The Facebook "Seen" message gives me a lot of anxiety! When I see that the person has "seen" the message, but does not reply, I start thinking about all the possible reasons why they would 'ignore' me... Does anyone else feel this? If so, how do you cope?

Yes, this is a very common thing now. The best way to deal with it is not to jump to conclusions. Just because the message is 'seen' it doesn't mean they have read it all; they might be distracted and busy and don't have time to reply straight away.

I definitely relate to this! It can be really stressful for me sometimes. My best friend prefers to chat over messenger, but always forgets to answer me. It makes me feel like she is ignoring me on purpose. I cope by reminding myself that sometimes people accidentally click on the message and didn't actually read it. Sometimes they don't even realize they did it. I also have to remind myself that people have busy lives and sometimes even though they are on messenger they are doing other things as well!

I try and remember that there are a million reasons someone would have seen my message and not replied, and only one of them is that they want to ignore me. It can be difficult to rationalize with yourself, but what’s going through our heads usually isn’t going through the people we care about’s.

I feel this as well sometimes! I usually try to run through other reasons why they could not be responding. For example, I'll say to myself that they're busy, they'll get back to me soon, and they do care or they wouldn't have been talking to me in the first place. Repeating these and other little affirmations help me a lot personally!

I know that this can be a difficult thing, but I know that some people really focus on what they can control. and not worry too much about what they can't . You control the message you send out, what you cannot do is control what the person does who reads that message. So why worry? Is it annoying when its been seen and you get no reply, definitely, is it worth worrying about, no.

I also feel anxiety over this. To cope I just try not to use that platform as much and talk in person or some other way that gives me less stress. If thats not an option try to remember that they probably aren't ignoring you, they're just busy.

Hell to the yeah, and this is a big part of why I don't have Facebook anymore! If you can, try and brainstorm alllll of the other reasons why they might not have replied yet: - Maybe they read it and meant to reply but forgot - Maybe they wanted to wait and chat with you or give it a longer answer - Maybe they didn't feel like talking to anyone and just want to browse the feed instead - Maybe they thought they didn't need to reply Hope this helps some :)

Yes, I have felt this, and it's difficult. I was able to start coping better with it once I realized that I too, do the same thing, and the people on the other side have either just forgotten to reply or are too busy at the moment. You cannot let how fast someone replies define you.

Yes, it is a common feeling my friend. Maybe you feel so because you've attached your self worth to whether that person "replies or not ". Their ignorance, is making you doubt yourself " Oh, I wrote something bad" or "How could this person ignore someone like me!? And that self doubt is leading to overthinking and anxiety. You are worth way beyond a simple reply. We need to consciously choose who deserves our presence in their lives. There could be many reasons like the person needs more time to think and reply and not necessarily intended to ignore you. However, you have to be conscious about the things to which you attach your self worth. It should not be a person or a mere text reply. "Self worth" should always remain attached to "self" and not other people or things. I hope this helps you think better:)

I also feel the same I think that the person is ignoring me intentionally but I tell myself that maybe he is busy and will reply to me after a certain time.

I can relate to this feeling, and I think it's something a lot of people experience with many types of social media. I think it's important to remember that a majority of the time, it's not that people are ignoring you, but perhaps they accidentally opened the message when they did not have the time to reply, Or that they are waiting to reply when they can give you their undivided attention. Some people aren't very good at replying to messages, but they don't do it to ignore you, it might just slip their mind. There's a million reason why someone might not reply right away, and a majority of them aren't necessarily because they don't want to talk to you. Keep that in mind next time you feel that anxiety coming up. One thing that helps me, is turning off notifications for periods of times. You'll be less inclined to check when your phone isn't going off. If it's something important, consider making a phone call instead of sending a message. Separating yourself from social media has been proven to help anxious feelings, you don't have to give it up forever, but just give your self a break every once in a while.

Hello! Well, I can very much relate to that feeling of anxiety. I experience a similar feeling when I see someone I really want to talk to has seen my message and hasn't responded. It makes me doubt if they care about me etc. I can understand how you struggle with it. ): To cope with it I - • Take a step back. • Take deep breathes. • Tell myself they might have had something come up when they messaged me and they want to reply to me just as much as I want to read their message. • If I have an anxious thought, identify the evidence for it and against it. •Rehydrate and get preoccupied by something else.

I believe almost everyone has had this feeling. People feel unsecure when knowing that your friend/love/someone has seen the message but doesn't answer. I believe patience is what is necessary. If you have waited for a very long time, try send a little message, maybe just an emoji or a kind 'have you seen my message?' to them, it usually helps :) Often people just forget that they saw the message and since the notification is gone, they don't see it anymore and therefore doesn't answer

Yes I feel this way also. I think it is important to remember how busy people's lives are and how they have so much going on. We should remember that although they have seen the message they are not necessarily ignoring it. There could be many reasons, perhaps they have seen a message come through from you and they are keen to read what it says so they open it, therefore flagging it as "seen". But consider they are in the middle of something, an assignment, a meeting, looking after a child, eating their dinner or preparing food? There could be any number of things they are currently focused on that would mean they can't give their response to you the time or focus that you and your message deserve. When they have time they will reply, we just need to bear this in mind and not let our imaginations carry us away.

I totally understand what you are going through. Seeing the "Seen" message gives a lot of people anxiety I'm sure.

If it gives you a lot of anxiety, then maybe consider not using Facebook anymore. Facebook is not really that save. With all social media, you have to be really careful, who you are chatting with. Also, if something cause you this much anxiety, then why use it? Just because, some one else has Facebook, does not mean, that everyone should have it. If your not careful you could get hacked. So I would suggest, not to use Facebook or any other social media sites. With one exception, 7cups. 7cups is a great place. We have Mods, room supporters, community leaders, community managers and Admi. All have been trained. So you can trust 7cups. Also, we have trained active listeners, who can help. I hope this is helpful to you. I wish you the best of luck. I hope you have a great day, evening or morning.

I've had this happen to me all the time and it does make me very nervous, especially if i don't know the person very well but I like the person. I always remember that I have done the same thing, where I would see someone's message and not respond and it's nothing personal, sometimes they may be busy, tired and forgetful. If there was a personal problem, I would expect the person to come out and tell me, not get nervous. It also never hurts to ask the person if you thing something may be wrong in the friendship or relationship.

yes, I used to and still feel it sometimes, Facebook and whatsapp blue ticks gives me anxiety , when they don't reply me. I overthink about why they are ignoring me, well to be honest there are many reasons for them to not replying, 1. they might be busy and cant reply 2 they might have had bad network 3 they dont want to talk and are actually ignoring you. any one of those is possible, but if this is happening very frequently it is better to not text them and stop overthinking when they dont reply. not everyone will be there in our life, respecting their choice and accepting that they wont worthy your time will make you feel better, also switch off your mobile for some tme if you keep checking apps for their reply.

Well instead of thinking about all the reason why they would ignore you ....think about why haven't they replied you, i mean to say that don't judge or think that they are ignoring you maybe something came up and they are not able to reply at the moment. Try to think in a positive way. It happens with almost everyone, think like you are in their place and you saw the message and haven't replied and what could be the reasons. There could be a lot of reasons and the negative reasons will give you anxiety only so think positive because after all they reply after sometime.

I cope by distracting myself. It's always best to try and remember that everyone is doing something and so they may not always be there to answer your message, even if they have seen it. Therefore, I try my best to do something else until they've messaged me back. However, if I feel like they haven't messaged me in a while (normally a day or two of not replying) then I'll message them again to make sure they're alright. Sometimes people see that you've sent them a message while they're in the middle of doing something and so they forget to respond to you, so it may not seem like they're ignoring you.

Yeah! Everyone sometimes or other faces this situation, not only on Facebook messages but also missed calls sometimes feels havocking when not called back. But it is normal to overthink the situation, mostly when the second person is too close to us. Now, moving up to the fact! Actually thinking why the message remained just seen and not replied will come up with a lot of scenarios, some positive and some negative too. But again there is a point to note that all of them cannot be true. There must have been any one condition because of which the second person didn't replied to the text. Also it is not necessary that we can think of the same situation and comprehend it exactly in our brain. So the best option out here is taking a break. Yeah surely it is hard, because our mind can't take up any kind of suspense. But that is best time to practice the power of patience. Try doing something else, which for a while distracts you from the situation. Try not thinking about the same. Stop making assumptions and stay away of negative thoughts. Practice these and I assure you things will go simple, because the other person is going to reply anyway after a considerable time. While if not you can ask him/her simply, why did he skipped the reply if you feel it’s really a concern. :)

I totally understand that feeling! This literally happened to me yesterday. It is so hard because you see that they "saw" the message and you become over-anxious and second guess everything. This is something I have struggled with and still sometimes do. Once again...yesterday. An important thing that I like to remind myself is that Facebook (and any site that has this feature) is really wishy-washy with how they measure "seen" messages. For example: if they are using a laptop and have the chat pulled up, it automatically marks the message as seen and does not give a notification. So if they are scrolling and didn't see the message, but the chat is open, according to those sites, they have "seen" the message. If they are using a phone and accidentally open the bubble or clear the notification, it will also show as "seen". So when I see that my friend has "seen" my message but hasn't responded, I try to remind myself that maybe they haven't or cannot respond at the moment. I think back on how they have responded to me in the past so they have a pretty good reputation so far. Another thing I do sometimes I pretend that it is not me having this problem, but a friend of mine and I am trying to help the feel better. I tell myself the same things I would tell them.

Yes, it can usually mean sometimes they're busy or at work and don't know what to reply or they're wondering what to say or trying to figure out what you mean. it can be confusing no doubt. I have no doubt that's how you feel about it. though it can hard to say like man why are just not replying. hopefully this helps you a lot with what you're experiencing. I've experienced this myself. where I'm just scratching my head wondering what's been going on? why haven't I been able to simply get a reply from them. so I feel you.

Yes, other people do feel this same feeling, you aren't alone with this! It's natural to feel like you aren't good enough or like you have somehow messed up when someone doesn't reply to your message as soon as they've read it. You are more likely to feel this way if you have low self-esteem, talking to a 7 cups listener or a therapist could help you deal with this. Other things that might work for you include reminding yourself of all of the other rational reasons that the person hasn't replied- maybe their phone died, maybe they fell asleep, maybe they got distracted and forget to hit "send". Another thing you can try is explaining to the person that when they don't respond to your messages it makes you feel anxious. I hope this helps. Look after yourself, Emi

It used to make me anxious but one day I realized that I did leave people on "seen" and forget to reply sometimes. I do because I have personal and professional emergencies going on which drain all my time and energy and prevents me from chatting afterwards. I do it because I feel low or tired, can't think of anything funny, smart or nice to answer, so I prefer to say nothing. I do so because I am a day dreamer who needs plenty of alone time, no matter how much I love the people in my life, it is just a basic need. I do it because I set boundaries for myself. Any social interaction is tiring to some points, even the ones that seem very chill require energy. I do it because I always want to pay attention to people. I really want to listen carefully and to answer giving 100% of my attention. It is a matter of respect because I care, I take people seriously when they share something with me, so I'd rather not talk at all than being half there, being my own shadow and taking the risk to seem distant or to say something stupid or inappropriate. So when someone leaves me on seen, I just assume that they are like me. It just means they are not available. It has nothing to do with me, it is about them and what they are going through. And it is ok, I won't ad any pressure on them.

I definitely understand how this would make you feel like you are being ignored. But the way I chose to look at is, a)maybe they got the alert and it is a habit to check it, but they are really busy and will get back to me soon. b) was the message sent really worthy of a direct response? like was a question asked that required an answer? maybe my message was not as direct as I originally wanted it to be. Maybe I need to rephrase what I am saying/asking to make the other person realize I am expecting a response.

Yes. Seenzone is really frustrating sometimes. I also can not stand this. When someone seenzone's me, I try to think that s/he can be busy. I personally seenzone a lot of persons. Not because I want to, always, sometimes it's just I am busy. Then I reply later. There is another reason, If I want to ignore that person so yes, I seenzone him/her. But if someone wants to ignore me, that's okay too. S/he is someone I should ignore too because I have my self respect. Everyone should have too. Self respect is something that helps me in this type of situation.

i think it is very common, if we do not know the reason for a certain action, we keep on thinking about it, especially if the person is important to us. I would say that the best way to deal with it is to directly ask the person for the reason rather than thinking about all sorts of negative things. That way you get clarity and also it saves you from a lot of negative thoughts. Also, one can try to think of positive reasons like eg, they must be busy or have forgotten, rather than negative ones till they reply.

It may sound strange but most of us have the tendency to have the black or white thinking. To our human eyes there are so many different colours in the physical worlds. With that being said, there are so many options and possibilities. On a micro level, as an individual, we can be busy managing different things in our lives. Someone has seen our messages but not giving a reply. It is only a fact. How do you interpret the fact? You can think of the worst of the person. You can think of the best of the person. A fact itself doesn't make us suffer. Judging the fact may cause us suffering. I choose to be open-minded about it. It is a fact. That is it.

Yes , i feel that too , but i also remember the times when i see messages and I can't reply for many reasons , so i actually excuse them for not replying , and sometimes i send again as people can actually forget about messages and this not ignoring , but u know they may not remember unless there is a notification .. and also some people may just ignore , so you must first know how much this person is close to you ? Does this person usually ignore messages ? Have you done anything wrong for this person to ignore you ? Answering those questions would decrease the possibilities , and make you less anxious .. and also would make it more clear if it actually ignoring or not ..