A perspective on boundaries & being a woman
I think in a lot of societies, women are expected to be accommodating of others, we are expected to prioritize everyone else, and expected to give specific reasons for our boundaries. And if those reasons aren’t “good enough,” sometimes we get pushback.
Well, I’d like to challenge that, because we shouldn’t need a specific reason for our boundaries. “Because I said so” is enough. If you don’t want to date someone, if you want to quit something, if you want to change a behavior or habit, “Because I don’t want that for myself anymore” is enough!
@Kait Quite a relatable post you've noted here. I appreciate you sharing this perspective. 💓
@GentleHealingInitiative thank you for the support, gentle, I am glad this resonates with you <3
@Aayla
love your comment & your point about letting go of the expectations other have of us...so important & sometimes so difficult! 🍀
@Kait
@Mya000
yes, exactly! you get me Mya, thank you for sharing your perspective 🌟
@Kait The importance of boundaries wasn't taught to me until college. I am and always have been a people pleaser who has always spread myself too thin. I am still trying to work on setting boundaries with the people around me. This is such an important lesson and post. Thank you for sharing!😊
Additionally, here is a link to an article about boundary setting!
https://www.therapywitholivia.com/blog/a-therapists-guide-on-setting-healthy-boundaries
@sierrarain03
It's so unfortunate that so many of us go through so much of our lives not even knowing what boundaries are, let alone knowing how set and maintain boundaries. Especially as women, I think we are expected to have porous boundaries and taught how to be people-pleasers, because in a lot of cultures (I can speak for American society myself), this is considered a trait of a "good" woman. I think it's so important for us as women to challenge these myths that women have to always been considerate of others at the expense of our own wellbeing. Thank you so much for sharing your insights & this lovely resource on boundaries!
@Kait that's a very important message, thankyou ❤❤ it's hard for me to be able to set boundries, cause of my disabilities, I need help for pretty much everything🙁 so I need to trust people, but I hate being touched🙁 hopefully when my legs grow back I'll be fine😁😁
@Tinywhisper11
This is a great insight Tiny, thank you for sharing your perspective. Boundaries might look different for each person based on various factors such as (dis)abilities, culture, gender, and many other intersectionalities of life. That being said, I think you can still set boundaries about your personal space, maybe not with a caregiver (because of necessity), but certainly with friends, family, and strangers :)
@Kait yes I can😁 my carers know when to leave me alone if I close my door. And different boundaries are set up as much as possible😁❤
