How to trust someone again who has consistently lied?
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To gain another's trust takes trust building. This takes a lot of patience and love and possibly distance depending on the person.
trust is not something you give but it is gained by others, i would give a chance. love is a rondom act of kindness
The person has really shown regret over their actions and is open to change. It might be a difficult path to trusting again and you feel like that person has had enough chances. If the change is genuine trust again but also be open to others opinions because sometimes they might see what you don't.
Its hard to trust them, start with small things and work your way up. Sometimes babysteps are more effective than long strides.
Start by communicating to the person your desire to trust them as well as the difficulty in doing so
Anonymous
October 28th, 2015 8:14pm
This is a tough one! Sometimes you just got to give it time and see if they can prove to themselves and to you that they have what it takes to stop the cycle of lying!
Anonymous
October 30th, 2015 12:27pm
Regaining trust for someone can be very difficult when they have consistently lied. Talking to the person about this and telling them how it makes you feel may be the first step to sorting out this situation and if you feel that the person has stopped lying, your trust for them may gradually build up again.
You have every right not to let someone who has consistently lied back into your circle of trust until you are ready, if ever. You own the keys to your heart and it's up to you who you let in.
I don't think you can ever FULLY trust anyone who continually lies. I honestly think that's impossible. It's like the boy who cried wolf.
When you lie over and over and over again, it's get hard for anyone to tell what's true and not. My best bet is to not even associate with someone who lies continually. Unless they actually do show that they've changed and there's solid proof.
Many people have lied to me in my life. Some more then others. It takes a lot of hard work but time and trust building exercises are what works best for me to forgive.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2015 6:18pm
well at the long run if you keep trusting someone even though that person carries on lying, that person deep down knows that they can trust you and eventually they will trust you, thus you trusting them.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2015 9:39pm
With great difficulty. Trust cannot be bought or just give, it is earned. I advise to try to move on
Trusting someone who has lied to you can be difficult- I can understand your hesitancy. What do you feel about it?
for me,I am a very trusting person, so lying doesn't settle with me, but it would depend on the situation i was in, whether they have a legitimate reason to lie. I know, the answer it not to shut them out, as it's likely that they will too eventually stop caring to make the effort. As much as it hurts for me, I do remain on my guard but know that the trust will come back in time. Time is the best healer
Anonymous
May 29th, 2018 11:32pm
Imagine if you were them, tell them what you would tell yourself. (Like if you were lying you would tell yourself to stop by telling yourself to stop doing things that you would have to lie about.)
Firstly I would suggest analysing if this is something that you actually want to do. If someone is not willing to be truthful with you then they do not deserve your trust. That said, If they are working on their behavour then absolutely give them another chance. The key to trust is actually in understanding that you trust your ability to cope if they hurt you. This is empowering because you hold the power to choose how you react and what you tell yourself about the situation. You need to decide if the change is genuine and they are not just pretending to change until you forget about the issue. Are you strong enough to forgive them and deal with another betrayl of trust? Always put yourself first.
First of all, accept that it will be hard. Let them know that you're trying to trust them again, and that anything they do to prove their trustworthiness is noticed and appreciated. Tell them that your relationship is in a fragile place, so anything they do to breach your trust will send you back to the beginning of the journey. Sometimes, you're subconscious won't actually trust the person still. Your brain automatically gets defensive after being lied to so many times. But if you believe they are changing for the better, you have to make a conscious leap of faith to trust them. The longer you make the leap the more natural it will feel.
I think the answer is you can't, or perhaps shouldn't. If this person must be in your life, then I think you need to explore ways in which you can live with them while not trusting them completely. If they don't need to be in your life, it might be worth giving them some space or moving on from them. But if you feel that you should try to trust them simply because you need to keep them around, I'm not convinced it's something you should or even could do. If they've consistently proven that they are not trustworthy, unfortunately I think that's something you need to come to terms with and work around as much as possible/is necessary.
Once the trust is broken, it is difficult to regain that trust. So it is okay if it takes a lot of time for you to trust someone. Take baby steps and keep high expectations if you can. It is okay if you do not trust anyone at all. Even though trust is the base of a relationship, mending a broken trust is like repairing a broken mirror. It might not always be possible to bring the mirror back, or even if you do, you will see many cracks.If we talk of lying, I will not justify the constant lying, however, everyone does lie at least once in their life. It is just a human tendency.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2021 6:02pm
You don't. Although past behavior doesn't dictate future behavior, it's often a good indicator. Since they've consistently lied in the past, what's stopping them from lying again? Or perhaps even finding new ways to do so in the future once you've managed to trust them again? Until they've proven to you that they've changed for good, which often requires some life-altering event, it's safe to say take everything they say with a grain of salt. This is not to say, people don't lie to cover their own insecurities. So working with the person to gain their trust could also be feasible depending on the scenario.
You don't its not worth the time but if its is important to you you just deal with it
Trust goes both ways
trusting someone is hard. let alone having been lied to time and time again. building trust is not easy. but in doing so, it can make relationships stronger. in other times, it can also make the relationship worse. second chances are sometimes needed but third chances are not.
Anonymous
August 30th, 2015 10:48am
Itz a very difficult task to do.. Coz trust is like a paper.. If itz crushed it can never be flatten.. Eventhough we try to do it.. It wnt be as it already was!!!
I think you have to believe that they have changed. Also keep your guard up, don't trust them straight away. Sometimes people can put on an act.
It depends on who the person is.If you really care about him/her try to talk and work with the problem
It'll be a hard journey to trust someone like that. But if you truly believe it's possible, it'll get easier and easier.
Trusting someone who has lied isnt an easy thing to do. Honestly you just have to trust in yourself to know that theyve changed.
Trusting someone who lied to you could be hard, its important that this person want to gain your trust back and is willing to take baby steps with you. You don't have to go from 0 to 100 in a second you have to build the relationship again step by step and when you realise that person will have your trust again, its important that this person never abuses your trust again.
Anonymous
September 16th, 2015 9:36pm
It takes time to trust someone who lied again. Try to trust them with small things at first then bigger things over time.
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