hard to connect with people?
does anyone else find it hard to connect with other people?
it's especially difficult online, where you can't see who you're talking to and don't get nonverbal cues
@IdeasOfReference I can empathise with this
@Maslow thank you for empathising
I see that you are a listener here
what do you think are the most effective ways of showing empathy as a listener?
@IdeasOfReference Active listening
@Maslow
how are you able to delete messages?
@IdeasOfReference No
@Maslow
no
@IdeasOfReference Deleting messages is not possible
Actually you can <3 You can flag the post and ask them to delete it, or write to a leader who’s a listener and they can delete it for you <3
All my friends are busy with their other friends and family. I am tired of treating them like a priority when they treat me like an option. I need some real friends. Even though I am married, I still feel alone. I need to sense more of God in my life.
hi @Swordpsalm
thank you for stopping by
we all need to have real friends we can rely on when we are struggling
I don't believe in god but I understand that believing brings people comfort especially when they are feeling alone
@Swordpsalm I feel you
@IdeasOfReference
Yes I find it hard. I'm done being a pushover and changing the game, working really hard, so it's doubly hard because people who aren't there will attack and do whatever they can to keep me down because they're trying so hard to compete. Bullying, disagreements, gaslighting...it's all happening by these manipulators, these toxic, abusive people. I'm finding real supportive friends are starting to show up in my life and see me as someone who deserves help, pleasure and help...who actually care and check in unlike these people who are so fake and empty black holes. It's odd for me because my whole life I've been placed in the doormat position. But I'm done being taken for granted and pushed into a hole and gaslit the whole time by people who then wouldn't do a thing to pull me out. So these people are actually seeing this change, seeing that I'm honest, giving and generous, kind...and that I was taken for granted and used. I was doing and would do anything to help these people; they refused to do anything but take advantage of that so I'm done and it's time for my load to be lightened and I think it's time for you too.
@communicativePond1728
and I think it's time for you too
my problem is I have strangers talking to me like they have knowledge about me that they aren't letting on, and talking in riddles
nothing can be considered genuine until the abuse stops and people start treating me like a human who deserves dignity, respect and kindness
I'm sad because I don't really connect with people. People prefer to hang out with happy and positive people, so they avoid me. And I'm even more sad.
I'm trying hard to hide my sadness but it doesn't seem to work.
@IdeasOfReference I get you, sometimes it feels impossible without the body language to fill us in. Some are less expressive through text too.
I do… I’m autistic and have PTSD, so it’s hard sometimes…
