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Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (Nov 4 - 10)
by KatePersephone
Last post
 13 hours ago
...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! It’s our first official week in November. :)  To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * This or that! Leaves picking or apple picking? * What’s one book that reminds you of fall, if you have any? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefNgW-Va7dyBx67M3d27INmkndnwm1C3Ywa7NJoFa2EscQkA/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- tagging the community: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CaringCharlie @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 @Clarisse29 @Colourfultiger @ComingOutAsNB @CompassionateYoshi88 @confidentVision4766 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @ConversationThot404 @Cparsons816 @CraigyP @crazycountry210 @creativeComputer2115 @DanaMH @dancersoul @dancingLake682 @DanielaC @DanielGarzaV @daydreammemories @decisiveScarf8956 @Den2542 @discreetShip7372 @DogFish1 @doodlefroggie @dopey @EchoTheDragon @electricLily13 @ella12346 @ELLE @Emirson2018 @EncouragingSteps @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @eohseo @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @EvolvedScorpio @Explorer6115 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @faithfulHickory1025 @Falkenberg @fantasticDancer50 @Feepersane @Floatingbubbles @fluffycow27 @forcefulFriend4768 @Foreverchangedbyyou @Francescahelps @FranklyMaple @Freshmelon54 @Friendlycomfort81 @frostedPudding @Gabrielamtineo @generousWriter2778 @glasseyedgrace @GodsBabyGirl1981 @goldenFlower74 @gracefulVoice9463 @grassup @Gtalker8845 @GusteeMoon123 @gymnast9460 @Hailey3 @hairyxsnail @HarmonyBlossom @Hashib22 @HealingBrokenWIngs @healingHeart1111 @healinghearts0718 @Healingwhispers14 @Heartofgold07092019 @heavenlyHug9328 @helloapple1885 @helloCity5743 @hereforyoualways123 @heysunshine12 @hippiewannabe @honestWater4345 @honeypie720 @Hope3729 @hopefulPower54 @HopefulPower54 @HumorousPear1826 @iDeepScar @ILikeCilantro @imaginativeneverhappening @imofficiallyburnt @IMott71 @imrose123 @independentClementine6064 @infinitivethoughts2k19 @ingeniousfriend59 @intuitiveSummer6764 @JamilaBrownPsyD @Janet33 @JellyBean299 @jerom222 @joiefae @jwong611 @k87 @Kailah15 @kasmin21 @Katee02 @Katheryn @KatLis123 @Katrine92 @Kentsch @ketket68 @Kevin2009 @kindJoy3316 @kindLemon2749 @kizzyaaliyah @Kpopcat2020 @LadyDair @LadyInSilence @Lalonso2 @LavenderHere @lavenderOrange4849 @LeafOnABranch @LeoisListening @LePapillon @Lexloveslife @lightDrum8955 @lightLemonIsaac5408 @LightSoul108 @limeVillage7000 @Liv143 @Lovelylady18 @Lunasel @Lunaticphilosopher @luvkyleigh @lyricalPillow74 @lyricalpillow74 @madels20033 @magicalHorizon48 @mamapants @Mared @MarvelousMack11 @Mavvinder @mbrito712 @Mellietronx @Mellifluous11 @Mia1602 @MidwesternCalmSeeker @MikkyA @MilaAvery @MissDaria18 @MithLycos @modestPine7046 @Morpheus13 @MotherOfAVirgo @Mountainmystic777 @Mrrytu @MyownkindaCrazzi @nabilah17ism @navyOcean3488 @ngsuling1986 @niceCLEMEMTINE1415 @niceDaisy36 @Ninab0bina123 @ninetaleslove @NityaSpiritualHealer @NotAllHere713 @Offmytrack @onedirection1213 @OneErased @Open2Change @ouiCherie @OwenJackson73 @pandaprincess9 @Pandora3796 @pathFinder1725 @patientBranch9284 @peachkitty @PerpetuallyKekastrophic @persistentShade5213 @phia7292 @phia7293 @pioneeringSkies8568 @PlumBeechwood7549 @purpleMango7295 @PurplePansies21 @Purplerain00001 @purpleTree4652 @PurpleVelvet @quickwittedOwl8855 @quitahearsyou @Radioguy @Randomguyuk @Rebekahwriter13 @red85 @Rednuc270539 @rheyoflight @richbich @rieeavery1920 @RoboPhantom @Roro36 @RoseJuliet @rosenova1513 @rrrak @ryha3274 @Sadstan869 @Saeraleis @safetysource12 @Sailor57 @SaimaK @sarahR2004 @SavoyTruffle20 @selfloveisthecure88 @SentientiaPoecile @Seri123 @sgtdavis33 @ShareenBirgesBASSCounGDYMH @ShawnMendesGoals @She13 @ShineWithin @shugha14 @Siciturastra @Silver0824 @sincereFarm2814 @Skybar @skyfallingrain @Skywalker2002 @Skyy0 @sociableOcean9153 @Softheart01 @Solivagant2609 @somewhathappy @SophieKate547 @SparklingSnowflake15 @Spiritseaker @SpreadPeaceandlove @SpringWaltz @SquishySquid01 @StardustLetters @starplucker123 @Stephen @stephi0504 @strawberrywillow @Sugarcoat3 @SugareeIsMe091121 @Summershy @sunnyApricot6027 @SupportiveMonkey46 @sweetcake0707 @sweetlife101 @SylvestreX @Tahja07 @Tazzie @thegirlnatureforgot625 @TheMcManager @TheMushroomMan1216 @thisllpass @thisthenewme @Tiger222 @TranquilSkye @TravellingPrincess @tryingmybest7 @unassumingHuman4669 @understandingWater785 @Uniquesmiley @urbanwave @vallllllllllllll @w305 @warmheartedPlace7925 @Warrior2684 @Waves4 @Webehejdjfj @weirdbook @Wildarkberry @WinglessYetFlying @Wittie96 @WriterOfTheNight @WunderfrogWeirdo @xandia @XanFransisco @Xerah @YankeeOrangetiger @SpiritTea @Grammy23 @quietlistener2023 @HopefulOne81
Help needed in the Relationship Stress Community!
by KatePersephone
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Hi everyone! I hope you're all doing well and enjoying fall so far. I am Kate, the Community Mentor Leader of the Relationship Stress Community. The community is currently in need of Room Supporters and Forum Supporters to help out in both the chatrooms and the forums! Here you will find some brief explanations for both of these roles, alongside their requirements and their information pages. ------------------------- A room supporter helps in providing a welcoming space for members in the chatrooms, as well as quality support alongside listening. The role is available to both members and listeners! Here are the requirements for a Room Supporter: Listener: * No “Newbie” badge (being a listener for 4+ weeks) * Have 2+ Group Support Chats Member: * No “Newbie” badge (being a member for 4+ weeks) * Have the “Supportive Smile” badge * Complete the “Compassion Course [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbuGsqFMbaKWtCoC1WHaCJfaKfwfI8YZ62CsqTI2BzqVNwDg/viewform]” For more information and the application check here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/GroupSupport_168/ApplicationStation_2148/RoomSupporterUpdatedRequirementsandApplication_247786/]. ------------------------- A forum supporter focuses on maintaining engagement within a community through posting and responding to threads. It is also available for both members and listeners! Here are the requirements for a Forum Supporter: Listener: * Be a Verified Listener * Have 50+ forum upvotes * Have 25+ forum posts * Have taken the Listener Community Guide [https://www.7cups.com/listener-community-guide/] & Listener Oath [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ChatResources_61/ListenerOath_117/1/] Member: * Have 50+ forum upvotes * Have 25+ forum posts * Have taken the Member Oath [https://www.7cups.com/forum/Welcome_27/7CupsofTeaMissionCoreValues_207/MemberOathAllEncouragedtoParticipate_7447/1/] For more information and the application click here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsLeadership_188/LeadershipResourcesWhomToContact_2404/UpdatedSubcommunityTrackLeadershipRolesMasterpost2022_289838/]. ------------------------- Any help will be highly appreciated! 
Group Support Feedback for the Relationship Stress Community ✨💓
by KatePersephone
Last post
 October 27th
...See more Hello community! This forum thread has been created for the purpose of sharing the feedback our amazing hosts have received for the discussions they have hosted!
Vent ig
by Midnighttink
Last post
 3 hours ago
...See more I don’t know what to do, I really need to break up with him, he *** me over, lied and hurt me but I don’t want to let go. He point died lied infront of our friends and made us almost hurt ourselves and yet he doesn’t care, then when we set the boundary to not talk with him he *** makes a new account and messages. I hate this all, I feel if I break up with him he is going to share some of the stuff we have done and I can’t have that happening, UGH! Why do I date such *** people..
My relationship sometimes makes me....
by Hopeful0001
Last post
 5 hours ago
...See more Want to just scream.  It doesn't really matter what i say or what I do, I am always wrong. He thinks I gaslight him by telling him how things he said make me feels. He says that it is him using empathy when he tells me the mean thing my friend said about me to him days ago. But in my mind there's no real point bringing up something like that days after it was said, all it does is hurt me and he can't see that, and said that I am making him out to be the bad guy. He said that all I ever do when I complain about him is make him look like the bad guy and don't tell people about the good he does like buy me food when we go out and pay for my waxes. Our last argument started because I was talking about wanting to go for a promotion and he asked me about my car, asking if my car would take it, and I asked him not to be negative, and he got upset saying he wasn't being negative, that he was talking pros and cons, and I said I dont want to talk about that and it just escalated from there. He says we can't ever talk about serious things. But it is my decision. We don't live together. All we do is see each other when he is here, we sleep together, we go on little dates, And this is going to make me look really bad but we have been dating for over a year and like 3 to 4 months into dating him, I found out he was married. I know I am a bad person for not ending the relationship but he was the first guy who would treat me sweet.  What frustrates me so much about this relationship is that sometimes I feel like he thinks I am a stupid young girl he can control because he is older than me (only by 7) and that if I even disagree with him, I am starting huge issues. Also, the double standards are real. He can be unfaithful but I can't even talk about other men or talk to other men, and he recently got upset because he was told (incorrectly) that I was bragging about an ex and talking about wishing I could talk to men without getting caught by him.  Honestly a part of me is scared he is going to find this post because he does know i spend a lot of time on 7cups but I hope that he does not decide to come check this out but I guess if he brings this post up, it is a sign that he is toxic, right? I feel like im not allowed to vent about I feel and that I walk on eggshells with him. I don't even know if what i feel for him is love or just the fact that I do not want to be alone. I work a lot beyond when I see him, I do like the companionship and the physical intimacy is where we shine the best I guess, which is sad.
What is relationship?
by asmileThatyoudream99
Last post
 11 hours ago
...See more A relationship is defined as any connection or association between two or more individuals. This connection can manifest in various forms and contexts, encompassing a wide range of interactions and emotional bonds. Relationships are integral to human experience and can be categorized based on their nature, depth, and the dynamics involved. Types of Relationships Family Relationships: These are connections formed by blood or legal ties, such as those between parents and children, siblings, and extended family members. Family relationships often involve deep emotional bonds and responsibilities. Friendships: Friendships are voluntary relationships characterized by mutual affection, support, and shared interests. They can vary in intensity from casual acquaintances to close companions. Romantic Relationships: These involve emotional and physical intimacy between partners. Romantic relationships typically include elements of love, attraction, and commitment, often evolving over time from passion to deeper emotional connections. Work Relationships: Interactions among colleagues or between employees and management fall into this category. Work relationships can influence job satisfaction and productivity but may also present challenges such as competition or conflict. Situational Relationships: Sometimes referred to as “situationships,” these are informal connections that may lack clear definitions or commitments but still involve some level of interaction or emotional involvement. Acquaintances: These are less intimate connections where individuals know each other but do not share significant personal information or emotional ties. Sexual Relationships: These focus primarily on physical intimacy without necessarily involving emotional attachment or commitment. Each type of relationship has its own expectations, benefits, challenges, and dynamics that contribute to an individual’s social support network, which is crucial for mental and physical well-being. Importance of Relationships Relationships play a vital role in shaping our identities and experiences throughout life. They provide emotional support, foster a sense of belonging, enhance personal growth, and contribute to overall happiness. Conversely, unhealthy relationships can lead to stress, anxiety, and other negative outcomes affecting mental health. In summary, a relationship encompasses any form of connection between individuals that can be characterized by varying degrees of intimacy, commitment, and interaction across different contexts.
Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (Nov 4 - 10)
by KatePersephone
Last post
 13 hours ago
...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! It’s our first official week in November. :)  To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * This or that! Leaves picking or apple picking? * What’s one book that reminds you of fall, if you have any? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefNgW-Va7dyBx67M3d27INmkndnwm1C3Ywa7NJoFa2EscQkA/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- tagging the community: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CaringCharlie @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 @Clarisse29 @Colourfultiger @ComingOutAsNB @CompassionateYoshi88 @confidentVision4766 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @ConversationThot404 @Cparsons816 @CraigyP @crazycountry210 @creativeComputer2115 @DanaMH @dancersoul @dancingLake682 @DanielaC @DanielGarzaV @daydreammemories @decisiveScarf8956 @Den2542 @discreetShip7372 @DogFish1 @doodlefroggie @dopey @EchoTheDragon @electricLily13 @ella12346 @ELLE @Emirson2018 @EncouragingSteps @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @eohseo @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @EvolvedScorpio @Explorer6115 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @faithfulHickory1025 @Falkenberg @fantasticDancer50 @Feepersane @Floatingbubbles @fluffycow27 @forcefulFriend4768 @Foreverchangedbyyou @Francescahelps @FranklyMaple @Freshmelon54 @Friendlycomfort81 @frostedPudding @Gabrielamtineo @generousWriter2778 @glasseyedgrace @GodsBabyGirl1981 @goldenFlower74 @gracefulVoice9463 @grassup @Gtalker8845 @GusteeMoon123 @gymnast9460 @Hailey3 @hairyxsnail @HarmonyBlossom @Hashib22 @HealingBrokenWIngs @healingHeart1111 @healinghearts0718 @Healingwhispers14 @Heartofgold07092019 @heavenlyHug9328 @helloapple1885 @helloCity5743 @hereforyoualways123 @heysunshine12 @hippiewannabe @honestWater4345 @honeypie720 @Hope3729 @hopefulPower54 @HopefulPower54 @HumorousPear1826 @iDeepScar @ILikeCilantro @imaginativeneverhappening @imofficiallyburnt @IMott71 @imrose123 @independentClementine6064 @infinitivethoughts2k19 @ingeniousfriend59 @intuitiveSummer6764 @JamilaBrownPsyD @Janet33 @JellyBean299 @jerom222 @joiefae @jwong611 @k87 @Kailah15 @kasmin21 @Katee02 @Katheryn @KatLis123 @Katrine92 @Kentsch @ketket68 @Kevin2009 @kindJoy3316 @kindLemon2749 @kizzyaaliyah @Kpopcat2020 @LadyDair @LadyInSilence @Lalonso2 @LavenderHere @lavenderOrange4849 @LeafOnABranch @LeoisListening @LePapillon @Lexloveslife @lightDrum8955 @lightLemonIsaac5408 @LightSoul108 @limeVillage7000 @Liv143 @Lovelylady18 @Lunasel @Lunaticphilosopher @luvkyleigh @lyricalPillow74 @lyricalpillow74 @madels20033 @magicalHorizon48 @mamapants @Mared @MarvelousMack11 @Mavvinder @mbrito712 @Mellietronx @Mellifluous11 @Mia1602 @MidwesternCalmSeeker @MikkyA @MilaAvery @MissDaria18 @MithLycos @modestPine7046 @Morpheus13 @MotherOfAVirgo @Mountainmystic777 @Mrrytu @MyownkindaCrazzi @nabilah17ism @navyOcean3488 @ngsuling1986 @niceCLEMEMTINE1415 @niceDaisy36 @Ninab0bina123 @ninetaleslove @NityaSpiritualHealer @NotAllHere713 @Offmytrack @onedirection1213 @OneErased @Open2Change @ouiCherie @OwenJackson73 @pandaprincess9 @Pandora3796 @pathFinder1725 @patientBranch9284 @peachkitty @PerpetuallyKekastrophic @persistentShade5213 @phia7292 @phia7293 @pioneeringSkies8568 @PlumBeechwood7549 @purpleMango7295 @PurplePansies21 @Purplerain00001 @purpleTree4652 @PurpleVelvet @quickwittedOwl8855 @quitahearsyou @Radioguy @Randomguyuk @Rebekahwriter13 @red85 @Rednuc270539 @rheyoflight @richbich @rieeavery1920 @RoboPhantom @Roro36 @RoseJuliet @rosenova1513 @rrrak @ryha3274 @Sadstan869 @Saeraleis @safetysource12 @Sailor57 @SaimaK @sarahR2004 @SavoyTruffle20 @selfloveisthecure88 @SentientiaPoecile @Seri123 @sgtdavis33 @ShareenBirgesBASSCounGDYMH @ShawnMendesGoals @She13 @ShineWithin @shugha14 @Siciturastra @Silver0824 @sincereFarm2814 @Skybar @skyfallingrain @Skywalker2002 @Skyy0 @sociableOcean9153 @Softheart01 @Solivagant2609 @somewhathappy @SophieKate547 @SparklingSnowflake15 @Spiritseaker @SpreadPeaceandlove @SpringWaltz @SquishySquid01 @StardustLetters @starplucker123 @Stephen @stephi0504 @strawberrywillow @Sugarcoat3 @SugareeIsMe091121 @Summershy @sunnyApricot6027 @SupportiveMonkey46 @sweetcake0707 @sweetlife101 @SylvestreX @Tahja07 @Tazzie @thegirlnatureforgot625 @TheMcManager @TheMushroomMan1216 @thisllpass @thisthenewme @Tiger222 @TranquilSkye @TravellingPrincess @tryingmybest7 @unassumingHuman4669 @understandingWater785 @Uniquesmiley @urbanwave @vallllllllllllll @w305 @warmheartedPlace7925 @Warrior2684 @Waves4 @Webehejdjfj @weirdbook @Wildarkberry @WinglessYetFlying @Wittie96 @WriterOfTheNight @WunderfrogWeirdo @xandia @XanFransisco @Xerah @YankeeOrangetiger @SpiritTea @Grammy23 @quietlistener2023 @HopefulOne81
Long story involving, wife, kids, mental health and my best friend.
by BLFennell
Last post
 14 hours ago
...See more This is a very long story but I'm at a point where I need help, as it has driven me to the point of such high depression, I will try to make it short though. My wife and I have 2 children, an 8 year old diagnosed with ADHD and a 3 year old who has growing disorders (almost 4 years old but he's smaller than a 2 year old). My wife has always been a very sexual person at least until just before our second child was born. She basically turned into mommy mode and has no time or interest in me. So for about 4 years now, I've been neglected, and in those 4 years I can count how many times we've had sex on my fingers and everytime was me having to try to initiate it. I have tried discussing it with her but she seems like she has no interest in it at all. I've tried getting her to try supplements, or seeing a doctor but she just doesn't seem like it's a problem. To make matters worse my kids do not like me at all, so they purposely do things to make me mad and when I shout or try to discipline them, she turns against me. I'm constantly being blamed which has pushed me further into a depression. It extends even more with my best friend as we have a very complicated and unusual relationship, I think this may be suited for a different thread though, or perhaps a specific person for 1 on 1.
8yrs down the drain
by jr028
Last post
 17 hours ago
...See more hello,  im currently in the process of leaving my 8yr on/off relationship for good. i am so incredibly heartbroken because this time he has revealed to me that he's been having sexual affairs with hookers and random women he met online...some meetings were unprotected as well. cheating has always been the number one issue between us and I've grown numb whenever I see he's been messaging other women. i now know how dumb I was to think he wasn't actually meeting up with these women, I chose to believe him that it was all just text/ a fantasy, but to be told he was being unsafe with these women now has made me feel sick to my stomach. we have a 5-year-old together and she adores him so much, my heart hurts whenever I think about our family falling apart. I had never thought of sharing custody of our child before and I'm beyond scared. everyday I have horrible thoughts of him being intimate with others and how he had a fwb for 7 months this year, he was having unsafe sex with her as well. everything is changing so fast and I don't know how to cope with this pain and how to start this co-parenting journey. 
What do I do?
by SevenNoel
Last post
 18 hours ago
...See more Me and my partner recently decided to take a break (I can’t tell if it’s a break or a breakup, im a little confused but I want to ask him in person) from our relationship due to me needing to heal from personal (recent) trauma, and my partner needing the time to take care of themself and their mental health (which is so fair and so valid).  We actually ended on really good terms and we communicated about it and all they keep asking of me is to take care of myself and to be kind to myself for them (because they have made a clear boundary of wanting space and being alone right now so communication is very short, long response times, and distance). Before I left their house (after we decided to split), they gave me a blanket, their hoodie, and let me keep their bass and promised that I’d see them again.  I’m having a hard time not reaching out and talking to them because im so used to doing so. I’ve found myself feeling so lonely and dealing with these heavy emotions completely alone. I just want to cry to him like I usually would and I just can’t. For the last 5 days I’ve mainly cried and slept. It’s all I can find myself ABLE to do.  I guess what im saying is im having a hard time distracting myself from this whole thing. I can’t even listen to MUSIC, and that’s like 97% of my life and I’ve just never been unable to listen to it before without sobbing. Whenever I just disassociate all I think about is how much i wish he was here. I just don’t know what to do with myself. I feel scared and sick to my stomach. I feel so alone. 
Unproductive Arguments.
by ambitiousPeach2606
Last post
 20 hours ago
...See more I feel like I’m sorta constantly chasing my tail when it comes to more tense discussions/disagreements with my partner. I feel as if I never get a proper apology out of him, just a sort shrugged ‘sorry’ whilst, when I mess up and hurt him, I try my hardest to apologise the best way I can. But I feel as if his shrugged off apology’s are sorta his way of backing off from tense conversations and protecting himself as a trauma response, and in doing so, it’s honestly really hurting me. I just want to hear an actual apology from him, to hear that he’s genuinely apologetic and that he’d want to do something so he’d never do whatever it was to hurt me again.  I adore my man and I’d do anything for him, and I know he loves me… But I just feel like every time we disagree and something has to change, that I’m hitting a brick wall I can’t ever get past.  I’ve tried talking to him about it, but it never works out and I can feel him almost pulling away whenever I try. What am I supposed to do? 
Idk
by ItsOphelia
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Is it normal to feel that you love your boyfriend more than first time after breaking even though ur the one who did it
I love him but I miss being single
by metanoicbloom
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more I know that I sound horrible from the title, but have been struggling so much the past 3/4 months with thoughts of wanting to be single. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now and I really do love him. Our personalities work together so well and he is so easy to talk to. But I can't help but have these awful intrusive thoughts of wanting to be single. I miss the thrill of being 16-18 when I would casually flirt with people, the silly little dates I would go on, the nerves of meeting someone for the first time, or even the thrill of meeting up with someone knowing full well that we were going to sleep together. I don't miss anyone in particular, I just miss all those feelings and nerves. I don't feel bored of my boyfriend, but I just feel bored of not being able to do any of that. Before any of you ask, no I have not and will not ever cheat. Although I have these thoughts, I would never act upon them unless I was actually single. Instead, I have to live vicariously through my friends or through books and movies. But it just isn't satisfying my feelings. It's as if I desperately crave the freedom and unknown of being single. I'm starting to fear that maybe I love him, but I'm not in love with him. Maybe the media glorifies true love too much, but I don't feel that same infatuation that is described in movies and books. We are a medium distance relationship, living 5 hours away from one another, so I'm not sure if it's just that I only see him every other month, but even so, I don't miss him how I should miss him. I want to see him, of course, but I never sit around and MISS him. I don't feel that at all. Sometimes if my insomnia is really bad one night, then I'll miss having him stroke my hair or scratch my back, but it's more so that I miss him doing that rather than missing him. I'm always excited when we have a date set to see eachother, and I'm happy in his presence, but I just don't know if that's enough, if maybe there should be more to it than just enjoying his company every now and then. All of these feelings about wanting to be single and my feelings towards him in general make me think that maybe I'm just not cutout for relationships. I can't imagine myself being deeply in love with someone. I just don't think my brain is wired to love someone so intensely and for so long. I just don't know what to do. I don't know if this is a sign to break up with him, or if this is just me getting in my own head. I would be very upset to break up with him, however I would also be free again. I would have my independence back, something which I have been craving for months now. Any advice would be really wonderful, thank you so much for taking the time to read through this.
My husband cheated on me.
by Thaliav119
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 1 day ago
...See more My husband was unfaithful once again after asking me to come back. He is talking to one of his employees that knew he was married and she didn't care. She said that if he wants her to stay she will (i called her). He laughed when i told him what she had said and he even got mad at me for confronting her. He was also mad that I made him choose bc he wanted me and her. I told him he can't do that. He saida i choose her bc she's a blank page. So now I have to leave and move back to Michigan with my 4 kids ... mind you im a/was stay at home mom.. I'm not upset I'm honestly disappointed in myself for thinking it could of been different...
Should I have a serious conversation?
by aquaJackfruit9201
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 1 day ago
...See more Hey everyone, I (25F) met a guy(39M) on an online chatting site. We are both from different countries. We instantly clicked and had conversations for hours together. We spent the first two months or so chatting non stop. We always had a free flow of conversation. The flow of conversation slowed a little after that since he got busy at his work. And our initial practice of staying up late to talk was taking a toll on our work days, so we chatted for fewer hours. Now our conversations are very slow and spread across the day. Initially he never went offline without saying good night or even if he fell asleep, he told me the next day that he fell asleep. Now even if I've asked something or said something, the good morning next day just ignores the previous conversation. We've started s*xting each other around 2 or 3 months into our talking and it's quite honestly very good. However, they were times when he went away in the middle of it too and the conversation started newly the next day. I've started to like him as a romantic interest and seriously considered meeting him in person very soon. However, the lack of efforts these days makes me wonder if he's lost interest or if he's just busy. His work is demanding, yet talking to people and reading up online all I learnt was that if a man is interested he'll make the effort even if he's busy. I don't want him to stop his work and cater to me, just a text that he's busy would make me feel better instead of overthinking. I'm wondering if I should put in the effort and tell him how I feel or just let the conversation die? While I like the guy, I don't want to lose myself and my self respect in pursuing someone who is not interested.

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