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What if I am not good at what I love to do?

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Anonymous
March 22nd, 2016 7:17am
There is no such thing as being good or not, it's all depend on how long you have been doing it. Go do it, don't let the fear of being good or perfect keep you from doing things that you love.
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Nsquared15
January 26th, 2016 2:37pm
As long as you love doing what you are doing, you shouldn't care about whether or not you are good at it. Stressing yourself about something like that does nothing but cause, well, stress. Misplaced stress that should be used in other environments.
Anonymous
January 11th, 2016 12:53am
You will never know unless you try. If you love to do it, you can practice until you're great at it.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2015 12:04pm
You are good, you can be who you want to be but it just requires patience and years of practice to be good at what you love to do
Anonymous
November 29th, 2015 6:40am
Just keep trying. Because you will get better.
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trisjlistens
November 10th, 2015 8:15am
Personally, I don't let it frustrate me. Sometimes I'm not good at something that I love so what I do is I don't show it to anyone. I'm not sure if it's a good thing but I don't see it as a responsibility to show it to anyone else---I do it for myself. So even though it's an art (for example) and it doesn't look that artsy then it's okay. At least I enjoyed doing it.
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alwaysJoy
March 27th, 2016 6:44pm
As long as you love to do it and it makes you happy, keep doing it! Plus, more practice will help you get even better at it.
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slaptaspinkis123
October 27th, 2015 11:42am
You have to try and try and try... How it says: practise makes it perfect! Start to believe in yourself :)
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DexterKMScobee
September 21st, 2015 9:28pm
If you are doing your best and still loving it, then you are good at it. Don't base your levels on how others are. You're doing your best. That's what matters.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2015 10:13pm
Then you'll just have to get better then, won't you? (; Try, and never stop trying until you've succeeded at achieving your dream. Even if you shoot for the moon and miss, you're bound to land among the stars. (;
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IntuitiveDrops
June 17th, 2015 1:05pm
This is a very good question. We often have to practice those things, even if we have a natural talent for it. If you really have the passion, you will be also willing to set yourself goals and motivations around that special talent or field of yours. However, if that really isn´t what you´re good at, don´t worry: We often have more than one talent or thing were good at. Most often, we have to simply try out new things to experience ourselves and discover new talents.
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alekplease
May 7th, 2015 3:18am
Hey, neither am I! But if it makes you happy, you need to keep at it. If you spend enough time, practice makes perfect, I promise. And besides, we tend to judge our own work the hardest. So try to let up on yourself. :)
Anonymous
April 29th, 2015 9:03am
Most of the time we are our own worst critics. I you love to do something and it makes you happy, you should stick with it.
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MonkeyPineMarten
April 25th, 2015 2:10am
That's Ok ! the important part is that you've found something you love, don't worry about how good you are at it, once you practice more and more you will probably find that you are improving at it, but Keep doing it if you really enjoy it!
Anonymous
March 29th, 2015 6:44pm
practice makes perfect. and it shouldn't be how good it looks or whatever it should be bout how it makes you feel, and if it put you in a good mood then do it.
Anonymous
February 8th, 2015 2:12pm
I think the most important part of this is that you've found something you love to do. If there's something you truly enjoy doing; it shouldn't matter how well you do it, just that you do it and enjoy it! :)
Anonymous
April 6th, 2016 5:19am
I've learned that I just have to juggle my career and my hobbies to make time for what I love to do whether or not I'm good at it. And as a hobby, I'm learning to do what I love with no shame - even if it means dancing like a scared chicken in the dance studio! It's never too late to improve and gain skills you've never had!
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Nosh
April 10th, 2016 3:24am
Who cares? Do you like doing it? yes? Than why does it matter? Just get out there and do what you love!
Anonymous
April 10th, 2016 1:25am
Keep trying your hardest. If you love to do something, continue to do it. It doesn't matter if you are good or not, you love to do it, and if you want to continue, then continue to do it. It makes you happy, you love to do it.
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EmilijaS
April 9th, 2016 9:35am
That's natural, no matter how cruel and heartless this answer of mine must sound. But if you are not that good at the things you want to do, why would that be the reason to stop doing them? You don't need to make profit or get acknowledgment for that, just do what makes you happy for the sake of yourself.
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disconsolate
April 8th, 2016 4:10pm
you can always learn. allow yourself to be a beginner. progress, not perfection. practice a LOT. and never stop learning. no one is excellent the first time. if you love what you do, fight for it. if you can't go a day without thinking about it. never give up on it.
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purpleidea777
April 8th, 2016 3:13am
Not everything has to be done for an audience. If you love to do it, that can be enough. Do some things for you.
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SenpaiXD
April 7th, 2016 6:39pm
In life, there are people who are talented and there are people who work hard. Yes, you might hear this before. But the universal trait to success is hard work. Through vigorous hard work, never giving up attitude and repetition, hence why the light bulb was created. And you can do, by doing what you love and keep doing so. : )
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mb81
April 7th, 2016 7:39am
First, it is important to distinguish between loving the process of doing something and loving the result of doing something. If you love the process, then the joy is simply in doing it regardless of what happens as a result (i.e., renown, money, etc.). If you truly are in this camp, then it should not matter if you aren't very "good". You'll enjoy doing what you're doing. That being said, there is a far narrower gap between having great talent and having no talent than people realize. Consistent pursuit of a skill usually wins out, regardless of initial ability. So don't worry that you aren't yet very good at what you love to do -- if you genuinely love the process, it shouldn't matter. And if you don't, then there's a good chance you don't really love it -- what you may love is simply the idea of the result.
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calmRose33
April 7th, 2016 3:54am
I guess if you dont try it out you will never know maybe try it and see if your good at it im sure you will be great at it
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BreAnna5
April 7th, 2016 2:05am
Practice! If you love it,you have the desire to devote time to it.This will in turn make you more progressive!
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Viana
April 10th, 2016 12:17pm
It is completely alright. Doing something you love should never look like a job but more like a hobby. You just have to try taking it step by step, seeing where you go wrong and finding the best solution. But remember, you shouldn't think of it as work, more like a refreshing activity.
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nrigaud
April 6th, 2016 2:23am
Keep trying. Keep fighting. Eventually, you'll get better. I love my major and no, it's not what I'm best at, but I intend to keep trying and fighting tooth and nail until I get there. You can too :)
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Malte
April 3rd, 2016 5:11pm
If it is something you love it doesn't matter if you are good at it or not. The most important part is that you enjoy it.
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WillemvdWetering
April 3rd, 2016 1:42pm
I would try to accept that I am not good at it, but still just enjoy that thing. I don't have to be good at something to do something I enjoy in life!