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New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 15 hours ago
...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! Here are some quick links for you to check out: our taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Join in to get updates on discussions and events. check out this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/] for updates on weekly discussions! check out our newest check-in [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressCommunityCheckInDec915_342093/] here! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. If you have any question, do not hesitate to contact KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] (teens and adults) or reply on this thread! Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! tagging our newest subcribers: @lovingGrapefruit8860 @raspberryKiwi4131 @turquoiseNest9943 @pluckyAcres9036 @patientMango4300 @peanut123456789 @Dash0 @PuffyCloud23 @understandingComputer9065 @MaCara @automatonic @sincereLion3371 @MuresanAndre @VelvetPoppy @GreenBlaze @persistentBalsam5393 @ggoidell @RamneetKaur  @charlenedelfin @skyraven02 @sereneMuse @Astraois42 @djadee @energeticShade4362 @loyalPeach3985 @pumpkincatmother @Mokuro @drowningmermaid88 @azureCoconut2121 ard [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- Edited by KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] on 16.12.24
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Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (Dec 16 - 22)
by KatePersephone
Last post
 16 hours ago
...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * What’s a song you could listen to on repeat forever? * Cozy socks or fluffy blankets? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefNgW-Va7dyBx67M3d27INmkndnwm1C3Ywa7NJoFa2EscQkA/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- tagging the community: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CaringCharlie @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 @Clarisse29 @Colourfultiger @ComingOutAsNB @CompassionateYoshi88 @confidentVision4766 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @ConversationThot404 @Cparsons816 @CraigyP @crazycountry210 @creativeComputer2115 @DanaMH @dancersoul @dancingLake682 @DanielaC @DanielGarzaV @daydreammemories @decisiveScarf8956 @Den2542 @discreetShip7372 @DogFish1 @doodlefroggie @dopey @EchoTheDragon @electricLily13 @ella12346 @ELLE @Emirson2018 @EncouragingSteps @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @eohseo @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @EvolvedScorpio @Explorer6115 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @faithfulHickory1025 @Falkenberg @fantasticDancer50 @Feepersane @Floatingbubbles @fluffycow27 @forcefulFriend4768 @Foreverchangedbyyou @Francescahelps @FranklyMaple @Freshmelon54 @Friendlycomfort81 @frostedPudding @Gabrielamtineo @generousWriter2778 @glasseyedgrace @GodsBabyGirl1981 @goldenFlower74 @gracefulVoice9463 @grassup @Gtalker8845 @GusteeMoon123 @gymnast9460 @Hailey3 @hairyxsnail @HarmonyBlossom @Hashib22 @HealingBrokenWIngs @healingHeart1111 @healinghearts0718 @Healingwhispers14 @Heartofgold07092019 @heavenlyHug9328 @helloapple1885 @helloCity5743 @hereforyoualways123 @heysunshine12 @hippiewannabe @honestWater4345 @honeypie720 @Hope3729 @hopefulPower54 @HopefulPower54 @HumorousPear1826 @iDeepScar @ILikeCilantro @imaginativeneverhappening @imofficiallyburnt @IMott71 @imrose123 @independentClementine6064 @infinitivethoughts2k19 @ingeniousfriend59 @intuitiveSummer6764 @JamilaBrownPsyD @Janet33 @JellyBean299 @jerom222 @joiefae @jwong611 @k87 @Kailah15 @kasmin21 @Katee02 @Katheryn @KatLis123 @Katrine92 @Kentsch @ketket68 @Kevin2009 @kindJoy3316 @kindLemon2749 @kizzyaaliyah @Kpopcat2020 @LadyDair @LadyInSilence @Lalonso2 @LavenderHere @lavenderOrange4849 @LeafOnABranch @LeoisListening @LePapillon @Lexloveslife @lightDrum8955 @lightLemonIsaac5408 @LightSoul108 @limeVillage7000 @Liv143 @Lovelylady18 @Lunasel @Lunaticphilosopher @luvkyleigh @lyricalPillow74 @lyricalpillow74 @madels20033 @magicalHorizon48 @mamapants @Mared @MarvelousMack11 @Mavvinder @mbrito712 @Mellietronx @Mellifluous11 @Mia1602 @MidwesternCalmSeeker @MikkyA @MilaAvery @MissDaria18 @MithLycos @modestPine7046 @Morpheus13 @MotherOfAVirgo @Mountainmystic777 @Mrrytu @MyownkindaCrazzi @nabilah17ism @navyOcean3488 @ngsuling1986 @niceCLEMEMTINE1415 @niceDaisy36 @Ninab0bina123 @ninetaleslove @NityaSpiritualHealer @NotAllHere713 @Offmytrack @onedirection1213 @OneErased @Open2Change @ouiCherie @OwenJackson73 @pandaprincess9 @Pandora3796 @pathFinder1725 @patientBranch9284 @peachkitty @PerpetuallyKekastrophic @persistentShade5213 @phia7292 @phia7293 @pioneeringSkies8568 @PlumBeechwood7549 @purpleMango7295 @PurplePansies21 @Purplerain00001 @purpleTree4652 @PurpleVelvet @quickwittedOwl8855 @quitahearsyou @Radioguy @Randomguyuk @Rebekahwriter13 @red85 @Rednuc270539 @rheyoflight @richbich @rieeavery1920 @RoboPhantom @Roro36 @RoseJuliet @rosenova1513 @rrrak @ryha3274 @Sadstan869 @Saeraleis @safetysource12 @Sailor57 @SaimaK @sarahR2004 @SavoyTruffle20 @selfloveisthecure88 @SentientiaPoecile @Seri123 @sgtdavis33 @ShareenBirgesBASSCounGDYMH @ShawnMendesGoals @She13 @ShineWithin @shugha14 @Siciturastra @Silver0824 @sincereFarm2814 @Skybar @skyfallingrain @Skywalker2002 @Skyy0 @sociableOcean9153 @Softheart01 @Solivagant2609 @somewhathappy @SophieKate547 @SparklingSnowflake15 @Spiritseaker @SpreadPeaceandlove @SpringWaltz @SquishySquid01 @StardustLetters @starplucker123 @Stephen @stephi0504 @strawberrywillow @Sugarcoat3 @SugareeIsMe091121 @Summershy @sunnyApricot6027 @SupportiveMonkey46 @sweetcake0707 @sweetlife101 @SylvestreX @Tahja07 @Tazzie @thegirlnatureforgot625 @TheMcManager @TheMushroomMan1216 @thisllpass @thisthenewme @Tiger222 @TranquilSkye @TravellingPrincess @tryingmybest7 @unassumingHuman4669 @understandingWater785 @Uniquesmiley @urbanwave @vallllllllllllll @w305 @warmheartedPlace7925 @Warrior2684 @Waves4 @Webehejdjfj @weirdbook @Wildarkberry @WinglessYetFlying @Wittie96 @WriterOfTheNight @WunderfrogWeirdo @xandia @XanFransisco @Xerah @YankeeOrangetiger @SpiritTea @Grammy23 @quietlistener2023 @HopefulOne81 @modestRaspberries7557 @BeautifullyLostxo @batgirl1234
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Relationship Stress Automated Taglist
by Tazzie
Last post
 December 9th
...See more Welcome to the Relationship Stress Taglist! This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated and can be found below. Please direct any questions or issues to tommy [https://www.7cups.com/@tommy] via private message. Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on the weekly check-ins ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please remove me. Taglist updated by KateDoskocilova [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] on 01.12.24 @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CaringCharlie @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 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Waiting for Someone
by Anonymous098221
Last post
 12 minutes ago
...See more In September 2023, the longest relationship I had ever been in ended. It hit me hard, but it allowed me to do some deep reflection and soul searching. In doing this, I realized that I was not yet the man I needed to be were I to dedicate my life to a woman in the way they she would deserve. Part of this I determined was my environment. I had been living in my hometown my entire life, knowing everyone, always having distractions or something to do. These things often were things I chose over the things I should have spent more time on: things like health & fitness, church, working on myself. In reflecting on this, I made the decision to move. My lease was up this past April, and so I made the decision to move 600 miles away to force myself out of my comfort zone and to grow. Right at the beginning of February, without even looking, I met someone. It was one of those connections that you just can’t explain. I was honest and open and explained to her that I was moving and so that it would likely be hard for use to have a committed relationship and out of respect for her I wanted to upfront. She insisted that didn’t scare her, and we were both just so drawn to each other we were just enjoying each other’s connection so much. When moving day came, it was hard, but we stayed in touch, texting every day, talking on the phone and FaceTiming when we could, and in the couple of weekend trips that I did make home, we always spent as much time as we could together. We were loyal to one another, without there ever being a title or official commitment. She often asked for a title or official commitment, but I was reluctant because of our living situation, even though I was in love with her. With the work I am still doing on myself, I didn’t think it was fair to either of us and I didn’t want one of us to end up resenting the other one if things didn’t turn out how we wanted. I guess I just imagined that if it was meant to be, the title wouldn’t matter and we’d find a way. I understand that isn’t ideal, but it was also no secret about how we felt for each other. From April through November we kept in contact. At the beginning of November, we talked and she said she couldn’t do this anymore without an official commitment. We talked and she understood that wasn’t something I could give her right now and that was okay. There was no ill will and we had a good conversation. She said no man has ever shown her what I have shown her and that maybe we could meet again someday under different circumstances. I said the same thing. We wished each other the best  and said our goodbyes. We’ve stayed friends on social media but don’t communicate. There hasn’t been any contact, but we both said we’d be each other’s biggest cheerleaders from afar. I’ve been home since this past Wednesday for Christmas and am staying through the New Year. Just before traveling up I logged into social media and saw that she already has another boyfriend, only a little over a month since we last spoke. I wouldn’t expect her to put her life on hold or wait for me, but a month? It feels like the things she said to me didn’t matter anymore. It feels like she was talking to this guy before we split and that her last call was ultimatum before running to this other guy. And what she doesn’t know is that while I would never expect this from someone else, I am waiting for her. There was never anyone else. Since that day we last spoke my entire focus has been hyper charged, becoming the man I need to be faster than I can imagine, so that I can ultimately dedicate my life to her and her two children. I know it’s God’s plan and I truly do believe that when the time is right aka when I can be who I need to be for her that he will bring us back together and that this guy she is with now will come and go. But so many friends/family tell me I need to talk to her in person to tell her this while I’m here. But that isn’t fair to her. That I’d come and tell her this now, when she’s with someone new. It isn’t that I never felt it, but I felt I couldn’t/shouldn’t given our circumstances. Anyway I guess I just don’t know what to do. I’m committed to God and trusting his plan. But I don’t want to let the best thing that has ever happened to me slip away either. And even if I were to try and talk to her while I’m here, how would I even get her to answer me or agree to see me, especially now that she has a boyfriend?
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My husband beat me
by courteousPond9146
Last post
 4 hours ago
...See more I live in Pakistan and am 19 years old with a 27 year old husband. We live in a joint family where I had to over work myself, had to live in stress with my privacy continuously inavded. I was already not happy,but stayed because I always thought atleast my husband is nice. But now, he pinned me to the ground and kept slapping me and saying demeaning things until I completely froze into place. I am currently staying with my parents and asking every intelligent person I see, and asking myself day and night: should I stay or leave?
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Aversion to noise
by determinedSea4370
Last post
 14 hours ago
...See more Does anyone else deal with this? I live in a house with thin walls and whenever anyone talks on the phone or turns on the TV, I lose my mind a little bit. I feel like the sounds trespass into my space and I feel violated- I either start having a mild anxiety attack or I get depressed and paralyzed. Like the sounds are an attack, like they are pushing me out of the house and taking up all the air until there is no room left for me. This happens to me in my house and sometimes I just fall into a depressive slump because of it and other times I can shut myself into the closet in the far side of the house to escape any chance of a noise attack. This whole noise aversion thing was one of the main reasons I couldn't live in a dorm or apartment- I would get anxiety attacks all the time and I would spoil any chance of socializing because I would make sure I was only there to sleep. If I had to be in the apartment or dorm, I would usually end up drinking myself silly or self-harming and blasting music in my ears until my head hurt. I feel insane because when I tried to explain this to my parents they just accused me of being overly sensitive and my friend told me I was just spoiled. I need to socialize and get out there in the world, but sounds absolutely kill me.
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New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 15 hours ago
...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! Here are some quick links for you to check out: our taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Join in to get updates on discussions and events. check out this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/] for updates on weekly discussions! check out our newest check-in [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressCommunityCheckInDec915_342093/] here! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. If you have any question, do not hesitate to contact KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] (teens and adults) or reply on this thread! Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! tagging our newest subcribers: @lovingGrapefruit8860 @raspberryKiwi4131 @turquoiseNest9943 @pluckyAcres9036 @patientMango4300 @peanut123456789 @Dash0 @PuffyCloud23 @understandingComputer9065 @MaCara @automatonic @sincereLion3371 @MuresanAndre @VelvetPoppy @GreenBlaze @persistentBalsam5393 @ggoidell @RamneetKaur  @charlenedelfin @skyraven02 @sereneMuse @Astraois42 @djadee @energeticShade4362 @loyalPeach3985 @pumpkincatmother @Mokuro @drowningmermaid88 @azureCoconut2121 ard [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- Edited by KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] on 16.12.24
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Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (Dec 16 - 22)
by KatePersephone
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 16 hours ago
...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * What’s a song you could listen to on repeat forever? * Cozy socks or fluffy blankets? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? 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I am not good enough for a Girlfriend.
by tryingtosurvive2024
Last post
 16 hours ago
...See more I am a guy.  I am a Christian.  I have a learning disability called ADHD/ADD.  I wrote a post about Church hurt where I go into details on why I am not in Church anymore.  I once prayed that if I could be around Women then I might learn how to get along with them.  Did that prayer get answered?  I honestly don't know...  My learning disability and  other mental health problems cost me two jobs before landing the job I am currently in.  22 years ago, I had no idea I would get stuck where I am at. I am currently working for a School.  I clean 2:00pm - 10:30pm.  The school has around 50 Women employed, from Office Workers, Cafeteria workers, Teacher Aids, and the Teachers.  Over the course of 22 years I have had lots of little interactions/talks with some of the Women there.  97% of them are already married.  What I think I have learned from my experiences is that I'm not "boyfriend" material.  It constantly feels like I got to walk on eggshells around them. Since my real life is like this, I decided to try online.  In the early days, it was easier for me to find a woman to talk too.  But the women I would meet was always long distance away, and they were not right for me.  As time went on, I found that it became harder and harder to even meet them.  Since I have found myself thinking about this again for the 1 Billionth time.  I decided I would write about it.  See I just wrote something about it. What is wrong with me?  I think the main thing that is wrong with me is my learning disability.  Somehow it effects everything about me, including my body language.  The lack of connection causes depression, and everyone around me can tell that is happening too.  It is like a circle that I can't get out of it.  But one thing I can do is write about it.
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Need help with TERRIBLE retroactive jealousy
by Dilpreets23
Last post
 17 hours ago
...See more Well i have a girlfriend who had been in a 2 year relationship with someone before me. They had done wild sexual things and have made so many memories together in general. I don’t know what to do but i can’t get over it. She has reassured me and showed me that she has changed and is saying that everything was a mistake and she didn’t want to do any of it. Even when i’m hanging out with her , I always have a bad gut feeling or i’m having bad vivid thoughts of her and her ex. They’ve done so much together sexually and in general. I don’t want to do but I really want to be with her.
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I’m in a relationship with a girl who cannot stand to be kissed
by willingCranberry8588
Last post
 17 hours ago
...See more Every time I try to kiss her she turns away or practically refuse
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Breakup
by intellectualHouse5712
Last post
 22 hours ago
...See more My girlfriend of a year and 8 months just broke up with me two days ago. I really really believed she was going to be the one for the rest of my life. I’m struggling very hard because she told me she fell out of love with me and that even though she wants to be with me her heart just isn’t in it and that’s not fair for me. I’m still extremely close with her mom, dad, sister and other family etc. And she told me that one day we will be able to be friends again and I can still be apart of her family. we planned to not talk until May. I’m having such a hard time because I feel like she is living her life happily without me. I really miss her.
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Being cheated on changed my life, some support and friends would be nice
by fearless1000
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Hello! It is a bit scary for me to be vulnerable and share my recent experience but I hope that some good and support comes out of this. Four months ago my first love and partner of three years cheated on me and abandoned me; never taking accountability for what they did, never gave an explanation, and never answered any of my questions, they just disappeared. They night they cheated they sent me a message (while at the girl's house) saying that they "love me deeply and truly" and that we would "always" be together. The next day they ignored me the entire day while they were at the beach with the girl, they deleted the posts of us together on social media, and was active but ignoring me. He left our three year relationship for someone that he only knew for three days... It felt like my world fell apart. He is now dating the girl he most recently cheated on me with and is pretending to be super loyal and in love with her. They both are posting and she thinks she is so lucky to have found him and he is playing victim to what happened. It is unbearable seeing them together and seeing him happy after he destroyed my happiness. I blocked him on everything but I cannot help but occasionally stalk on fake accounts. I found out after we broke up that this more recent betrayal was not the first but the third! He had cheated two times prior with two different girls. I was devastated. It felt like my world completely went upside down. It felt like our entire three year relationship was fake, that our passionate love was fake. I was with him since I was 17, we went to prom together, and we were pretty serious. He was my first kiss even. We planned on getting married, having kids one day (even naming them), and he was even looking for rings were how naively serious we were. The worst part of it all is that he is gaslighting me, denying when we dated, lied about why we broke up, denying that he cheated, denying that he kissed me, saying we were "on and off," saying I am "crazy," making wild excuses to his new gf about what happened, and having the audacity to tell everyone that I cheated on him! It has been incredibly hard for me to deal with being gaslighted by the only person I have ever loved and still have love for. I have not talked to him since the day he cheated and abandoned me. The last thing he ever told me was that he was "sorry he wasn't good enough." Also, my self-esteem has taken a major hit after his infidelity. I have always been a confident person but after what happened I found that I do not even like myself. I doubt myself, doubt my appearance, and more. I even find myself trying to bring myself down to be more like the uneducated girl he is with now. I wear more makeup now and even want to change my hair color to that of the girl he is with now. If anyone has any advice for self-esteem rebuilding after infidelity I would be grateful and happy to hear it. This has been so devastating for me. I've lost an unhealthy amount of weight, cry everyday still, have nightmares, imagine them together, get nauseous thinking about what happened, uncontrollably check both of their socials, have a hard time focusing, have a hard time falling asleep (imaging them together), and cannot stop thinking of him all the time. I feel like I will be alone for the rest of my life. I recognize that I am dealing with post infidelity stress disorder (PISD) but honestly just need support from others who have, unfortunately, been through a similar experience. I do not understand why it has been so easy for him to "unlove me" and forget our three years together in four months and be with someone new. The thought of being with someone new makes me uncomfortable to this day. I've been in a dark place and making friends might help. If you read this far I appreciate it! Take care please everyone.
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Gf Having Guy Friends
by Kaleb3645
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Me and my girl have been arguing a lot. I'm trying to accept her having guy friends but I just can't, I overthink every day, we broke up a couple nights ago, she came with me to help me move my stuff, she finally came to her self, I pulled over the truck we hugged it out and got back together that night on the agreement that she removes the guys I don't like, she did, we hangout 3 days later, the guy is back on her ***, I just try to forget about but I can't, it's bothering me throughout work, it's got me constantly checking her activate status, I just hate my head so much...
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Sex life struggling.
by calmLunch2881
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more I'm struggling with depression for 9Y. 3Y ago it was intensified by postpartum depression. My housband is my first lover, and we are struggling with our sex life for past 9Y. His libido was much higher than mine to start with, but mine is nonexistent at times. This lead to many arguments resulting in compromises where I performed sex activities when I didn't feel like it. That led to me disliking sex, but felt the need to satisfy him. Now I know that the pressure for sex led to me hating the act altogether. My housband had many complaints of my non happy face during sex and me treating it as a chore. 1Y ago I stopped breastfeeding to start different meds (psychotropic) in hopes that they would bring my libido back. Turns out my problems are more complex and ofc that did not work. I'm starting psychotherapy with sexuologist, to cover my dislike for sex. Housband wants a divorce, because in past 2 months I did not bring him to ***. I don't want to hurt my child with divorce and cause him attachment problems. Should I just go back to having sex (including oral)? Maybe a divorce is a good idea? Any ideas for other fix to satisfy my housband? He pushes for divorce on daily basis now and wants me to agree to shared custody, but since I'm the main caregiver to our child I don't agree on that being a good solution.

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