Lack of sex drive

@mlb2017

In my experience, losing a connection to our sexuality, or even recognizing changes in it over time can definitely be distressing and bring up feelings of loss and grief. It can be hard accepting changes in physiology, and there's always the question of whether it's possible to get back to how things used to be.

But also, I'm wondering what your thoughts are on the differences between intimacy and libido? In my mind, intimacy touches on a lot more, and isn't always related to sexual desire or even physical sexual behavior.

This topic is such great information. Thanks for starting this thread @mlb2017.

I appreciate the challenges and the suggestions are helpful.

I think menopause is underrated and a huge challenge and affects alot of areas of life. We need more info and support on the subject. Education for men and women on how to deal with this transition is huge.

Thx again

ABB 💜

@mlb2017

There's an app called 'The work' by Byron Katie.

She recommends a worksheet a day.

The work is a guide in self inquiry to identify the root causes of what we're thinking and believing, the allowing of our feelings to be recognized and validated.

It's a technique that has been incorporated into counselling rooms all over the world.

She has written many books and has live morning sessions three times a week where she answers questions and does a worksheet with someone real time.

There is a free helpline if you're stuck on a worksheet, trained facilitators (some volunteer, some paid), and many videos on YouTube that show the work at...work. Hah!

Her website is www.thework.com

@mlb2017

Have you tried qi gong?

@mlb2017

RAIN (recognition, allowing, inquiry, and nourishment) is a process Tara Brach speaks.

I mentioned in another comment a process of inquiry called 'The work'...probably the most preeminent method in the world today.

Once one stops playing the blame-shame game the exhausting work of healing begins.

RAIN is one form of medicine.

I can relate to a low libido , in my case it has to do with medication but i know how you must feel.

In my opinion the best things to do is

1. Make an appointment to see your doctor , a simple blood test will check your Estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone levels and from there the treatment can start.

2. Exercise can help with boosting your libido and your mental health as well.

3. Date night with your husband , after many years of marriage its impotlrtant to spicen up your love life . Nice clothes , dinner maybe a movie or something that makes you both happy. Opening a bottle of wine and enjoying eachothers company.

I hope that some if these help but the first one going to get a blood test should be your top priority