Is it hard to think critically about something you love?

Depending on the circumstances, critically thinking about something you love might come at ease, or it may take some digging. Have you considered mindfullness meditation? I know that can sometimes help calm your mind and body and allow you to focus on what you are trying to give your complete attention to. I would consider trying this and focusing on what exsactly it is you are wanting to critically think about. If you are finding that this doesnt help, try expressing to a friend or loved one how you are feeling and that might help get your thoughts flowing!

It's very hard to think critically of something you love, yes. Love can blind us, and give us rose-tinted glasses that we see through. When we love something, it's a lot easier to forgive things that shouldn't be forgiven and look past weaknesses that we otherwise would have seen. For example, just a couple months ago I got out of a relationship. It ended with him pushing me away, which hurt me a lot. It took me a couple months to heal and move past it, since he meant a lot to me. However, after a while, I realized some things that I hadn't seen before. I found myself thinking back on the bad times, realizing how careless I had been. I personally identify as asexual, and I don't like kissing at all, but unfortunately my partners love language was physical touch. He kissed me a lot, and I secretly hated it, but I let it slide since I loved him and I thought that was my job as a girlfriend. Another time he used me to find out his weight, which he wasn't allowed to know since he had been struggling with an eating disorder. I tried to be firm, saying no and that I didn't think it was a good idea. He started to yell at me, calling me paranoid and demanding I give him his weight. It made me feel really bad, and rather then criticize him, I blamed myself. He tried to kill himself the same night, without talking to me at all before. He used me a lot, and it wasn't a healthy relationship, but I just kept blaming myself when things went wrong because of my love. I regret how hard I tried to get him to stay, and I would have done a lot of things differently. He made me uncomfortable, and he didn't talk to me at all, but I still loved him and stayed. This shows how powerful those rose-colored glasses are, since you can so easily look past their faults.

It can be hard indeed but this doesn't mean that it's impossible! You can try to ask yourself some questions at a time when your mind will be clear: why do I love this? For how long have I loved it? Does it bring to me a sense of comfort? Has it ever helped me? You can also consider what is the approach of the people you trust towards the thing you love. Of course, it depends on whether we're referring to an object, a hobby or a situation! Each case is different and there are, of course, sometimes when even if we have criticized something, we still feel that we can't live without it. You can try to explore the thing you love and she how it goes. It might be a long process, but it will be worth it, as you will learn about yourself as well!

It can be hard to think critically about something you love especially if the result of these thoughts causes you to realize you may need to change your relationship to what you love. Often when we find ourselves thinking critically about something we love it arises out of a desire to change. Change can be scarry and incredibly difficult. If these thoughts result in the conclusion that it may be helpful to change your relationship to something you love but you are not ready, that is okay, it's important to know this for yourself. When we are kind to ourselves in regard to where we are at in this process it can give us the courage, we need to make the changes we would like to see.

Yes, but it isn't entirely impossible. You will most likely ignore their flaws and think about the good qualities that they have. Sometimes you may not even see how bad they are and ignore what others say about them. You can acknowledge that they are good people and at the same time know that they are human and have flaws. In some books, people look at this one person in admiration and have a crush on them just for what they look like or how they present themselves, but really, it's just a simple fling that doesn't matter whatsoever.

Yes. It can be hard to think critically about something you love, or even someone. There is a saying about the fact that love can be blind. When we are in love we usually don`t see the flaws in the other person. Especially at the beggining of a relationship. We like to believe in that romanticized version we created in our head. But nobody is perfect, even our loved one! This is why sometimes asking for advice from a trusted person can be helpful. Someone who is not directly involved can bring another perspective on the potential issue.

Having been in a terrible relationship with someone that turned into a person I hated, I can say that yes "love" or the idea of it can impact your critical thinking. I spent several years in a relationship with someone who never put in the same amount of effort. They would emotionally and verbally abuse me but because I was in love with them I let it continue. I told myself many times that it was my fault or that I must've done something wrong. In the end I finally realized that we just weren't meant for each other. I still think about that person and dream that we are still together. I know it's just my subconscious reminding me that I want to be in a loving relationship, he just happens to have been the last guy I was emotionally attached to. Looking back now there were many red flags that I ignored. Things that I let slide or just flat out ignored because thinking about the flaws in the relationship only made the facade crack even more.

It depends on how much you love it. But you should always think critically, because YOU love that something and it's really up to you why. Covering the one that you love and making them look as if they have no flaws or anything will only harm you later in your life, you will find it in your way. Logic is something we usually take for granted, and no matter how hard we find it sometimes to use it, like as in an emotionally stressing situation, we still have to use it. It opens our eyes.

Definitely. When we love, we love with our whole heart and personality, and it is hard to not idealize it. However, admitting that the thing we love has its flaws is crucial in developing healthy, critical relationship.

If you think objectively and rationally rather than emotionally, yes it is possible and not very difficult to assess something you love.

No, it is not. I'm task-oriented, so, I'm used to just getting things done, I push away any awkwardness or discomfort, and finish thinking.

I believe it is hard to think critically about things you love because your opinion of it influences the value it has to you. A second opinion may help you in a situation like this as the 3rd party may have a neural ground.

If you are insanely, blindly passionate about something - chances are you won't be able to be critical, you'll always have a bit of a biased point of view. But in time, when this rush fades and you start to genuinely love something, I think it's easier to be a bit more critical and finally honest with the low points of what you enjoy.

It depends on you as a person. I as a perfectionist, criticise everything that means a lot to me. It also depends on your character as a person.

Yeah, it is. If you love someone or something you're biased, you'll think about the positive aspects more. that's where the opinions of others might be helpful to hear.

Absolutely! But it's also important that you learn to do it. I'll give you an example. Let's say when you were growing up, your parents had super high expectations of you. Straight A's in school, plus extracurriculars, plus sports, plus volunteer work. And you just couldn't do it. Nobody could! They let their disappointment show, loud and clear, because you hadn't met their expectations. Here's where the critical thinking comes in. You love your parents. With all your heart. But they're wrong. Their expectations are just too darn high. But if you can't think critically and see that, you're going to feel "less than" because you didn't meet the unrealistic demands your parents put on you.

It often can be difficult to think critically about someone you love, You tend to want to care for every bit of them, and your love can blind you to any faults.

You have to think honestly, it can be hard at first but then you start to realise the flaws we all have as human beings.

Yes AND no. If you love something you may be critical of it as you want the best for it and you're critical to find weaknesses to create the best version of that thing. You might be critical because you're not ready for love. On the other hand, if you love something you wouldn't be critical about it as you are so in love with it that you see no faults.

Yes, when you love something you tend to focus on the good parts only. This is why it's always important to have a trusted friend or family member evaluate the situation also and offer their opinions. You shouldn't automatically do what they say, but it's important to be open minded and consider their opinions.

Sometimes passion gets the best of us and all we see is the good or the bad. It's one extreme or the other. For myself and depending on what it is I'm thinking about, I can critically and objectively assess what it is I love. If it is my art (drawing or writing), it'd take some time to look passed the flaws since I'd always be fixing something. I eventually come to accept that what I create won't be as I see it in my mind. So, yes, it is difficult to think about something I love critically. However, I do what I can with what I have.

Yes it's hard sometimes because If you keep remembering the person you love and you'll get more depressed by that.

It can be hard to think critically about something you love if you are not accepting to other's opinions. You can still admit it has flaws and still love it. I don't think someone else's opinion should affect what you think about a certain thing or person though. if you love it take pride in it.

I believe it is, yes. However, I think it is important to try to see the negative side of things sometimes, as the mist of love can make things that are bad for you seem perfectly acceptable.

Sometimes it can be very hard to look objectively at something you care about. You might even feel like you're being personally attacked when someone says something critical about the thing you love. But I think people should realize that everyone has different tastes and not everyone will love the same things you do. If someone says something critical about something you love. it's not a personal attack on you. Just a difference of opinion.

It is. Our eyes are always colored, we see through multiple filters. We are more likely to think positivly about things and people we love.

No, not really. I guess it depends how much you love it though. But for most things, they have pros and cons, it's just that the pros outweigh the cons.

This is an interesting question also. It is hard to think critically about something you love because it is hard to imagine releasing this.

Yeah, usually it is hard because when you love someone you are idolizing them. You are angry if someone says something bad about them and you can't see any bad thing at them, you seem them as perfect, but it is not right.

Yes, We like to believe that our judgement is clear regarding those close to us, but frequently it is all too easy to opt to be blind to their traits.