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How can I get what I need from my doctor?

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How can I get what I need from my doctor?
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Profile: CastleQueen8
CastleQueen8
August 31st, 2016 6:16am
Telling your doctor what is going on is the first step. If they don't seem to be helping, however, there's other options. You could try talking to a different doctor for a different set of views. You could also do extended research and bring what you found up to your doctor. It shows that you know what you're talking about and some doctors will be more willing to take you seriously.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2016 3:15am
Be honest with what you are experiencing and don't be afraid to ask questions, voice concerns, or give suggestions.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2016 9:12am
Explain to them what it is that is bothering you and they should be able to help you out with your needs
Profile: FrenchThea
FrenchThea
September 1st, 2016 8:32pm
You can get what you need by explaining it to him in details ; whats and whys and he'll help you determine doses, and maybe he'll tell you to see specialists.
Profile: paperCrane15
paperCrane15
September 2nd, 2016 7:26pm
Usually doctor knows best what is better for you :) Lying and cheating only leads you away from the progress
Anonymous
September 3rd, 2016 7:07pm
Be completely honest so he could determine what you need first...hell take it from there. Just be positive
Profile: ffmedic
ffmedic
September 14th, 2016 9:10am
This can be overwhelming for most people to get out what they need to say and try to sound "normal" while doing so. I have found over my years of having troubles, I do best when I trust the provider. The person I see now is someone I have seen for years and I trust her with everything inside me. If I am having anxieties or scared about what to say, she knows I will send her an email on the portal for the hospital system I belong to, or if I don't have that access I find its best to write out what is going on, or what is happening to you and how you feel out on paper. Calmly, and then write what your expectations really are for the issues. If its weight loss, be realistic... You're not going to lose a major amount of weight in a short amount of time with no effort. Its just not going to happen. When my experience has come in on this, I have shame and am scared about talking to people about my trauma as a child and the recent things that have happened to me. And with that comes the Depresison, anxiety, PTSD, and other issues. I get it out in writing. She has much better luck with me being able to express myself that way, than just waiting for me to speak cause sometimes that won't happen. Good luck in your endeavors to the Doctor. It isn't so bad. You can do it! I support you!
Profile: Sunflower20
Sunflower20
September 14th, 2016 9:52pm
Talk to your doctor and make sure you also ask questions because that way you will be able to get exactly what you need.
Profile: heartfulHeart81
heartfulHeart81
September 14th, 2016 10:36pm
Be completely open and honest with your doctor about what you are experiencing. Leave nothing out. The more they know about what you are dealing with, the easier it will be to help.
Profile: Maat7
Maat7
September 15th, 2016 2:44am
Be open and honest about your feelings and your needs. Don't leave the doctor's office in doubt, ask as many questions as you need to be clear on how to better follow your treatment and what to gain from it.
Anonymous
September 15th, 2016 10:46pm
You have lived with your body your whole life, if what a doctor says to you does not seem right then get a second opinion.
Profile: HereToHelpYou742
HereToHelpYou742
September 24th, 2016 9:55pm
By telling what you need and if he goes off topic bring him back to why you came. or find a new doctor
Profile: Namastay
Namastay
December 8th, 2017 5:13am
Talk with your doctor, tell them exactly how your are feeling, and what you think you need to help. They will know best and guide you from there.
Anonymous
December 10th, 2017 4:10pm
Think about what you want from your doctor first, and maybe prepare with someone else, so you're sure you ask the right questions. Also, it's okay to look for another doctor if you're uncomfterble with the one you're seeing right now.
Profile: Easylistener
Easylistener
December 15th, 2017 8:42pm
Always be honest about what you're going through, what you've done, or are experiencing so they can make a proper call about your health. Trust your doctor and you'll get the best from them to get what you need.
Profile: soothingSpace11
soothingSpace11
December 29th, 2017 5:20am
I've found that the most important way to communicate with your doctor what you really want and need is to ADVOCATE FOR YOURSELF. You are your own best advocate. Only you know if the side affects of a medication are intolerable, only you know if you need a higher dose, only you know if a treatment doesn't feel right or isn't working for you. Remember that whatever feelings you have are VALID, just by virtue of being your feelings, your reactions, and your opinions. Also, if your doctor isn't listening to you or helping you get the care you need, then you can graciously find a second opinion. There are many treatment options out there for you, no matter what physical or mental health problem you are dealing with, including pain management and coping skills. Keep you mind and heart open, and be proactive! You've got this!
Profile: Joye74
Joye74
January 5th, 2018 5:15pm
describe clearly and specifically your challenges. Doctor will suggest you based on your liking choose whatever you need.
Profile: ElephantTiger1
ElephantTiger1
January 12th, 2018 12:42am
Sometimes it can be really difficult to get what you need from a doctor especially when you think you haven't been heard. People say to trust the doctor because they always know best but sometimes a doctor doesn't know what is best for every patient. I would suggest if you were able to talk to another doctor or just make it really clear to them how much whatever is going on with you is bothering you.
Profile: interestingBerry66
interestingBerry66
January 18th, 2018 4:50pm
Speak up clearly about your needs and concerns, honestly. They won't know if you don't express yourself honestly.
Profile: HouseOfGold21
HouseOfGold21
January 18th, 2018 5:48pm
What you think you need might not be what your doctor thinks you need. Although this can be frustrating, you'll need to be articulate in explaining the way you feel to your doctor. After all, they have years of experience and may be able to suggest something which you hadn't considered.
Profile: QuietLittleKaiju
QuietLittleKaiju
June 15th, 2018 6:44pm
It’s important to be very specific when going to the doctor. Write down questions and make sure to share them. It’s easy to get swept up with anxiety when at an appointment and forget why you even had to see a doctor.
Profile: mangomovement79
mangomovement79
August 7th, 2018 6:39am
I make sure I have specific questions and concerns written down before an appointment to ensure that I have my issues addressed. I also make sure the doctor hears my own personal descriptions to avoid general or unspecific solutions.
Anonymous
August 26th, 2018 6:00pm
It is his/her job to provide care for you. If you need something, talk to your parents about requesting what you need, or just do it yourself. No matter what it is, that doctor is trained for this. If your doctor doesn't get it to you, they could not think you need it (or they may not be a good doctor). If you don't get your solution, don't write it off completely because there are almost always alternative solutions. You can always find something that works. Even if it takes a while. I hope that helps, if not, keep asking until you find something that does.
Anonymous
September 12th, 2018 11:59pm
first, tell them what you feel. symptoms, both physical and mental. then explain what you've already tried to do to fix it -- if anything. tell them what you hope to get out of whatever it is that you want from them and why you think it's just what you need. don't be afraid to try what they suggest, though, if they don't give you what you want. they are experts, after all. but hopefully you can get what you need with a little explanation as to why you need it. most doctors are understanding. best of luck! !
Anonymous
September 27th, 2018 5:01pm
You can get what you need from your doctor by being an “informed patient.” An informed patient is someone who has done all the research possible about their condition before walking into the doctors office. Add to that, come in with your notes and questions prepared in advance. This makes you more in control of your options as well as knowledgeable about them. In medicine their isn’t always one right course of action to do things. In this way, you and your doctor can determine what medically is best for you. Also come a bit in advance so you can calm your nerves in the doctors office as you go over your notes and questions. It is also best to phone in advance to check if the doctors appointments are on time.
Profile: insidesunshine
insidesunshine
October 3rd, 2018 6:04pm
Go to your doctor with your concerns in mind and ask specific questions that you have. Tell them your experience with whatever you are dealing with. After they tell you what they believe you need, ask them questions still! Ask how long it will take, what should I expect, when should I come see you again, how to know if it's getting better. Do not be scared and withhold concerns you have, because your doctor is there to help you get rid of those concerns. After your visit, you should feel completely confident in what you were told, so before you leave make sure you have that feeling.
Profile: SaraHoffman
SaraHoffman
December 6th, 2018 11:39pm
Be honest with them. Tell them what's going on and they will do what they think is best. You might not get the medication you want but what they give you will be from a medical opinion. But you have to be honest they don't know what your going through if you are not honest with them.
Profile: TessMo
TessMo
December 7th, 2018 6:33am
If I could offer a pro-tip on doctors, it would be to always be as open and descriptive as possible with them. You need help and most of the time, it's your first encounter with the doctor so they have very little to no knowledge of your health patterns. Unless, of course, this is a family doctor. Then they'll be able to gauge where the problem lies with your current health situation. Otherwise, include as much detail as you can to your account; your dieting, exercise habits, how you've been dressing etc. There shouldn't be a problem after that. Hope you get what you need from your visit! :)
Profile: ConallBranagin
ConallBranagin
December 20th, 2018 4:00am
Be honest, ask questions and if you feel stage fright at the idea of talking to a doctor, write it down. Writing down your question can help avoid many akward situations. Doctors can't read your mind. Remember that they are human as well and while they want to help, they can't if you are not willing to self advocate. Self advocating is when you admit you need something, that may be by asking a question, it may mean you do something different actively to result in an alternate reply or reaction. Just keep it straight forward ask and know even if the problem is embarrassing or not something you ever thought or wanted to say, doctors have usuallly already hearsd it, seen it or talked about it. Take a breath annd try it.
Profile: positivechangesco
positivechangesco
February 3rd, 2019 7:50pm
It is important to be open, honest and upfront with your doctor. Try not to be afraid to explain your situation and ask directly for what you're looking for. We often assume that our doctor can interpret what we are trying to say in a round-about way, this often leads to personal disappointment or frustration when we don't receive what we were hoping for. Be honest, open, direct and polite, your doctor will take your comments on board professionally and without judgement, they should then discuss your preferred outcome(s) with you and agree a way forward that you can both be satisfied with.