Is it hard to think critically about something you love?
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Anonymous
August 17th, 2016 3:00pm
I do believe it is. Love makes you irrational, which isn't a bad thing. But I think that if you genuinely love something, you'll make an effort to look at it through a realistic lens as well.
In the beginning, it is difficult to think critically about something we love because what we will notice initially will be how perfect it is, especially since how we view it is affected greatly by our feelings. But once our feelings taper off, we'll start to notice things that have been there all along it's just that we haven't noticed until now. Once we are aware of them, we are able to think more critically.
I'd say so since you are naturally positively biased towards it. If you feel like something is wrong, asking friends for a second opinion might help.
I believe it can indeed to think critically about something you love. When you love something, an experience called being "love blind" comes to play. This means that your love for the thing overcomes all other insecurities about the thing. On the other hand, take family for instance. Have you ever thought critically about your brother (even though you love him)? In that case it is possible. Love comes in various shapes and sizes.
From personal experience, I can say it's often easier to think critically about something you feel neutral about. When you have a strong opinion about something, your personal feelings and/or convictions can influence the way you evaluate it and make it more difficult to keep an open mind.
Anonymous
September 25th, 2016 4:55am
Yes it is, but it can be done. You just have to get past the initial feeling and it is great from theree
For most of the people yes. But that depends on people themselves. I personally open to constructive criticism towards my friends and loved ones. Only because you love someone that doesn't mean that you can close your eyes on their inappropriate behavior or habits and etc.
it's somehow hard, because love is blind as they say :p ...but it's not impossible in my opinion ...
I'm hearing that someone you love did you wrong. This can be very disappointing. Could you tell me more about what is going on?
I think it's a lot easier to think of loved things or ones critically especially for people who have been hurt previously or suffer with mental health, due to fear of being hurt again
No, I believe that if you love something, it doesn't merit critical thinking. It's just a feeling and a gut motivation. If it hurts anyone else that you love that thing, then it merits a hard think. Otherwise, no.
I think it is often difficult to think critically about something we love because we look at things we love in an idealized way making it difficult to be critical.
Anonymous
December 21st, 2017 1:01am
Sometimes. I've learned that thinking critically about things you enjoy is essential but difficult. Additionally, expecting to critique everything I enjoy is draining and wears me down. There must be a healthy balance between these things.
Sometimes. However, I've often found though discovering something isn't as amazing as you may have deemed it to be at first sight, a greater appreciation may also be born from the things you love that stand tall against the scrutiny of your senses, even at their most discerning. Though if you feel a strong connection to something with your heart, and your head feels at odds, that is not necessarily an indication you must change your feelings and decide to stop loving it. A healthy balance of understanding the faults and treasuring the merits of the things that have formed a personal connection with you is ideal.
I think it can be. Sometimes loving someone or something includes letting their good qualities shine in your mind and putting less weight on the more challenging qualities. This can make it hard to think critically about someone, and can require some serious mental gymnastics to jump out of your current perspective and attempt to be more objective. But then again, that's part of the beauty of loving and being loved!
Anonymous
December 31st, 2017 6:01pm
Honestly, it is. When you are so infatuated with something, doesn't necessarily have to be a person, it is hard to think of it in an entirely opposite way. But I think if you can get through the curtain that stands between two sides of the situation or an emotion, you can think of it in a more straightforward and critical way.
There does not have to be a contradiction between love and seeing things the way they are. You can criticize and still love
Anonymous
January 14th, 2018 6:48am
I often times can be. Emotions can really sway how we think about different things. They try to "justify" or "counter attack" what we are logically feeling, and it is hard to deny something when if effects us emotionally. It can sometimes help to consider the pros and cons of a situation and to remove yourself from it. Try some mindfulness exercises or consider what you would tell your friend going through the same situation. It may be hard to think logically when we are emotionally effected by the situation, but not impossible. Just takes time~
Yes it is hard to think critically about someting you truly love.Because loving something means that you are accepting all their weaknesses and imperfections.And at times you may end up loving their imperfections as it is too.
It can be. The more personal something is for you, the more difficult it can be to put your emotions aside about it. It can help to get an objective perspective, such as from a listener here or a therapist, to sort out the reality of the situation.
Yes - I think that when I am passionate about something it is easy to feel biased towards it or make excuses when it's not working the way I expect.
It can be very challenging to think critically about something we love. Personally, when I feel strongly about something I tend to want to express it, fix it, or deal with it quickly because it matters so much. I've learned that it's true when they say, "fools rush in." Much about life is finding balance and when I feel strong emotions over something it is easy to rush it rather than slow down and think critically.
Yes when you love something you tend to think the person like a God as they are always on your mind but with time this might change and you start to see their flaws. I guess love is blind and can make it hard to look at something critically when you love it.
No, I think everyone is able to think critically about even the things that they love. There can still be negatives about a positive subject. Everything in life can have a positive or a negative, it all depends on perception. We can acknowledge a flaw, and still love the flawed subject.
i find it difficult to judge or think critically about something i love however i break it down to help. i try to think from different perspectives and try to look at it from the point of view of the person/ thing i am thinking critically about to try to develop a better understanding.
Sometimes it really can be hard, but you have to have the common sense inside to tell you differently. You should have some realistic voice/ reason :)
No, I think it can be easy to see the negative side of anything but you can still love it regardless
For me personally, I've struggled trying to think logically and critically about something I loved, especially when it came to relationships. It takes a lot of strength, and for me, an outside person who could take the situation in with fresh eyes and ears.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2018 6:22pm
It's more difficult to think rationally about something or someone you love rather than critically. To be critical about something you love may not always be the best option. Just do what you'd do, follow your brain and then your heart.
It is not really all that hard to think critically about something I love because what is love without constructive criticism? If I love someone, but I never tell them when something is bothering me, they never will know it’s bothering me in the first place, and therefore will never fix it. If they don’t fix it, I will continue to be bothered by it. If it continues to bother me, I won’t want to be around them anymore. My Stepmom always says, “Teach people how to treat you. If you never tell them, they will never know to fix it, and that’s just counterproductive.â€
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