How to trust someone again who has consistently lied?

To trust someone that has consistently lied and still remain in communication with that person sounds frustrating. Seems like you are very concerned for that person that consistently lies to you. If your close friend had to deal with a person who didn't feel comfortable with telling the truth or complete truth, what would you do to suggest a way to allow that person to open up without feeling judged where they had to lie? Is there a way to make the person feel that it is ok to be authentically themselves without fear in a trusting manner? How would you support that person to gain trust equally?

you dont, obviously. why would you trust someone who did lie consistently? to my mind, it's totally illogical. it's good to be hopeful in people, and to believe they have the capacity to change, and they are good at their root, but... :D the focus itself, your focus, should not be ever on words in the first place. your focus should always be on actions, what people do, not what people say. sure, their words might prove true in the future, great, you note down, and you remember, and you can invest more in those people, because the risk of failure of the relationship is less, right? but nevertheless, your focus has to be on actions actions are truth. words are very small

Trust is based on mutual respect. It is a foundation for relationship. If trust is repeatedly violated, rebuilding or even remaining trust can be very challenging. It is understandable that you find it difficult to trust someone again who has consistently violate the trust that your relationship is built on. My question is how much you value the relationship you have with that person. To err is human. Everyone makes mistakes. We have been taught by great people that being hopeful and patient can help mend a lot of things include trust. I guess to trust or not to trust, it is up to you to decide.

Trust is a different thing for everyone and gaining trust back is a different process for everyone. What some people consider to be a trustworthy trait others may not. It's all personal to yourself. Its also important to remember that trust is a hard thing to gain and an easy thing to lose, you have to work for it. Trust can be shown to some by sticking to commitments, showing up when your suppose to, keeping things confidential when someone confides in you. Its more then just saying you'll do this, a lot of times its earned through actions done by individuals. With broken trust also comes forgiveness though. When people think of forgiveness a lot of times they think forgiveness is for the other person. Forgiveness is for YOU, it allows you to move on/past the emotions that keep you stuck in an event. Not forgiving can lead to resentments and that is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

Honestly, I wouldn't. But, if you really love and care for this person, I suggest you talk to them about their actions first, and then work together to make sure that you are not only building up your trust but that they are also making a consistent effort to regain your trust. Trust, and all relationships, for that matter, is a two way street, and it's hard to make it something that's one sided because it's really not. In order for you to trust them, you have to make sure that they are also working to improve themselves. It seems like you care enough about this person for you to want to trust them even after they've betrayed your trust. Seeing that, I'm guessing that you'd want to help this person improve as a human being and help them grow from their mistakes. So yeah-- in short, make sure you talk to them about it and help them understand why what they're doing is wrong and hurtful to you, then build from there.

It really is up to you if you want to trust that person again but I think that everybody deserves a second or another chance. Even if they have consistently lied. It's hard to trust someone again but you can be careful around them yet still be friends. Just give them another chance because if you lose a friend, there's a chance that you can regret it and you don't want that to happen. Again it is really up to you but I'm just saying that another way for them to prove themselves to you is by trusting them again even if it's hard. Just both of yourselves space in the beginning and go from there.

Communication is very important. Setting limits and talking about how you feel might get you two to a point where you can build trust again and overtime be in a better point. Trust is very hard to gain but really easy to lose, so it is key to have in mind that the process is going to be long, frustrating and that it requires a lot of patience, but it is not impossible when both parts are completely putting all they have in order to get to the desired point. Some follow-ups between two parties might help to keep track of a betterment too.

When I have been faced with a consistent liar, I don't trust them the same way again. I don't cut them off completely, but I don't really believe anything they say.. You need to be able to take everything they say with a pinch of salt. If you don't want to cut them off, don't, but you don't need to trust them again, no matter how much they beg. You need to assess your situation and see if you really need them in your life. If ou do, be wary around them, if you don't there's nothing wrong with not wanting to talk to them.

It is not easy. It is very very difficult. I also believe that you cannot change the inherent nature of the person. I think the burden is on him or her to go out of their way to convince you that they are worthy of your trust and if they don't do it. Please let them go. It would not be sensible to trust somebody who constantly lies. People are not what they say. People are what they do. Their every lie is a statement and it would be stupid to ignore such statement. Stop questioning yourself. Everything falls into place with time.

Forgiveness is key. Trusting them again may be difficult, but it's not impossible. Forgiving them for their mistakes, and releasing that they're human too could really help. You do not have to fully trust them with everything, or tell them everything, but moving on from the past and accepting the fact may help you move forwards. Trusting that they have changed is not easy either, and that is a whole other thing in itself. Remember, it does not make them a bad person, in fact everyone makes mistakes, and trusting them again and letting them into your life is very possible.

You don't have to trust them 100% right away. Build up trust slowly and tell them that if they want your trust again they are going to need to stop lying. I've had an experience with trying to trust a lier too. I told him that if he wanted my trust he would have to stop lying and then over time I could trust him again. It's important to know that it's OK not to trust a lier if they make no efforts to stop lying. It's also OK to not immediately trust a known lier who says they've made a change for good. But over time if they prove themselves, the relationship should strengthen again

It can be very hard for us to put our trust into someone who has lied to us frequently. Maybe you could rebuild that trust by setting clear boundaries with the person as well as perhaps letting them know of your concerns. It's perfectly alright to feel how you do about this - anyone in your shoes would feel the same way. Try to gently place your trust in them as time moves on, maybe seeing whether or not they lie. If ever you realise you cannot trust them again, you may be unable to ever trust them again. It's entirely up to you how you approach this, and how many chances you offer the person is up to you.

set limits. by setting limits!!! being able to set limits is the best way to protect both yoursel fand hte other person. ultimately if someone keeps betraying trust, then it's better to move on from toxic relatiopnshiops such as these. after all, why bother? It's not healthy to continue letting someone hurt you. It makes no sense and will only continue to hurt me as a person and a human being. I fail to see the point in maintinaing relstiapnships with people whoa re toxic. There are definetely a lot of people like that in this world and it's quite unfortunate.

It's hard to establish trust when someone has done nothing but show you that they don't deserve it but i have been proven wrong by those same friends. One way that i was able to build that trust back was to talk with them about how I felt and why it was hard to take them at their word. Once that was established it was a slow journey of giving out trust but also planning for the worse. Sometimes this means not trusting them with information that i absolutely dont want getting out or not believing them completely but trying to figure out what part of their story does hold the truth.

The key ingredient in any relationship is trust. While trust is a bond, it is also fragile, easily broken, if one of the partners constantly lies. To regain that broken trust is one of the most challenging things to do as it makes you question what to believe and what not to believe. In fact, it may take months to start believing in your partner again. If this relationship truly matters to you, then talk it out with your partner about his behavior and how has it made you feel. Help them realize that what they did was wrong, and the relationship is strong and precious. Give your partner the opportunity to learn and fix their mistakes. Even though this may take a long time, if it is worth it, your relationship will emerge stronger.

Based on my experience I can advise you the following: You don't have to trust again, we are talking about someone who consistently lied, not someone who has lied only once. If trust is important to you, you must understand that it cannot be unilateral, that is, if the other person did not value your trust, you are not obliged to force yourself to trust again. I don't know what your situation is, but if you decide to trust again, you must make it clear to him/her that he/she must earn your trust again through his actions. I hope it is useful for you.

The way you can trust someone again after they have lied consistently, would be to have excellent communication. Be able to be open with one another and have that trust rebuilt. Making a list of pros and cons about the person can sometimes help as well. If you see that there is more cons than pros, unfortunately sometimes it is best to let that person go. Having full trust into someone is extremely important if you are in a relationship or if it is just a friendship. A relationship is based on trust. If you truly love this person, you must be willing to do that. If you have doubts, it may be time to move on.

That’s a hard one. Well there have to try to earn your trust. YoU can’t just say I trust you since they now have a reputation for lying. They will have to be willing to trust you as well as to stop there habit for lying. Though trust can be very fragile it can be regained. If this person tries to gain your trust and turn their ways of lying you might be more open to trust them. Though if they don’t you can of need to keep an eye on the person saying their lies aren’t going get them anywhere and will lose people’s trust.:)

Trust is a two-way street, but trusting someone that has habitually lied is hard to develop trust in that person. Once they lied it’s a violation, but to continue to do so, then it’s as if now you’re conditioned to never believe a word they say. It would take a very strong person with nothing to lose to forgive a person who habitually lies. Of course the relationship between those people has a lot to do with it. How invested in this person are you? If it’s an offspring, son/daughter, then the parent will be more willing to forgive. If it’s a spouse, well that’s more of how much the infatuation goes. But if it’s a supposed friend, then the tolerance will be so diminished that the friendship will falter. In any case, it is ultimately up to the forgiver to forgive the lies. I believe as humans, we all lie about one thing or another. Would it not be hypocritical to never forgive a lier, if we ourselves desire to be forgiven when we do it? So to trust someone again, would require the ability to forgive.

Sometimes it's not possible. You need to decide if the relationship with the person is worth it. If you decide its worth it, then the best way to trust them again is to talk to them about it. Open communication and establish ways for them to earn back your trust. Your trust is a gift that others have to earn. It is not something that should be handed out to everyone. Explain to the person how you feel and make it clear that you are not someone to be walked over. You don't have to feel guilty for not trusting someone who has lied to you. They should feel guilty for lying, and they are the ones who should be fighting to regain your trust.

Best course of action is to not trust them. They have already shown their trustworthiness, which isnt impressive, and they have proven their tendency to be consistent with lying and have a pattern of it. They will likely do it again and again and you will just end up emotionally and psychologically harmed which is no good for anyone. So it is best to proceed with caution and protect yourself. It is best, therefore, to keep them at arms length and distance yourself from such an individual so they are unlikely to hurt you again. Dealing with someone who is a confirmed, consistent Liar is damaging, hurtful, and can be very harmful.

It’s definitely hard to believe what someone who has gotten you used to then lying at all times is saying. Once trust is lost, it can be extremely hard to get back. It is definitely hard for us to distinguish when someone we are used to be lied by is telling a lie or they are truthful and it can make us really confused. However, there are times when you can tell they are being truthful - taking into consideration their gestures & language, speaking pace and style etc. For me, knowing why they lied to me is a must, so I know exactly that would not be the case again. Having a serious discussion with the person can also be essential.

It is important to note, firstly, that you are not required to trust someone again who has consistently lied to you. You do not need to keep this person in your life unless you feel it is important to you or you want to. That being said, if you want to continue having a relationship with that person, it would be difficult to do so without developing the element of trust. Trust is a mutual feeling, which means both of you have to be willing to step forward into progress on this together, meaning that for both of you, it won't help to harp on the past, and it won't help to continue to lie. This requires both of you to step out of the tendencies to engage in blaming, dredging up the past, and lying. In other words, you both have to be willing to be trustworthy, and you both have to be willing to trust--that willingness is the first step of trusting again.

You need to forgive, and to see the good in them. Lying always comes from a place of pain, and getting through to that source will help you begin to trust them again. Everybody does things that aren't morally right, and still being there and helping them is a way to help them heal to help them overcome that. Lying is often a coping mechanism, in my experience, and once they begin to cope better with friendships, relationships and just their life in general the lying decreases or even stops completely. Insecurity fuels lies, and being aware of someone's insecurities is a good way to understand why they lied, and to empathize with them.

This is a question I ask myself many times when I have been let down. Trust has to be earned and sometimes it is very difficult to trust someone after they have consistently lied, or cheated, or hurt you. But it can be done with time and patience. Although, I would say, do you need to trust them? Many a relationship is fun and can be productive without involving trust. Think about the areas that they need to be involved in and then decide. Sometimes hurting someone and lying means the relationship has broken down and will never be on the same level again. Does it need to be? Do you want to forgive them or do you need to forgive them? Think carefully.

I think it is very hard indeed, but I genuinely don’t think it’s possible as much as you try. And again it is not your fault you feel that way either. Gaining trust is a really long process which is not something you can control. If they have constantly lied and they manipulate you it is their fault and you owe them nothing. If you really want to trust them again then see how they treat others, if they treat them the same, maybe you should try to talk to them. If they don’t then they are trying to manipulate you, show them that you are not that person.

Regaining trust isn’t easy and it can take time to build it back. It really starts with you and if you are willing to forgive. When someone defiles your trust, depending on the relationship (and how big the lie), there can be acts that may take longer. Sometimes time and space is needed for that healing to occur depending on what’s done. The world is complex with 7 billion souls floating around this pale blue dot. What you may hold important, others might not and that can be complex at times. There are various reasons that people lie as well but, it can be for spotlight, to cast discourse or easier to tell than vulnerable and let people close. Sometimes just putting yourself in their shoes can help a lot with understanding and trying to figure out a even ground with them if you care about them.

Trusting someone who has consistently lied to you previously is a hard thing to do. From previous experiences with an individual as such, it is guaranteed you will always have a thought in the back of your mind as to whether they are or are not being honest with you at that time. Good communication skills are essential in these situations. It is also important in situations that you maintain clear boundaries with the other individual regarding their honesty. If their honesty and integrity has been of questionepreviously, you have the right to not only ask for clarification of their communication/words but you also have the right to ask them if they are being honest. This may cause offence initially, however, at the end of the day, you may investing your time and resources for no legitimate reason at all and this can result in to you harbouring feelings of resentment towards the other individual because they have "wasted" your time. Afterall, should their request not be genuine, you may be investing your precious time and resources that could have been put to use in other more genuine and productive ways.

Trusting someone again after losing hope for your relationship with that person can be challenging. If you are looking to mend things, it could be beneficial to take small steps. Remember you do not have to become "best friends" again immediately, or even forgive them immediately. Often times the best and most stable things in life come over time, maybe look at your relationship with that person in the same light. You could start by asking them to hang out one day, just to talk about things. You could talk to them about how they're feeling, ask them questions, clear the air, etc. Be open with them, ask them to be honest with you if that is what you are looking for.

If I value the relationship with this person and want to trust her/him again, I think the first step is to make sure that we are on the same page and that the person knows how I am feeling and how I am willing to act upon it. I would say explicitly to the person: "I want you to know that I have been hurt by your past lies to me. I value your relationship and trust is a necessary component of any relationship. For this reason, I am willing to trust you again if you are willing to show commitment. I suppose you are aware that building trust again is not an easy task, for this you need to help me in it and show me in action (and not only in words) that I can truly trust you." Then, I anticipate that the next steps will be dependent on the reactions of the person.