Why am I so nervous around my boyfriend?

Perhaps you are worried about being the best version of yourself so he continues to like you. But if you are in a relationship with him he likes you for you. Try to be yourself around him more and more, and the nerves will disappear.

Maybe it's a new relationship~ The beginning is always awkward but you're learn to get used to and even appreciate it!

Maybe cause you really like him and don't want to mess up or do something silly. Maybe you can talk to him on this and share how you are feeling about this. That way you have his support and both of you can work on this together. :)

Maybe if you’ve just established your relationship you’re scared of saying something wrong or scaring him off in some way, or if you’ve been in the relationship for a while you might think he’s getting bored of you or he’ll break up with you and you’re nervous due to one of those feelings

You must like them a lot! You're scared of doing something wrong or embarrassing yourself in front of them :P

There are various reasons for people to feel anxious around their partners. It could be trauma in romantic relations from the past. It could be that the partner can be high-strung/unappreciative/condescending. Or it can just be the newness of a relationship and there's a lot of getting used to. Relationships are hard, and communication is the key. :)

I can't give you an answer because I don't know either of you or your relationship, but here are a few questions you can ask yourself.. 1. how long have you been together? 2. have you always felt this way around your boyfriend? 3. (if not to 2) is there something that changed about your relationship when you started feeling nervous... a large commitment, meeting family, relationship steps, tough conversation? 4. Have you talked to him about your feelings and been vulnerable with him before? Many times we become anxious if we haven't had to address difficult things with partners before, or if a new situation arises/happens. Maybe some of these questions will help you notice changes in your relationship. Sometimes all it takes is being vulnerable and talking to your partner, so if you are able to mention your feelings to him it might be a good step. It's hard to be vulnerable, or let someone know you're nervous, but it usually pays off. Best of luck. Cheers.

Actually can relate on personal level to this. There can be many reasons to justify your nervousness. If it is a recent relationships you may be too much worried to make everything right and please the best you can and that may get you nervous to be around your boyfriend because your strive for perfection may create permanent tension on you every time you are with him. This could also be justified if you're a overall nervous person, or if you are very shy and never know what you want to talk about, even with your own boyfriend.. from personal experience, I can tell that this usually goes away after a bit of time and you get more comfortable with the other person, it just takes more time for people that are more introvert... Everyone has different times to feel comfortable, even if we are talking about partners, so, as long as it isn't causing you too much trouble or overthinking, I would say it can be quite normal on the beginning of some relationships. But if there are stuff that bother you, or even if you think too much about this, try to talk with him, be open with the way you feel, and maybe you both can fix that better.

It's the pressure of wanting his approval! You might feel like you need to maintain his liking you, and that makes you nervous because it's scary valuing someone's approval! However well you get on and however comfortable you are, it might be that you feel like you need him to like you and think you're funny, or smart or whatever it is. Obviously he does like you thought, so there's really no need to worry at all. Think about the you that you are with your closest friend, which is usually the most relaxed you that doesn't feel the need to try as hard, so just try and be this you with your boyfriend.

If you don't feel comfortable, there could be many reasons as to why you feel nervous around your boyfriend. Some people could be nervous because they do not have anything in common. Others could be nervous because they do not feel like they fit in with their boyfriend's friends or family. A solution to this would be to talk to him about your feelings and as to why you are feeling this way. Also, you might want to consider taking a break from the relationship if you start feel too uncomfortable. Please talk to him and i hope everything is okay!

awww This is a sweet question. You are most likely nervous around your boyfriend because you really like him. If this is the beginning of the relationship you experience a lot of happiness and gittyness around him. It's perfectly okay to feel like this and it's normal too. It is refered to as the honeymoon stage of a relationship and my best advice is enjoy it while it lasts. Have fun and relax. I'll add a note though if you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around this person then that is a completely different feeling and needs further exploration. I hope this helps you a little bit.

I personally think that you aren't comfortable with him. Or you feel something might happen between you guys. Also your brain could be telling you he is a bad person even though he isnt. There are many things that could be triggering that to happen. The thing I personally think that is happening is you may not be comfortable yet. But that's just my idea. It could be anything, you know what you are thinking and your opinion matters. I hope you have a great day, and things aren't as weird between you and your boyfriend. I hope I helped in some sort of way. From Evie.

well it depends on whats going on concerning your boyfriend. one important thing to note is that there are many entities that ride the bodies of what we call "human". There are narcissist, borderline, emotional predators, emotional parasites, proxies, genuine people with low perception (who could become proxies), genuine people who see truth clearly (like minded). this is why it is so important to have CLEAR PERCEPTION and to be able to JUDGE clearly. so that we know whom we are dealing with. many entities would try to distort your perception to prevent you from developing the skills needed to put yourself in the right environments. where you wouldnt need to feel nervous. you didnt give many details on the matter so i comments based on what i thought you might be talking about. thanks

If you are new to romance then it could just be fear of the unknown. Otherwise, you are probably afraid of rejection and/or abandonment. Romantic relationships have a way of triggering various psychological complexes that have grown over time. One of these powerful complexes is the one that talks/thinks about romantic relationships. A powerful yearning to be with your boyfriend will result in powerful fear of losing him and the relationship. We definitely don't want our complexes to create unnecessary drama in the relationship. So the best thing to do is try to be aware of the nervousness when it arises. "Surrender" your attention to those feelings of fear, and your mind will be better able to decide if any of that fear is warranted in your current relationship. You may also want to tell your bf about your feelings of nervousness. Good luck!

There are four main reason to be nervous. 1. He is having certain expectation from the relationship. so you feel he is judging your every move and every behavior of yours. So the nervousness. 2. until and unless you become familiar with your boy friend. you feel meeting is always new exploration. Exploration is always has unknown factor. so this unknown factor brings in the nervousness. 3. where anyone and everyone face the change. The change will bring in the nervous feelings. 4 some time you may not be "what you are' when you boy friend around. You may tend mask your true feelings and may act like being happy or sad. While acting you also feel that other person may recognize your true feelings. so you feel nervous due to this.

I think we can become nervous or anxious around our significant others due too insecurities. the things that bother us or make up look at ourselves differently we think that our partner may look like us that way. I personally am very nervous around my partner, I think its because I hold them way higher up than I see my self. Another answer would be because we don't trust our partner and or are uncomfortable around them. Which could use some communication, and honesty. Learning to be more self loving and confident can help improve a relationship or nervousness around a partner.

Perhaps this is a new relationship whenever you are both getting to know one another. This time can be exciting but also nervous, especially if you like him and do not want to mess it up. Another theory could be that his behaviour warrants you to be nervous. Has he gave you reason to be nervous? For instance is his behaviour unpredicable and explosive and you are on edge not knowing what is coming next. Or maybe you have had a bad relationship previously which you are holding onto scars from which is making you nervous around your current boyfriend.

Maybe it is a new relationship? Maybe life has taught you to be submissive or hide your true self? Maybe you have an unresolved conflict with each other? I hope you feel better soon and work out the reason why. Perhaps therapy or journaling could help you find the reasons why. Or some experiential exercises. I wish you well and hope the relationship goes well but if not future relationships do. I hope one day you do not feel nervous and can be yourself at all times, as life is too short to censor yourself or to overthink

What is it you find yourself nervous about? Maybe you feeling anxious is correlated with a lack of self confidence? If you’ve had previous relationship trauma maybe that’s part of the reason you find yourself anxious in your relationship now? It depends on your situation for why you might feel this way to be honest. I feel like to summarize there is definitely a lack of comfort and confidence in either you, your boyfriend, or your relationship with your boyfriend (or all of the above.) if there’s something that particularly makes you anxious about your boyfriend, ask yourself why you might feel that way and see if you can work things out from there

You may not know him well enough, or are just afraid you may disgust him, offend or accidentally chase him away by doing something wrong. You are afraid he might not love you, the real you and that after finding out who you really are he would leave you. This type of anxiety is common, don't worry. It will be fine. You can talk to him about it to straighten things out, and improve your relationship. Talking is what helps us realize what the problems are and how to help overcome them, improve ourselves. Your nervousness may come from low self-esteem as well.

It is entirely possible you're only nervous around your boyfriend because it is a newly found relationship. You don't want to do the wrong move or say the wrong thing. If this is the case you will eventually grow and over time become more comfortable with him. This comfortably will continue to grow. I would not think too much of the nervousness you are experiencing. It is simply, most likely, just a sign you care for him, the relationship you are growing with him over time and do not want to accidentally mess things up. Good luck with your relationship!

It's difficult to answer this question without hearing what it's like for you in your relationship. You could have realistic worries about the future of your relationship or be struggling with attachment issues (you can look this up and see if this rings true for you); you might have experienced something in your past that he reminds you of subconsciously, or with him that his very presence is a reminder for. You could care how he sees you because you don't like the risk of people knowing you too well... These sorts of things are quite common and worth thinking about and especially talking through either here on 7 cups or with your therapist.

it is normal to be nervous around someone you love. This is because you don’t want to do anything that will make them dislike you even a bit so you play it safe. you will be aware of everything that you do and make sure that it’s adapted to making him love you the same or even more. This is not just a person, he is someone who is extremely close to you and whom you share a romantic bond with. Maybe it’s not just nervousness, maybe it’s the butterfly feeling you get in youe stomach because he’s just so so cute and you cant handle his cuteness. HOWEVER, if it’s the type of nervousness which make us feel uncomfortable that is when it’s a concern because the whole point of a boyfriend is to be comfortable and yourself around them.

Is this a new relationship? That is one hundred percent normal if it is. I mean, when you go from having a crush on someone to being in a relationship, you won't just suddenly stop having the butterfly feeling around them. This is referred to by most as the honeymoon phase. Talk to him! Chances are that he is feeling every single bit just as nervous and apprehensive as you. Nerves are often just part of attraction. Just know that there is nothing wrong with either you or him, and this is pretty typical in relationships. Best luck to you all!

I can be nervous around my boyfriend, but I’m getting much better. What I did was I talked to him. You are probably worried that he won’t like you if you do something. When I talked to him, he was so nice about it no joke. He said that I was too cute to be embarrassed for instance. Try talking to yours! If he truly likes and cares about you, he would help you and not think you are crazy or something. Sometimes I have to remember that he likes me, or he wouldn’t be asking me out, want to talk or hang out with me. Just try it! Hope this helps!

I would like to start by saying that feeling nervous is neither a good or bad thing. It is simply an emotion. Next, different things make different people nervous. When a relationship is new, a lot remains unknown. Depending on one's personality, this might be exciting for some, but nerve-racking for others. One wants to make a good first impression. One wonders how their boyfriend reacts in different situations. There are endless what-if's and possibilities for the relationship that remain to be seen. Ideally, as the relationship progresses, you would feel a level of security in knowing some of these things. So, if you're just starting out, it's natural to wonder what the future holds, but don't let it stop you from enjoying the ride of discovery. If your relationship has progressed and you're still nervous, it is important to reflect on what might be preventing you from being comfortable around someone you would want to feel free with.

Most of us feel at least a little nervous when starting a new relationship. This is due to the persistent fear of one or more situations in which the person is exposed to possible scrutiny by others and fears that he or she may do something or act in a way that will be humiliating or embarrassing. The best way to cope with dating anxiety is to focus on one’s sense of self-acceptance and self-worth. When a person feels good about who they are, their values and what they have to offer, it bolsters them against judgment. By calming their harshest inner critic, it opens the door to experiencing  closer connections with others. Good luck!

It may be because you want to make him like you, or it may be because you dont want to mess it up. There are alot of reasons, but whatever it is, remember there are plenty of fish in the sea. You dont need to chase after the love of someone that's just going to hurt you in the end. you have plenty of people that love you, and there will be someone eventually. You dont need a boy to love you. God loves you for who you are, and nothing can change that, no matter what you say.

There could me multiple reasons for this. Assuming your boyfriend is respectful of you and has never harmed you, you could be nervous due to having strong feelings for him and the desire to impress him. Sometimes when we want to act our best, we get nervous. If you haven't known him for a long time, you could be nervous because you are afraid to reveal too much of yourself in case he doesn't like what he sees. On the other hand, if your boyfriend has a temper or has abused you in the past, you could be nervous about upsetting him. Either way, you need not feel nervous. If you can't be yourself in the relationship, it isn't going to be a healthy/fair relationship. You need to feel calm to be your best version of yourself. And, if your partner is abusing you or has a temper, you need to confront him about it. If he refuses to change, consider leaving him. It's not worth giving up our happiness for someone who doesn't respect you.

There has to be a reason, if so, write your feelings down, wether they are good or nervous feelings, it helps to keep a diary! As my mother always says, trust your gut. Relationships are supposed to be a happy time, not a nervous one, but its normal to feel that way once in a while. Life is not a disney movie. As somebody who also is in a relationship for almost two years now, I get nervous too! The main reason is because I am afraid of embarrasing myself :)! Always be yourself! You are awesome! Good luck girlie!!