What are your personal strategies for coping with the symptoms of your anxiety?
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When feeling anxious, I try and use music to calm my nerves. I also use an app called Calm. You can check it out by going to calm.com . Its a great way for me personally to calm my nerves. :-)
Anonymous
April 12th, 2015 9:09pm
A lot of people have a personal anchor, something that holds them down when they feel anxious. For me, that's holding on to my left wrist with my right hand. Just a simple act like that on it's own can help calm me down that little bit. In more stressful situations, I need to start counting out my breathing and pacing it out to make sure I'm not hyperventilating. If things get out of hand I always find it good to take a 'toilet break' where I take a few minutes to be alone. Sometimes I use this as an opportunity to fully concentrate on my breathing or even give myself a little pep talk. It's always good to take moments to yourself to calm yourself down.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2015 12:02pm
I take long deep breaths, sip water, or go somewhere I can be by myself and relax. If I know that I am going to be involved in a situation that could trigger anxiety, like a family gathering, I tell someone I trust and they support me during that time. If there is no one around I make sure there is a place I can be on my own close by, I will also limit the time I spend there if I can.
Personally, when I am anxious I talk to a friend or my husband. I also write, take walks, and listening to calming music. Bubble baths are nice as well :)
Anonymous
September 29th, 2015 8:53am
i like to distract myself, if i feel anxious, i come on here 7 cups of tea. i chat to people about the way i'm feeling, or i'll go and watch something on the TV or go for a walk. it's all about diverting your brain from it, the more you think about how anxious you feel, the more your going to be anxious. Also try breathing techniques, breathing from the abdomen and not your chest.
Anonymous
December 1st, 2015 11:35pm
I don't have anxiety myself, but my girlfriend does. I try my best to assure her that everything is alright even if she feels it's not, but I don't push aside how she feels. Things are tough for a lot of people and I know that.
"Rectangle breathing" : Follow the frame of a door slowly with your eyes. Along the long sides, breathe out. Along the short sides, breathe in. This helps me to calm down when I am anxious.
Deep breathing. Mindfulness meditation. Taking a walk in nature. Thinking of something calming, like a day at the beach. Reaching out to a friend and focusing on their thoughts and issues for a while can help me to get mine into perspective.
I've experienced self inflicted anxiety from bad coping mechanisms and an inability to deal with stressful situations more times than I'd like. I've always had a few things to "Ground" me. Stepping back and breathing has always calmed my nerves and gave me time to think. listening to music has always taken my mind off of the panic, sometimes pacing, but often sitting down would be the last of the cure-all. With anxiety I would panic and shake at first, but I had a great guide who taught me how to view anxiety differently. Now although it's not constant, if I do have an anxiety attack I'm able to recognize it and isolate the problem more efficiently. Remembering my own 3 steps and acting on them have been my cure. Everyone is different, but this is what has mostly worked for me.
The first thing I do is try be surrounded by my loved ones. I reach out to them to chat and laugh about silly things. If no one is available, I join a support group. In the group, I would get busy reading and sending encouraging words to people. I find out that the more I encourage anyone going through whatever I'm going through, the better I feel.
2) I try to read books or watch films to distract myself but I found out that it doesn't work for me. Reading through people's actual "Life experiences", that is, what they are currently passing through, helps me cope better than books and movies.
Anonymous
October 25th, 2021 11:04am
Slow breathing works for me. Mindful slow breathing. I also look and try to name 5 things I can see, hear and feel in my surrounding. Warm food or snacks help after. Food has always been something I found comfort in so that helps me a lot. I also talk to a few trusted friends and family members about it. It helps to hear and know that I am not the only one who goes through this kind of episode. You are really not alone. Meditate and invite good energy into your life. And don't forget to talk to your therapist, professional help goes a long way.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2015 8:49am
Thinking positive things, be in a positive environment, ignore negative people, read new things, hear some good music.
There are many ways to cope with the symptoms of your anxiety. I personally cope in different ways depending on the level of anxiety. I will sometimes just get on the treadmill and run a few miles to relieve some stress. Sometimes i will do yoga. Spin class can sometimes be helpful. Sometimes getting together with my family and having some time to interact with others and allowing myself to talk to people and not focus on what is causing me to be anxious is very helpful. Going for long walks with my dogs and husband helps to not feel anxious anymore.
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2015 1:49pm
I take long hard slow deep breaths, then i try to focus my negative thoughts from myself onto something else.
breathe in and breathe out. perhaps you should try seeking professional help
Anonymous
April 18th, 2016 3:00pm
In my head, I picture a place that makes me very calm and I keep thinking about it until I'm alright
There are so many external things in this world that we can't control or change. Once I realized that the only thing I can control was myself and my reaction to the world around me... It gave me more peace to navigate the things that were "scary" and gave me anxiety. When I was open to listening to my fears and learning where they come from, I could understand and truly find ways to actively approach and conquer these anxieties. One way was to Pause... And Breathe... When I realized I didn't have to rush... Rush my answers, Rush my actions... That I could take my time with my decisions... It took a load of stress and anxiety from my mind and heart. It was really the first step in taking that big load off my shoulders. Another way I dealt with my anxiety was stopping to try being perfect and pleasing others. This doesn't mean I became selfish, but rather understanding that trying to please others was an unrealistic goal and ended up hurting not only myself, but others as well. Letting go of control of others, pausing, breathing, and accepting are all just some ways to become more at peace!
Anonymous
April 11th, 2017 1:42am
Personally, I cope with my anxiety by taking a walk and getting some fresh air. I might try music as well, but getting my energy out by walking usually help. :)
My biggest piece of advise is rationalize the situation. Weather it be social or general anxiety sometimes you need to stand back and look at the big picture. I used to be scared of eating in public but all I had to do was think "why am I scared?" and I would usually say because I'm afraid of people judging me and from there I could think about in the long run what mattered more, eating so I could focus on school? or continue to be afraid of how some dumb teenage boy perceived me.
My personal strategies for anxiety are rather meditative. I find that my anxiety spikes more with excessive noise, so I tend to keep some kind of noise-canceling headphones or earphones with me, music that I find comforting and familiar, and will practice deep breathing exercises. Distraction is very helpful for me, so sometimes simply taking my focus and placing it on another person, a task or an activity can calm my anxiety to manageable levels. The key is to not reside inside the head where the anxious thoughts are brewing.
I keep a journal and write out all of my problems and then work out a solution after i have described the problem the best i can. I also meditate at a free moment and try to clear my mind to continue my day.
Anonymous
August 25th, 2015 4:40am
First, go to a therapist or discuss your symptoms with a person who has experienced this before and they might help you, but if they didn't than the best way is to identify the reason of your anxiety, and see if the problem is big or small, I mean that if the problem affects your career or something
Anonymous
September 19th, 2016 10:02pm
My personal strategies are to talk to people, especially one of my friends that I actually met on here. Actually there's two. One distracted me and the other talked it out with me. They didn't question me or anything. I met them both on here and I try to help others as another distraction.
Personally I do whatever I can to just keep busy when I am having an attack. I am able to tell myself over and over that it will pass. Since I know that all I have to do is keep busy for a while. Personally I find reading and those silly adult coloring books are a great way to keep busy and not think too hard!
personally, whenever I'm depressed, sad or anything like that I always come here and try to make myself feel better by helping others that just brings me peace and I hope I grow more and more from here
I often watch videos on youtube about how to boost your confidence. Also, I take a deep breath and listen to calm music whenever I fell nervous. Instead of being conscious about other people when I'm facing a big crowd, I chose not to.
I try to remind myself that the majority of the time I have worried about something, the outcome has been more pleasant than I expected!
I make time in my day to stop for a few minutes and just focus on my breathing. I give myself a quiet moment in the morning with Tea before I begin my day. I use grounding techniques, like the non-judgmental labeling/cataloguing of all the items in a room. I identify and challenge my cognitive distortions. I talk about the anxieties that won't go away, or that get too overwhelming to deal with on my own. I go for walks. I write. I draw. I cook/bake. I pray. I take a shower. I write out the worst thing can happen, the best thing that can happen, and the most likely thing that will happen and then examine my feelings and thoughts futher. I see a counselor sometimes.
Doing something that I enjoy. It gives me confidence that I can do something that calms me down! I find that anxiety is about "over worrying", doing a hobby or activity with friends clears my mind. Music, of course, also is a huge help. Listening to someone else making their experiences into art is always relaxing.
I fill out my Cognitive Diary, speak with friends and 7Cups listeners, do breathing and mindfulness exercises, use sleep meditation tapes, and exercise as often as possible. As far as immediate symptoms, I find that breathing exercise and a teaspoon of Inositol are best for me.
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