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Paola Giordani, Psychoanalyst
Licensed Psychoanalyst
I have helped and am helping people cope with loss, divorce, anguish and parenting. Depression is also a major issue that comes up.
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You don't have to be good at something to enjoy it. Having fun is a lot more important that being good at something. :)
Take it as a lesson learned. There is always time to learn a new trade, and to find a new passion that may be relative to what you previously had wanted.
If you have found what you love, first of all, I would like to applaud you. It can take many people a long time to figure out, as strange as that may sound. Secondly, I would like to point out that no one gets anywhere without a large amount of hard work. Even these so-called "naturally talented" people you see around will have had to put in work to get where they are now. For some, it's easier than for others. For those others, it can be a lot harder. Never give up on what you love. But don't feel like you have to stagnate, either. Seek new ways to get better at what you love. If it's art, or music, try a free life-drawing class or join a group. If it's sports, find events to take part in or try out a new workout. If it's algebraic equations, find workbooks on the internet. The possibilities are endless. But don't let yourself be downcast because you're comparing yourself to others or having trouble progressing. If you're doing it because it makes you happy, just do it.
It's alright but that doesn't mean you should stop working towards it. Let the passion guide you to perfection. Nobody is perfect at anything. Just keep improving.
if you love it do it. do not second guess your ability. i love basketball doesn't mean i am going to play in the wnba just means i wish to participate in basketball where possible
Does it really matter? You love what you do so you don't need in my opinion is be anywhere near good at it. It's for your own self's enjoyment. You shouldn't risk losing what you love to do just because you think you are no good at something. You'll definitely regret it if you do lose it, in the future.
This is one of the most rewarding positions. If you're not good at what you love to do, it means your vision is not spoiled and your love for the activity is pure and genuine. That means, there's no risk you'll mistake a passion for something else. What can you do to overcome your distress? Set a progress plan and care to include small, achievable goals along the way. Your mantra from now on should be "progress over perfection" — you will eventually excel at it even more than a "gifted genius": this happens because your dedication and your focus are higher. Just don't let mistakes bring you down!
This is a really common question that a lot of people ask themselves. Sometimes, a person can love doing something (I love dancing, doesn't mean I can though, lol!) - but there is a fire burning away inside, and passion is the fuel! Generally, so long as you have passion, you can be good at what you love. Being good at something doesn't mean that you *have* to like it - and being bad at something doesn't mean that you *can't* like it. Being good at something is only a small portion of a hobby - the real magic comes in with the passion!
I love karaoke but I am definitely no Beyoncé. Keep doing what you love! However, if this is something (e.g. you’re a doctor who has a fear of blood) that is having a significant impact on yours or someone else’s life then maybe it’s something that you have to love and let go and realise it’s for the greater benefit. But usually if you have a recognisable passion for what you’re doing, then the likelihood is that you are good at what’s you love - your anxiety is just holding you back from your full potential. If this is the case, start to believe in yourself!
Being good at something is a skill you need to obtain talent doesn’t just come you need to practice. I would suggest to do something you’re more passionate about.
It depends on how it makes you feel. Do you feel inferior? agitated? restless & stressed out with yourself for not being able to excel at what you love to do? Or do you have moments where you think to yourself, "you know what, i could do this forever. I could slowly build confidence and improve over time." How does being bad at your job, effect you as a person, essentially? and is it worth it?
Good question. I think you need to firstly consider what you mean by good. Would more studying, practice make you better? If so, try and do this. If you want to be more pragmatic maybe think if there is something that you might be better at and think about pursuing it. Although I would recommend doing something that you love because of the motivation and interest that comes with that love meaning that you will put in more effort and probably achieve great results. But of course there are other things to consider like making a living but I am not sure if this is what is being asked. Good luck!
It’s not always important to be amazing at what you love to do, what’s important is that you love to do it. If you do it enough, someday you can be great at it (practice makes perfect). It’s like playing an instrument. It’s such an incredible feeling to make music, but only crazy prodigies are good right off the bat. The rest of us have to work at it, but if you love it, then it’ll most definitely be worth it. So, don’t worry about not being good at what you love, the journey you take to becoming better at whatever you’re doing will make you love it even more.
Practice makes perfect. So we just have to keep trying or use our skills in different ways in order to achieve our goals and to do what we love. We must put value in ourselves.
I know it sounds cliche, but practice makes perfect. If you love to do it, keep doing it. You can only get better!
I'll do my best to be good enough, I have enough years to live for so why keep on trying on something you love.
Practice! This is the 21st century and most borders and walls have been torn down. You can do and be whoever you want. If you love to do something, work at it. You will get better. Persevere. If it's not meant to be, then you'll have to make peace and be content but if it is, you will get there.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2016 2:01am
Well like you said, it's something you love to do. It doesn't matter what other people think of you. If you love to do it, then do it however you want. Also if you don't think you're good enough at it just practice till you succeed.
Never give up hope . If you love something then do it with all your heart and you will be successful. Roald Dhal loved to write but his grades in English were low. But he ended up being one of the greatest children story teller. So never lose hope
You learn! From online sites and mentors on the job or in your field. Join networks to meet others in your field or with skills you want to improve on. Read, ask questions, volunteer with groups or people who can offer the experiences you need. And don't forget to thank the people who help you get where you want to be!
If I wasn't good at what I love to do,I would try to find another way to enjoy it if possible.For example,If I love to play baseball,but wasn't good at it,I could look into coaching baseball or playing just for fun as a hobby or even playing a video game of baseball for fun.Sometimes with more training,practice or learning you can get better at whatever it is you love to do.Just because you don't succeed the first time at something,doesn't mean your a failure.If it was what I really love to do,I would get back up and try again.If there was a reason I just couldn't do it,like I wasn't physiically able,than I would try to find something else I love to do and was good at.
I think everyone struggles at one time or another with thoughts that they are not good at what they love to do. Often, we can be our harshest critics and expect more than anyone else. Many times is not a matter of not being good, but rather the situation is not as bad as you think. It may help to take a step back and look at what you do from the outside in. Chances are, you are doing much better than you think.
Doing what you love to do (positive constructive activities) promotes the creative flow experience. Peak experiences result, these are crucial for the self-actualization process. Accept yourself where you are, at whatever level of ability to you currently have. Then, when you work forward, also build skill at fostering the best creative spirit you can.
Anonymous
May 6th, 2016 11:48pm
Keep trying and trying until you succeed, there's no bad or good, you just try your best till you get to were you want to be xx
You don't need to be good at something to make you happy. What do you look for when you're doing what you love to do? To enjoy? or to be good? If the answer is trying to be good, try all you can... but if you can't, is not the end of the world. Don't worry, I'm sure you'll be good at something else!
Everyone has to start somewhere to get where they want, even if it is something you love to do. In other words, if you are not perfect at it, it is completely alright since you may still be in beginner/starting stages. Remember, keep practicing. Practice makes perfect.
Also, don't lose hope :) You will get there someday. Like I said before, everyone has to start somewhere. Champions weren't just born champions - they weren't good at it in the beginning but they worked hard, they failed, they got back up and tried and tried and tried, again and again - that is what made them into champions.
Don't give up and don't lose hope. You will make it :)
Your love for it will eventually push you to become better and better at it! My advice is just don't give up and stick to it! If it's what you love to do, don't give it up! :)
If you love it, then continue doing it! Life is too short to not enjoy what you do. And who knows, maybe you'll get better at it :)
Doing what you love to do is about YOU. If it makes YOU feel good, then you're good at it in my eyes. I'm not very good at crochet, but I love to do it anyway. I feel good when I'm making something, and that's more important than how it turns out.
It doesn't matter if you are not good at it. If you love it you should carry on. If it makes you feel good then carry on. But as soon as it makes you feel upset or nervous stop.
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