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@Heather225Hi I just joined today, can I just rant about anything here (mostly feelings) and no one can call me out for talking about it?
@patientBlueberries8902 welcome to 7 Cups.
This thread is mainly to introduce people to 7 Cups. What do you mean by rant? What is the topic you want to talk about?
If you want to post on a topic then you could post in a community related to the topic you want to speak about. Any post needs to stay within community guidelines.
Browsing for a listener might be a better alternative but keep in mind that people are often here to get better and cope with their challenges, so if everyone just vents and does not put some boundaries on what they say a listener may just not be able to hear that for long.
What I ask in a 1-1 with a listener is for the listener to empathize but not expecting them to hear an hour of me saying angry things or triggering things.
Maybe if you just go easy you will ease into the topic.
Nice to meet you.
@soulsings
Rants is basically me venting too much. I got called out a lot of times for venting for too long... people called it rants
@patientBlueberries8902 I hear yoiu. I come from a family of complainers. It is difficult for me to hear if it goes on a long time.
What I like is when someone can identify the problem and how they feel about it. I try to guide people away from anger because anger gives us a false sense of power but what it really does in my experience is tear down any good feelings we have. To me anger extends the suffering.
Don't get me wrong, I am not condoning people who treat you wrong, but what does getting mad at them and repeating over and over the harm they did to you do to bring you happiness? For me it only extends the suffering.
I am very involved with many projects or I would try to show you in a 1-1, but you can try and find other listeners. https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/
My advice is to treat them like a sensitive person that you want to listen but not have them get too much of ranting and more exploring of where can I go from here.
How does that sound?
@soulsings
Thank you for talking to me today, What you said really helped me right now
You are welcome.
@soulsings
it didn't occur to me until you said it that anger gives a false sense of power. this is incredible wisdom, Soul.
@Heather225 thanks for your kind words. The physical component of that is it sends out a massive amount of adrenaline and other fight or flight hormones. The mental portion is having an inflated sense of how much power and control one has.
@Heather225 I'm Paul06, a new 7cups listener
welcome @Paul06 to 7 Cups listening!
Hi I'm Dod. A bit older at 44 and have struggled with anxiety for 15 years. Would be nice to chat to people who understand what it's like and maybe make some friends along the way.
@doddysh hey Dod! it's brave of you to open up and ask for help like this, thank you for joining the site and I hope you can get support for your anxiety.
Hi everyone ! I’m Clarity and I’m a new listener at 7Cups. I’ve always enjoyed listening to others whether it be expressing their concerns or emotions, and I hope I can help bring some warmth and comfort to members seeking out support. <3
@clarityscorn3r this is so sweet! thank you for taking this step to help others! you rock!
@clarityscorn3r
Welcome!! Thanks for being a listener. Do you listen to adults and for what issues I'm curious. :)
Hi everyone, my name is marco228 and I am excited to be apart of this community. I am determined to learn and try new things!
@marco228 welcome Marco! thank you for introducing yourself! hope you enjoy the site
Hello,
My name is listeningeagle. I have used 7Cups as a member for a few years now. A few days ago, I decided to take a step to become a listener. I have struggled with anxiety, panic attacks, Aspergers, and relationships for my entire life. My goal is to let others understand that they are not alone. In real life, I enjoy being a nerd by playing video games, board games, and watching movies.
