely. Although you might miss the person it's probably not them you are missing but what you had and that you've lost that for yourself. A part of yourself you'll only see when in a relationship. When you are ready to move on or try dating you'll probably find that's when you realise you haven't missed the person for a while, it was the closeness and the good feeling you had. Good luck!

Well that’s a very good question, do you see a future with them? Do you want to wake up next to them in bed everyday? Do you want to start a family with them? Or do you miss the feeling he brought when he was around? Once you answer those questions you will have a round about answer. But before you try and pursue them again make sure you know cause you don’t want to start a relationship just to end it and leave them alone and heartbroken. If you want further assistance feel free to private message me cause my messages is always open!

Perhaps both - and that's more than okay. Breakups are difficult. That person was a big part of your life, and so letting them go can be very difficult. Time heals all though. Eventually, you'll come to realise that sometimes, we lose touch with people for a reason, and for the better too. The most important relationship you will ever have - as you may have heard - is the relationship that you have with yourself, and it should be nurtured daily through self love and care. In the end, you'll find that the breakups and other hardships that we experience, although they hurt terribly, actually shape us and make us better, more resilient, understanding people.

In my experience, I miss the relationship more than the person because it feels unhealthy to constantly be thinking about my ex and it makes trying to move on harder, especially if I liked how things were going for us. It just gave me a chance to improve my next relationship (it's still lasting, too) and made me more experienced to the point that I'm able to share my experiences with others and hopefully help them out more than usual. Missing the relationship also helped me figure out what I was really looking for in future relationships that I might have.

I have missed both. But I think it was mostly the relationship that I missed. The good times, even the bad ones. The habit of doing certain things with one person, simply something that was ingrained in my mind as a routine. I did miss the person too, but it was more of an idea of having them in the experience of the relationship itself that I really missed. Even when the person changed, those memories we had didn’t. And the whole concept of something that we had was what I couldn’t let go of. But there were more experiences to come and more memories to make with people I wouldn’t have to feel regretful about, so eventually I moved on.

That's always a tricky question. What do you think? If you find another person to date as of right now, and you're just as happy, I would say that you miss the relationship. But if you think back of when you first met that person, and feel nostalgic, perhaps you do indeed miss that individual. All in all, missing a person and relationship can be very intertwined so it's hard to say. I'd say that you'll know with time.

You most likely miss the relationship. It the feeling of being in a relationship. Especially if the person was toxic/hurt you in anyway. It is most likely that you really do miss the feeling of being with someone and having someone that loves you vs the actual person. If you truly loved the person, then what I had said before couldn’t be what it was. If you truly loved them then you may actually miss the actual person. If you do find the second is a better fit for you and your situation, then try to talk to see if you could try at the relationship back or even see a friendship can come from it

This is a hard one.. I think it depends on the person. Sometimes it is the person, yet other times it’s the relationship. Often people dive into relationships just to be in one, which is not a good idea, if you’re not yet ready. But then, you genuinely begin to love that person, and once they dump you, it drops your confidence level to a very low place. But you have to remember that boyfriends/girlfriends aren’t all there is to life. And sometimes it is for the best of they’re not a part of it. Sometimes you have to learn to let go and give yourself a break, which can end up being extremely beneficial for your health.

Sometimes, people don't necessarily miss the person their partner became but rather the person they first were or the person they had hoped for. Many things trigger memories of good times in the relationship even if it was best to end it. You miss a relationship when you instinctively reach for a hand next to you that is no longer there. When you toss around restlessly in bed at night because you were so used to someone sharing your bed. Remember, people change but our memories stay the same. You will always miss the happy memories you shared and sometimes seeing other people in happy relationships make us miss what we once had.

Depends. If you really miss that person, you won't be able to forget all of the good things they've done to you. And how they changed you. But if you miss the relationship, you'll look at your memorable photos while remembering how you felt back then. Beside, relationships getting into an end is normal. Probably you want them to come back. But if you really love that person to the point you miss them a lot, you will do more than that. There are two choices: you either smile whenever you see them or hear their name while hoping for the best for them. Or you won't back down and you'll try to make them know how much they mean to you.

It depends on what you had in your relationship prior to the breakup. If he/she was a great person, it is very possible and very likely you miss the person being around you all the time and loving on you all the time. On the same token, if you were satisfied in the relationship and it truly made you happy, you could be missing that type of relationship with the person. There are some situations though where you miss both the person and the relationship. It just really depends on how happy you were in the relationship then you can narrow it down.

While unraveling the end of a relationship, what you might find out is that you neither miss the person nor the relationship, but the presence itself. From personal experience, I've witnessed people simply ending one relationship and instantly jumping into another. Why does this sort of pattern occurs? Because for someone who's afraid to deal with this lack of presence, the need to have someone who can automatically fill this empty space appears. Nevertheless, we all know that from a conscious viewpoint, this is a behavior that is only meant to support an illusion based on the fear that others are the ones who can only fill the emptiness in our lives, plus delaying the resolution in which that space we always run away from by disguising it through someone else's presence is the space that is waiting to be filled by the love you give yourself. This is the heart of conscious presence and self-love.

Could be a little bit of both. It could just be the familiarity of the person or the situation that you miss.

Many a times I feel that we miss the idea of being in a relationship more than we miss the actual person or the relationship itself. Because we've identified ourselves through that relationship for a while when we go through a break up we feel as though part of our identity is gone and that is often what we miss. As well as that the people we surrounded ourselves with who are in a relationship often make us remember our past relationship and if they are happy it makes us miss the relationship we had rather than the person.

It depends on the individual. Some people miss both and that is definitely normal, however, what most people really miss is the feeling of the relationship. In my personal experience, the person wasn't a good person, so I didn't directly miss them. I missed the feeling of being wanted by a person in that way. In the beginning, it can be foggy because you really do miss the person, but as you start to heal you discover that they aren't the thing you miss most. Healing can be a long process but it will make you a stronger person in the end!

It honestly depends. I've been in a situation like this and it really does depend. You have to ask yourself did I miss the feeling of being loved and cared for or do I miss the person that was doing it? Do I miss the memories or do I miss the person I was making memories with? Can you image yourself reliving them with someone else and for it to not hurt that much or can you not move on from the memory of them? Once you figure that out you'll have a better way to either get into a healthier and new relationship because you know that's what you want, or you'll finally allow yourself to move on because now you have your answer and you are finally getting some closure. :)

This is such a hard one because often times we can’t distinguish between the two. Sometimes people are codependent and rely on having a partner too much. Sometimes people place to much value into other people instead of themselves. This happens when people validate their existence based on whether or not they have a partner. It’s natural to mourn a relationship once it is over. Some questions to ask yourself: Do I think about missing out on the potential future I had with this person? What did this person provide to me that I am unable or unwilling to provide to myself? Do I need a partner to feel validated? Answering these questions can shed some light onto the situation and assist you with processing your thoughts regarding what you miss. Of course there are other important questions to ask yourself as well, but this is a good start. Keep in mind that surviving a breakup requires time. You have to endure the mourning process of what once was and what could have been, and then prepare yourself for a new chapter in your life without that person/relationship. Keep your head up. You’ve got this!!!

From my own experience you miss the relationship. Even if it was a bad one with maybe a person who wasn't right for you in anyway there was still good times that you want to hold on to. I missed the relationship, those moments of feeling happy and loved. When I think back on the relationship, I miss the relationship itself and the things that came with that. When I think about the person I just feel angry and hurt. It really depends on the relationship and one what terms it ended. But based on my past relationships and what I've seen others experience, you usually miss the person.

Could be both! Depends on how your experience with the relationship was. If you miss being praised and held then you miss all the things that came from being in the relationship. If you miss being praised and held from the specific person, then you miss the person. If the significant other mistreated you, you still can miss the person very much so. It's normal to miss being in a relationship especially if you don't expect to be in another one anytime soon. It is a massive change in your life and lifestyle. After becoming adapted to the specific lifestyle and having it unexpected change, the feeling of being in a relationship can be missed as well as the person.

The answer could be, both. This is dependent on the type of relationship you had with that other individual and the type of person they were. You could miss the individual for the type of person they were, which may have made you feel a range of emotions. You could miss them for the way they made you feel. But most of the time relationships provide a sense of comfort and security, which you may miss once you're out of the relationship. This environment may have made you feel safe because you were comfortable with the environment. This environment changes once you're out of the relationship because you're forced to adapt to a different environment.

Try to think about it concretely and realistically. Would any other person be fine, if it was the same situation? Or do you want that person specifically? Even knowing it won't ever be the same? Sometimes you just need some time to clear up your mind about these things. If you have the possibility to, talk to the person you have in mind. How does it make you feel? If you realize that there isn't much attraction whatsoever, or even that they get on your nerves, you miss the relationship. Remember also that, there's a reason why you've broken up. You really need to keep that in mind when you miss someone. We often can't imagine a better person than what we just had, but there will always come someone that loves you a bit more. People change as well, consider that you might miss the memory of the person you were together with. I hope this helped!

This is a great question. Most times it is the latter option because of the memories, good times, and routines that you and this person created together. However, many people do find they miss the person that was in the happy memories or the person before the breakup. A good way to figure out which one you're missing ask yourself what you remember most about this. It may seem counterintuitive at first, but if experiences come to mind rather than character traits or very specific memories then it's most likely you miss the experience that a relationship brought you. Because while you can recreate experiences, you can't recreate a person or mimic them.

I think that this a problem that most people struggle with after having a special relationship with someone- I for one definitely did. However, there is no right or wrong way to figure this out. I can, however, say that what worked for me quite well was to sit down and write out the things that I were missing. And then I looked at each, really thought about it and determined whether it was the person or the relationship. In the end, looking at my two columns I had made, it was easier to determine which I wanted. Of course, I also did this when I was in different states of mind and it was interesting to see how much my opinion and understanding of each option changed. It's very important to keep in mind that our moods have a great influence on the way we think and rationalize things.

It can be both, or a singular one of these. I know in my past I had been in a relationship and after it ended, I found myself missing the small things that made the relationship, having someone there and being able to share news and sadness with this person. It wasn't quite the person, but the situation. However, it isn't uncommon to miss a person, the way they laugh or smile or just them being there. I think it depends on your own experience and feelings, you know yourself the best and it might take time to realise what you miss, but do not judge yourself for missing something right now. You are grieving what has been lost and that is more than ok. Take time to care for yourself and build that happiness of being alone back up.

It can go either way depending on the situation and how long you have known each other. When missing the person you genially miss being around them, having fun with them, all the laugh you two might have experienced together and everything else. It's normal for you to miss them being the go to person when something great happens in your life or for you to want to go to them when something not so great might happen in your life. When missing the relationship you miss being loved. Maybe their type of love towards you wasn't like anybody else's type of love towards you. Maybe you even felt as though that caring affection only was there when they would show it. You know you miss the relationship rather then the person when you can get that same type of affection from someone else and then you start to like them. That would mean that you miss the relationship more than the person because It wouldn't matter who is doing it as long as someone is doing it or giving you affection.

I miss the person who I care about, not what I remember as a relationship since circumstances may have changed to alter that. It is the person that is most valuable to me. A person is very specific and important. They have their own thoughts and assumptions which are very much part of their personality. It is this that makes the person unique and wonderful. Of course this is what love stories and novels are all about, the character and makeup of an individual which is endlessly interesting to read about. Then there are questions of nature vs nurture in the formulation of an individual and their personality. A person is very special and can be a friend and supporter. This is very important to us all and makes us social animals.

A relationship comes along with a lot of promises , aspirations and a lot of attachments in the form of memories . whenever a person commits to a single relationship , there is a constant work involved and often we try our best to eternalise the relationship . Alas ! often , we have breakups due to numerous reasons , and most of the times breakups are for good and betterment of both the parties involved , but after a breakup , we see ourselves stuck whether in the person ,majority of the times its the shared memories and most importantly the good memories, we miss that and yearn for that . so you miss neither the person ,nor the relationship but the shared good times .

It can be hard. You do miss the person, you want to go back. You want things to go back to normal, because as humans we like normal. We dont like change in our lives but sometimes change can be good. Sometimes change shows us the reality. We cant live all our lives with toxic people and we have to move forward in our lives. But that can be hard, out of 10 months, maybe 3 months were positive but we would always just think about the positive and not the negative. We miss this person even though we know they werent any good for us.

You miss the relationship. The reason the relationship ended was due to the people you and the person became. From previous experience, trying to go back to a relationship that ended isn’t always the best given the stressors that occurred in the termination of the relationship. The stressors can give insecurities and will always give the sense that the relationship will end again. Also, in the beginning of relationships people try to impress and show their best selves forward to get you to like them but people go through experiences and meet others that make them adapt and their personality can differ given the situations.