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"Light" harassment from a colleague
Work & Career / by kimidare
Last post
 August 29th
...See more Hi all, At work things escalated in the last days. I reported my colleague who is hating me since day 1 in the company. Because from his point of view I stole the job from his gf who was applying too. I didn t cheat or anything. It has been 3 years that he made a point to say "welcome" at my arrival to the other colleague hired at the same time, not me. Then ignoring me like if I was invisible at the office. Sending public messages without writing my name when he doesn't agree with my work. Writung publicly that it s a joke when I m thanked by other colleagues at a public meeting. All the time without saying my name nor insulting me directly. Now the human resources want to talk with me about it. His manager talked with me and found a lot of excuses for his behavior. Saying basically that I was imagining things. I feel so bad, I want to sh. I don t think talking about this is making things better. How to manage that ? Did you already went through similar situation ? Just seeking for some support here
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Overwhelmed and feeling alone to deal with it
Anxiety Support / by kimidare
Last post
 August 6th
...See more I'm trying so hard to keep living, working, socializing like a normal human. I feel that I can't confide in anyone around me, especially the most distressing topics. Colleagues or not-really-friends avoid me when I try to share a little of my struggle. Currently I deal with anxiety about: - Social interaction with colleagues: i can t connect with my colleagues, they prefer to befriend others than me. I don t know if I m not interesting or my anxiety/sadness is visible even if I try to hide it. - Social interaction with friends: I wanted to start a role playing game (paper version) with 3 people, they seem ok with it but I have self esteem issues and I m afraid that my anxiety will prevent me from doing it well. The improvisation part is the hardest, as I will lead the narrative, prepare the scenario etc. - (TW: past sexual abuse) the police asked me some months ago to tell again everything about the rapes from my ex that happened 10+ years ago. It s because another complaint from another woman has been made. But I don t understand why I had to tell everything again, and my memory wasn t very good at the moment (traumatic amnesia). + i didn t want to read and confirm that everything that has been written by the police and I just sign it at the end, wanted to leave. - Relationship with the other victim: she contacted me after filing her complaint and I tried to support her. But I feel stressed at the same time due to the triggers. And she thinks that there will be a trial and some news about it in september. It s just guesses but I feel panicked. - Due to all the stress I want to sh a little, but I don't do it. I often have intrusive bad memories, difficulty to breath and to concentrate. I just want to hide in my bed and not fight all of this. It s so hard and I feel so alone.
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Do you know any hurt/comfort serie/movie/anime ?
TV & Movies / by kimidare
Last post
 July 26th
...See more I would like to watch something where a character is struggling and the other is caring/nurturing/protecting him/her, on the path of recovery. Or saving the one in distress, but where we saw the "after rescue". I didn't have people to help me or to protect me when I needed it. But watching it makes me feel warm inside. Please add TW if needed For example I especially liked Sherlock (TW suicide, drugs, murders). He protects people he cared about, and they are here for him as well when it counts.
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Hi, new and afraid
Newbie Hub / by kimidare
Last post
 August 8th
...See more I created my account some months ago or years maybe ? don't remember if I posted here at that time or if I immediately ran away with anxiety though 😅 I would like to talk with someone but I m afraid to burden others with my issues + the social anxiety. I m 30, and this last year has been emotionnally draining. When colleagues ask me how I am, I answer "well and you" when internally I feel the opposite. I m so tired of pretending but don t want to drama dump on anyone. I feel very alone, afraid to share and feeling it will drive people away if I open up. I talk french, english (approximatively) and I try to learn japanese (beginner). I like boardgames, video games, animals, japanese anime, drawing when I have the motivation (rare). I would like to learn painting too. I was wondering if people here are listeners or... talkers excusively ? Or if they can be both at the same time ? I wish you a nice day 🪷
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