Sometimes Members block us and that’s okay
Hello everyone, I know that I made a poem yesterday, but I feel like what I have to share in this post, might help a lot of people.
The first time that I talked with a Member, I was blocked, I’m not sure why. Then I started talking to two Members and one Member concerned me so I asked a Mentor for assistance, but because I was so focused on asking for assistance, one of the Members I was talking to, blocked me after I explained that I was still fairly new on here and I apologized to them, but they didn’t want to hear that
I talked with a member last night and then I repeated back parts of what they told me, ( I think the Listener training tells us to do this ), and ever since then, I think they started to use a rude tone with me because whenever I’d suggest things or try to be there for them, they came across like I was bothering them, especially after I pointed out that what they said to me and the generalizations they made about women and Transmen, were not true ( Transmen are men, not women, but they made generalizations about the both of us ) they ended up eventually blocking me. I don’t think the generalizations were necessarily harmful, but I took it personally because I am a Transman ( it’s in my bio. As a gentle reminder. Please look at someone’s profile incase they have their pronouns listed and please don’t just assume someone’s pronouns )
I don’t want to scare you by influencing you to think that someone will block you, but I just want you to know that if you get blocked one day, that sometimes we just don’t connect with someone, sometimes people may accidentally block us, or they don’t like us. You also don’t have to put up with rude behaviour just because your role is to listen
Yes, our role is to listen, but we deserve to be treated well too.
All of this, is to say that i know that sometimes it’s very easy to take things personally, and I’m not telling you not to, but please keep in mind that we won’t connect with everyone we talk to and that’s okay
@embraeycingme1 *claps* This is me giving you a round of applause for learning so early on in your listener journey that not everyone will be receptive to what you have to say. And like you said, not every one will like you. I make an attempt to never try to change a member's belief or opinion--- even if I don't agree with them. I allow people to be themselves and accept them. Embraeycing, I'm so proud of you and your efforts. You are so bright and wise. Thanks for the sweet reminder that it's ok if someone does not like you. It's ok if someone blocks you. This is no reflection on the listener and they should not be discouraged. Thanks again, Embraeycing. Keep on being the amazing you you are. ♡
