The Facebook "Seen" message gives me a lot of anxiety! When I see that the person has "seen" the message, but does not reply, I start thinking about all the possible reasons why they would 'ignore' me... Does anyone else feel this? If so, how do you cope?

oh yes, i know exactly how you feel and I fall into that same trap all the time! When that happens, I take some deep breaths and remind myself of times where I have done the same thing. Generally I see it but I have to put my phone down to address something in my real life, or have to take care of something. Anxiety means well, but in it's effort to protect you. It can go overboard. Remind it that there are so many reasons that the person has seen your message without replying, and that it's not the end of the world. You will be okay, I promise.

I absolutely understand where you are coming from! The circle of friends that I have is small and close to my heart, so this is almost definitely something that freaks me out. I do not want to have the things that I hold dear drift away, as I feel that sudden a change would leave me alone without mechanism to cope or head space to find a resolution I can feel at ease with! As for an answer, mine is short and simple enough for at least myself, in theory. I cannot understand what other people are doing at all times, let alone most of the time, so why feed the nagging creature that thrives on assumptions being the worst! I do not like to think spite bubbles to the surface without reason enough for a person to muster up the energy to say, ignore a message for the sake of guiding that soul on an ego trip. Perhaps as an example, that person is a friend who is caught up in family issues that only happen to make life complex, or they themselves are at a point of emotional instability that could really benefit from the empathy and understanding of the world at large, even if only starting with a handful of well intended friends.

It depends on when you send the message and whom. Because if it is during workday, it is normal that people dont immediately reply. But if it is after work, you dont know if they are free or if they are doing something. There are a lot of reasons why people dont reply, even i sometimes dont write back on the same day because i am so tired and need a rest and it has nothing to do with the person who wrote to me. If you have doubts and cannot stand this, the best way to get a confirmation is by asking. You can find a way without being too pushy, to ask the person if they are ignoring you. But be honest and prepared for a real feedback.

I used to go through this myself, and-the consequence was anxiety, frustration and paranoia. A lot of frustration happened to those that I questioned were ignoring me. The best thing I've learnt is to message them only when I need to, so in my regard it would be a day or two before I hope to meet with them. Or I only ask them questions, and not go into any unnecessary small talk. That way they know I require an answer, and if there is a time limit, I can ask them again after a certain amount of time has passed. Otherwise, just keep yourself occupied. Ask "do I really need to send this? Could I just ask them when I see them?"

I understand the feeling all too well. It's never pleasant. I meet up with a friend that I often see once a week. I try to message them a day before I hope to meet up with her, and I make it clear that it's a question I'm asking that requires an answer. Or you can ask yourself if the message you want to send is really worth sending. Is there a better time to send it etc Once I've sent the message, I often go off of Facebook and keep myself occupied. People are busy. If I receive a message, I often tell myself I'll reply later, then forget. There's no harm in sending a follow up message - nothing nasty accusing them of ignoring you - after a good period of time has gone by, so you don't look needy.

I have the same problem, but honestly it depends on WHO i am texting. If i'm texting someone older than me who is a mom/works, i assure myself that it's ok, that i know they're busy and they WILL reply when they have time. And my friends go to college and i don't and sometimes it takes days for them to reply. Which you can imagine my anxiety. Especially when i ask one of them if they wanna hang out and they don't reply i get so anxious i end up deleting the message all together. But i know that they have school and all the homework they have to deal with and they may not be coping well with it so i know they're not ignoring me because i KNOW my friends love me very much so if they HAD the time they'd definetely reply to me. So i'd say you have to asssure yourself the facts, think about they're life and what they could be doing, and they will reply when they have the time. I used to suffer greatly from thia but by reassuring myself i've learnt to cope. Hope i helped❤❤

i understand it sometimes feels confusing what to make out of it. Many thoughts creep into mind like Is the person ignoring me? is the message seen by someone else? i hope he is not in some problem?. And actually all these an be a possibility. for me, i trey to see the importance or urgency of the reply. Sometimes if my message is just to convey some information, its ok if the person had read it didnt reply. If its some important reply i expect, i wait for some before messaging again or if urgent, calling up the person. At my end, i feel the anxiety that goes in senders mind in such situation and i make it a point to acknowledge the message even if y simple smiley or ok or thanks or will message later.

It happens to lot of us, including me. This happens when we want the other person to reply as soon as possible. There could be many reasons why this happens. Ill try to put in few general reasons that could happen, but no one is alike and situations differ. But what we need to realize is that : 1. The other person might have see it but had some other work and will eventually get back to us 2. The person is ignoring us and we cant do much about it 3. Dont think to much about it 4. Imagine ourselves in their shoes, we do the same 1, 2 to others so.

It is normal to feel a bit anxious when the person has only seen the message and not read it, especially if it someone important to you. When it happens, you should remember that maybe something happened to that person (someone called him etc...) so he can't reply right away. Sometimes it happens that someone simply forgot to reply: give him some time then write again. Also, maybe he doesn't know how to continue the conversation so he doesn't write anything. If it happens to me, I usually wait some time, then if I don't get the message, I try to write to that person again. If he doesn't answer also the second time, I stop writing to him and I try to ask him why he does that.

It is understandable that you or anyone might have such a reaction, but when you apply some reason, it re-frames the situation. For instance, there are several circumstances whereby you (one) might see the message but not be able to reply in that moment (carrying something that has their hands full, sitting with a group of people, or on a deadline. Because we aren't right with them when we send the message, we cannot actually see what they're doing, so it is better not to make assumptions. Then, if they never respond, again apply logic. They may have forgotten or become caught up in other tasks. Never assume it is personal.

Yes I feel this, and I tell myself if they don’t want to talk to me then their loss. Who knows maybe I invited them to a concert on the weekend. If they don’t want to talk to me then they don’t have to. They can live with the fact that that conversation could’ve changed their life if they tried. So remember that there are people out there who would love to talk to you, and it’s their loss if they don’t want to. And maybe their just busy, but when that happens I like to text my Mum

Try to relax. Some people, like me mentally think they have replied to the message but they don't always hit send. If something you have spoke about was a bit too deep then it may be a trigger for them and they have to think about their own safety and mentality first. It does make you feel a bit worthless being ignored but if they can't give you the time of day then why should you bother with them anymore? Learn to value yourself and speak with people who enjoy your company! I hope that this has helped in some way!

I understand, what you must be feeling, at the moment of feeling this anxiety you should ask yourself what about this situation makes me feel this way.? and do they have a reason to ignore me? I am sure you will get an answer that will help you label the specific reason for the anxiety, because this is your emotion and has nothing to do with the other person. At the end you could do a relaxation exercise and affirm to yourself that not everything is in your control and all you can do is be the best version of yourself and keep trying to better this version.

It's soo nerve wracking to see it as if it's taunting you. And the longer it takes for that person to reply the more my thoughts spin out of control. I learned to try to deal with it by realising, these are just thoughts, they hold no truth to them. I can't possibly know what the other person is doing, perhaps they're at work or they're walking down the street and couldn't answer, their phone could have even died. You don't know and worrying about it won't let you know. I think it has become even harder these days to see that pesky little word in the corner of your screen when being 'left on read' is such a big thing at the moemnt, people tret it like it's embarrasign or shameful and it's not, sometimes people are just busy, or unsure what to say, or what you said to them is hard to answer. You could have said 'okay' and they don't know how to respond without starting a whole new conversation. In simpler terms, IT'S OKAY not to get an answer all the time.

I completely understand you and how that feels. All sorts of questions can enter our heads, "What did I do?", "Did I do something wrong?" or even, "Are we still on okay terms?" - these are all perfectly normal questions to ask ourselves when we get these feelings of anxiety. There are plenty of different coping methods for this, but the one I tend to use is, how often do I leave someone on read but I'm not mad at the other person? It could be a good idea to think of all the reasons why *you* leave someone on read, because easily any of those reasons could be the one incorporated by the other person!

Many people feel this way, anxiety is based in fear, and in this case it is fear of the unknown. People do not like what they can not know. This fear is a survival response, it is your brain, specifically your amygdala, trying to protect you. The problem is our fear response was created in simple times, and as humans evolve the brain and our fear response does not evolve as fast socially. We have developed the "fear of missing out" because we see so many more things now with social media. This distracts us from what is right in front of us, and we end up missing out on things in the present because we are afraid of what is happening in the future.

First thing, people get hyper when other person has read and has not answered, there can be genuine reasons for the same, some times such things slips out of the mind, else if the other person is tied up in something which is actually more important then reverting to message, please give people benefit of doubt. If such things happens many a times, then it is time to ask him\her what is wrong why is the message not being answed, if that still persists, stop messaging, it is clear the other person doesnt give a shit to what you have to say, hope it helps.

Hi, that little “seen” thing is quite a pest. If I find that I am focussing on it and thinking about why they’re not replying then I remind myself that phones all work differently and they may have cancelled a notification or swiped the message away from a watch or something. I could be entirely wrong and it doesn’t work this way but it means that I’m not worried about being ‘ignored’ just that they’re busy and may have not even read the message. I know that it gets to a lot of people. It’s also worth remembering that instant messaging only works instantly if both people are glued to their phones 24/7; a lot of time this isn’t the case and even if they have read your message they have other things going on. Additionally sometimes the person doesn’t have a response, if it’s a specific person then one of the things we have done is to change (or use) the like button as sort of an acknowledgement of a message but “I don’t really have anything to say to this but I’m not ignoring you”. I don’t know if any if this will help but just some ways I try and avoid this, it’s not entirely fool proof though.

It looks to me that you are overthinking small things like this. Don't worry, I can relate too. Well you just have to ask yourself, "Why wouldn't I reply to a message and just leave it on seen?" Maybe your reason is simillar to theirs. It could also be that they don't know what to reply with or they feel that they shouldn't reply at all. For example You: I just bought some new shoes Your friend: Ooh nice! You: Thanks dude Your friend: * seen * As you can see in this example, your last message is thank you. Your friend probably feels like they don't need to reply, so they leave it on seen. There is nothing wrong with that thou

This is totally a normal feeling and a common thing to experience. I think technology can make it really hard these days and it can produce a lot of anxiety. For me, I also think about all the different reasons the person is not responding, and it is hard for me to not take it personally. However, I try to remind myself that everyone is going through different things, and maybe someone is going through something themselves that is keeping them from responding. Also, we are all human! Sometimes people see messages but are busy and genuinely forget to respond! I know this is not easy, but by you being aware and trying to better understand yourself and the process, you are ahead of the game!

I think that social media, in general, can cause some anxiety for a lot of people. I am guilty of having anxiety and negative ("what if...") thoughts when I notice that someone has seen my message, but not responded. (I have also been diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder.) A way to cope with this is to challenge your thinking. You're already thinking up possible reasons why someone hasn't responded, so think of some reasons that aren't negative. Maybe they opened the message, but didn't actually read it yet? Maybe they read it, but didn't have time to respond? Maybe they got distracted and forgot to send a response? Maybe they are thinking about what they are going to say? Maybe they are having some anxiety about sending a response? (I am guilty of this due to social anxiety.) Another way to cope would be to get off of social media for a while.

I do feel like this sometimes. I practise recognising when I feel like this, and tell myself that most of the time this isn't personal. People are busy, people are anxious when replying, people get distracted. I forget to press the send button all the time. It's not about me, and if it is, there is nothing I can do. I have sent a message, it is their imperative to respond or not to respond. (easier said than done, but i think practise and being strict on yourself to not allow yourself to day dream about possible reasons for not responding helps). For people I am very close to, I don't have a trouble double texting them, or communicating how I feel about being left on seen - perhaps if they are busy they may react and then come back to it.

Yes , i feel that too , but i also remember the times when i see messages and I can't reply for many reasons , so i actually excuse them for not replying , and sometimes i send again as people can actually forget about messages and this not ignoring , but u know they may not remember unless there is a notification .. and also some people may just ignore , so you must first know how much this person is close to you ? Does this person usually ignore messages ? Have you done anything wrong for this person to ignore you ? Answering those questions would decrease the possibilities , and make you less anxious .. and also would make it more clear if it actually ignoring or not ..

This concern is very common, and most of people get nervous in these moments. There are a lot of reasons behind that, but trying not to overthink and accepting the idea we all different from, and every person has their own way to talk, and this way might not impress everyone. If we are talking about the first message in the chat that's something completely different, you have to think about this person setuation, they might not be free to answer you message, and if it seems they ignore you on purpose just quit messaging them, don't feel ashamed about it.

This is very normal and social media puts so much pressure on society and people. Most the time people are not ignoring you, they are simply busy and will reply later. The best thing to do is try and switch off. Send the message and put your phone away for a while. You can't control the situation or control when someone will reply. They will reply if they want to and you have to try and not make it personal about you. Know yourself and be strong in yourself to know a messgae can't make you happy. I even have notifications turned off so I don't see when someone replies as it helps to control the urge to keep checking. Find a method that works best for you.

Facebook "seen" message causes anxiety or not, it depends on who you are talking with. It that person is close to you and does not reply after seeing the message than one may feel anxiety. If I feel ignored then the way I cope with it is; 1. to wait for the other person to reply (if it's not habitual than that person surely replies back) 2. send the message like "text me back when you have time" or "get back on me later" etc 3. think positive (again if it's not habitual of that person then there will be a genuine reason for that) in my case sometimes when they text me later they also gave me the reason with that like "I was on job and couldn't reply", "my mom was talking to me at that time" or "my little sister open the text box of you and I came to know later on" etc

It also gives me some anxiety, because, at least in some discussions that are more personal or deep. I tend to get anxious because I think that the message I have written is wrong, or it upsets the other person. But the actual real reason for a seen might just be the fact that the person can't respond right away for that message, or he/she doesn't want to continue talking, at that moment. The way i cope with this is that i write to them something else that is different from the last message, or if the person is a close friend, i just write something like "why are you leaving me on seen" but in a fun way!

Yes that is very normal and very annoying. Honestly, I think its rude but you can't control a persons behavior. You can talk to them and hopefully that stop leaving you on seen and respond. Also think of this way they may be busy , at work, dealing with kids/spouse and was just checking to make sure it wasn't an emergency . When that fails, I firmly believe in treating people the way they treat me. Hopefully this helps you talk to the people and get a better understanding of each others feelings especially if the person is among your group of friends.

I've had this happen to me all the time and it does make me very nervous, especially if i don't know the person very well but I like the person. I always remember that I have done the same thing, where I would see someone's message and not respond and it's nothing personal, sometimes they may be busy, tired and forgetful. If there was a personal problem, I would expect the person to come out and tell me, not get nervous. It also never hurts to ask the person if you thing something may be wrong in the friendship or relationship.

yes, I used to and still feel it sometimes, Facebook and whatsapp blue ticks gives me anxiety , when they don't reply me. I overthink about why they are ignoring me, well to be honest there are many reasons for them to not replying, 1. they might be busy and cant reply 2 they might have had bad network 3 they dont want to talk and are actually ignoring you. any one of those is possible, but if this is happening very frequently it is better to not text them and stop overthinking when they dont reply. not everyone will be there in our life, respecting their choice and accepting that they wont worthy your time will make you feel better, also switch off your mobile for some tme if you keep checking apps for their reply.