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because you love him and you want to give your best to him. you dont want to ruin anything because you want him to feel lucky for choosing you to be his girlfriend
You want to impress him I assume. That's normal but worry too much over leaving a good impression, there are many other people in the world who would love you for you so don't change yourself for him.
Anonymous
February 21st, 2018 7:10pm
It can take time to get comfortable with someone, even in a relationship. It's normal. Maybe it's trust issues, maybe it's the past that could be affecting it, maybe it's nothing but nerves. It's okay to feel that way, maybe try to talk to him about it?
In a good way or a bad way. Those butterflies and heartflutters can be wonderful. If there's an underlying concern about his treatment of you or others, you may need to get this relationship some serious thought.
You may feel as if you are not good enough for him, or have a fear that he will dislike you if you act normal. It also could be because you're falling in love, or because you like him so much that you become unable to focus, shaky, etc. You have to decide how you feel in order to determine what is happening to you.
You may be nervous around your boyfriend because your just beginning your relationship and you want to make a good impression on the other hand you may be nervous around him because he has mistreated you in some way
Because either he makes you feel like you have never felt before or you are insecure about yourself around him.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 2:05pm
Maybe you are scared he will hurt you or leave you, be annoyed at something you say or do, or maybe you are scared of doing the opposite to him...
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 5:22pm
You may be feeling anxiety around him, especially if it is a new relationship. Try communicating your feelings to him and see if he is willing to do something or change something about the situation to help you feel better!
there could be several reason for it ... is it shyness that makes you nervous ? or the fear of doing something wrong... the fear of losing him... the fear of being judged... or a mix of some reasons ...
Anonymous
November 24th, 2017 10:06am
Perhaps he puts pressure on you or you don't feel comfortable around him. It's important to know that you do not have to be perfect around your partner, just be yourself!
Anonymous
December 6th, 2017 5:47am
Because you probably like so much you're worried about how you're acting around him and what he will think.
Because his acceptance is important to you so you want things to be "just right" that add to the sense of nervousness
I felt the same way for a while. I know what you are going through. The best way to get through it is to realize they like you for who you are and you are allowed to be yourself!
I used to be that way, I was just a little scared of being judged. It took me a while to finally be comfortable and completely myself around him. :)
Anonymous
February 4th, 2018 1:49am
You are possibly afraid he will leave you, maybe you fear being alone, it's possible that you have had some bad experiences in the past and it's always in the back of your mind.
Nervousness or anxiety always comes from a place of consideration, it stems from caring too much. By being nervous it means you care too much about your boyfriend, perhaps what he thinks and feels, or perhaps you care too much about what may happen or what you may say or what you may appear to him. Nonetheless, you care about him, yourself, and overall this relationship, it's not bad to be nervous, it is bad when you let it grow out of control. Take some deep breaths and ask yourself what you care about and why then try to find the underlying reasons and confront them with a rational mind. For example, you care that your boyfriend might not think you're enough, so you confront it with the rational mind by thinking of course he finds me enough, I'm human and although I make mistakes and so does he, he understands that which is why we're okay together, despite whatever troubles we encounter or arguments we are still together because he doesn't think I'm enough instead he thinks I am more than enough and that he loves me for who I am. You're boyfriend or rather any worthy relationship is meant to be a place of comfort over time as you get more comfortable and confront this nervousness you should be comfortable with him but for now it's okay to be nervous you're still figuring things out and that's okay. Everything in life is about progression. So take some deep breaths and when able to think with a rational mind and open heart.
Anonymous
December 1st, 2019 8:15pm
there could be several reasons. if you're new in a relationship then it could just be that you're still trying to adjust into something that may be a little unfamiliar. if it has been a couple of months, it may be a little more difficult to answer this question. if you're nervous about how he thinks you are looking, then that may be problematic. in a healthy relationship, your boyfriend could recognize that you are beautiful inside and outside. so at this point, if you are worried about physical appearance, that may be a little problematic regarding your relationship.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2019 12:01am
He makes you feel emotions which others do not. He raises your interest levels in ways which make you feel unsure about your own identity. It's natural to be nervous. We want to be seen and heard in ways which makes us seem sometimes more then were not. But by being secure with are own identity we will not worry about what may be silly or something we don't know about. Being are true selves is the most important thing and if we do that, we can learn to always be comfortable with most people and situations. If we find we can't be at peace ever around another it may be someone you are naturally protecting yourself from. Hope you find some solace in these words
Anonymous
April 17th, 2020 3:54am
It might be that you are putting a high expectation on yourself to perform to an extent. Depending on whether it is your first relationship or not, you may be thinking about a lot of things and it shows in your physiology - being nervous. It helps to break that barrier by being open around him and understanding that he, like you, is a human being and it's likely that he is nervous too. Drink water and be as calm as possibly can be. But also - there might be a valid reason to your nervousness and never forget what your body tells you about someone, if there is a reason for that nervousness. The situation may be potentially dangerous or anxiety-inducing to you.
This could be for a number of reasons but only you can answer that question fully however; I would like to assume positively here and in my most recent experience, the cause of my nervousness with my (now husband) other half was because he gives me all the feels. Despite being friends for nearly 20 years before we started dating. He is really smart and knows a lot about of a lot things which could be intimidating at times and he is so darn cute it was hard not to be! It was never anything like he was arrogant or anything like that but I wanted him to be proud of me and not seem uneducated.
You could be nervous around your boyfriend for many reasons. Maybe you are intimidated y a relationship and what it means. I know their have been times where I would get anxious before hanging out with certain guys because I was afraid of doing something I wasn't comfortable with. Maybe you are afraid of intimacy or your boyfriends expectations. If not this it could be possible that your boyfriend makes you uncomfortable because of something he does,like pressing you. The first step to fixing the problem is to try and find the source. If anything it could just be the anxiousness associated with the beginning of a relationship and it can fade.
Anonymous
April 30th, 2016 5:20pm
well ..you are with the person with whom you are about to make your memories together and wanna make your life in a happy and wishful way ... so its pretty much common that you get nervous at times ....
but .. being nervous is also a good thing ... cause you feel much more excitement and just pour your mind and soul .. with that person .. so you always feel more or it :)
Anonymous
September 12th, 2020 3:35pm
Hi! I think you are nervous around your boy friend because you are not confident about yourself in front of him. Your self esteem may drop in front of him if you think you are not enough for him. But this feeling must not be there in a good relationship. You must feel yourself freely in front of your significant other. Taking care of yourself can boost your confidence hopefully. You may also feel nervous around him because you are afraid of loosing him or past events with him might have been having a trauma since then! The reasons could vary from person to person, so think before you act anything! Have a great day!
Anonymous
November 5th, 2020 6:21pm
although there isnt a certain answer for that, i can talk about personal experience. sometimes when you really love someone you want them to love you back, and looking at them, you may feel like theyre better than you, so you try to "impress" them or just get them to notice good things about you, you force yourself to do everything perfect, and that can make you feel nervous.
There are many reasons you could feel anxious around your significant other. perhaps they have said something to make you doubt yourself, or perhaps there is something in the back of your mind causing these feelings to arise subconciously. Maybe you feel so strongly for him that you are unsure how to interpret these emotions, so they are coming out in an anxious feeling.
This could be anything. It could be your feelings towards him make you react in a nervous manner. If I were you, I'd record how I feel around him and see if it's positive or negative nerves.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 8:54am
Take baby steps in a relationship. It’s normal to feel nervous around your boyfriend and maybe you should tell him how you feel
Anxiety comes as a natural thing to us when we are trying our best. Perhaps you like this person so much that you want to give this person your best impression and the feeling that you get is that of walking on eggshells when you are around him.
Nervousness around a partner usually stems from a place of insecurity and lack of connection or openness between the people. You may feel that you will do something wrong to lose his love, or that you don't feel safe to be your true self.
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