Lonely in the chat rooms..
I really feel invisible and alone in the chat rooms, even when the chat rooms have many members. They don't care about me, they continue talking themselves and just ignore.. And about the mods, it's like they don't exist.. I don't remember any name so don't ask me which mod. The chat rooms are always going on its pace, and when I enter it's just some hi or hello or even not, if I say something it's like they don't receive it and just ignore, no one is talking to me or even acknowledge me that I am here in the chat, I just wanted to vent this out, don't take it seriously, I am always lonely.. No one there..
@calmmoon2104 moon i think they already started acting on your problem :D https://www.7cups.com/forum/TeensOnlyClub_123/TeenCMStation_590/NewTeenChatroomEtiquetteRule_287531/
@calmmoon2104 I've felt the same way also. so I stopped trying to talk in the chatrooms on here
I'm new to here, I joined just a few days ago. I tried to go into the chat rooms when I joined and I quickly left because it was awkward. People said hi, but after I said hello they proceeded to tell me that they were listening to someone tell their story and that it was their turn. When they said that it made me feel weird sort of like it was there way of telling me to hush, so yea I bailed.
@HarvestMoonFan
Wow, that should've been handled with more tact and diplomacy, for sure. Sorry you experience such gruffness. You must've been in the Sharing Circle chatroom - yep, that's how it works. In that room, you join a queue, then you have 7 minutes to tell your story. The sharer remains the focus during their turn. It's important not to interrupt or go off track, unless it's to offer brief support words. It operates like a support group of sorts. It's the only room with such distinctive rules that you'll need to used to if you want to participate. It's worth figuring out, though. You'll find tons of support when it's your turn to share. You can read about the rules right here
That's the only chatroom that operates that way. If you'd like support, but through open chat, then try the Support Room 24/7 and if you'd like to talk about lighthearted stuff, then try the Member Community Room. I hope to see you around!
@HarvestMoonFan I am so very sorry that happened to you.
Sometimes people are not as nice to others.
I feel some of that, is how there parents raised them growing up.
If a person, is not nice or very rude, in all the chatroom's there is an icon, called mute/report.
What that is, is a conflict defuse tool, so you do not engage in conflict with the member.
You have the choice to just mute the person, and you will not see there messages or you have the choice to mute and report the member. When you report them, you write the reason for that. The Admi team at 7cups reviews the report, and acts accordingly with the help of the sight guidelines and chatroom guidelines and sometimes the Management team at 7cups helps out.
Also if no Mod is in the room, you can call a mod in, using the Emergency Mod form, that is found in every chatroom on this website. It is located in the chatroom guidelines.
Point of reference, when using the Emergency Mod form, you can write a report that way, and you can provide screen shots along with your report, if you feel that it might be helpful to do so.
I hope this helps.
@calmmoon2104
I feel sorry to hear that Calmmoon. That is a hard situation to be in too Calmmoon. I hope you find times where you are more included and heard and respected in chat rooms. You can also post to community forums as well to talk with other 7 Cups users.
@AnonCompanion6720
Thank you AnonCompanion 💙
@calmmoon2104
You're welcome calmmoon 👍.
@calmmoon2104 hi Moon! I used to feel the same as you until last few months the chat rooms felt like a clique and they didn’t feel inclusive at all. I’d feel ignored and feel like something was wrong because I was being ignored. But lately I just decided to strike up conversations with anyone in the chat room and it has felt really nice. You just have to talk and express yourself, if you feel ignored voice it out. In time you will also feel like a regular there. And if you see me do say hi I’ll always be up for a chat :)
Moon, I am honestly very sorry that you did not feel included in the chats. Whenever I am in the chat rooms, especially in support room 24/7, I always try to make sure that people who are coming in are felt included in on the conversation/s that are going on. I know you’re a teenager, and you’re on the teenie side, but just so you know: the chats can get verrrry overwhelming sometimes, and for new people, it’s always hard to try to get in on the convo. The best thing I have seen that works, especially if the convo is not too busy and not too serious, is to just say, “Hey guys!! What’s going on??” And then the members, hopefully, fill you in. And boom!! You’re into the conversation. The thing to realise is, if a serious conversation is going on, most people would probably not make an effort to include others, since usually, time is of the essence in those conversations, since someone might be in trouble or dealing with something big. If that’s the case, and the chat is not too busy while a serious conversation is going on, I would suggest going to a different chat and trying again over there. Or you can try to start up a new conversation, by just posting a small message of what’s troubling you, for example, if you’re feeling lonely and sad, you can post something like: “ I’m not doing too well today 😣” The emojis usually help😄. Give it some time, and someone will be right with you, hopefully. It works most of the time.
And moon, buddy, if you ever come over to the adult side, look for me in the chats. I’m almost always there. I’m 18 rn, so I know a LOT about how it feels to be surrounded by “adults”. And if you find me, please, please, say hi! You’re not alone, bud. We’re all here for you 🤗🤗
Your new bestie,
Mr. Grapes 🍇
P.S - sending a lot of love and hugs 😘😘😘🥰🥰🥰🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
And to everyone else who posted here to help out our buddy moon, THANK YOU. Thank you thank you thank you. I can’t say it enough. You guys are the BEST. Going through a tough time myself, i know how much these thoughtful replies mean to moon. So again, THANK YOU.
And for all the other people out here in the 7 cups community, who feel left out, ignored, unloved, WE Are Here for you. We love you. You are AMAZING. Believe me, you are. You just don’t see it yet. You are unique, charming, smart, and most importantly, you’re YOU. THAT is what makes you amazing. Don’t ever feel like you don’t matter. I know it’s hard, it’s hard to believe that, but buddy, buddy, you are. You do. You Matter. To all of us. We love you, from around the world. Stay happy, my friends 🥰. We’re here for you whenever you need us.
@thoughtfulGrapes1163 *you* are the best, and we are so grateful to have your sweet presence in the community. Big love.❤✨
Reminds me of a song I love: don't hate me by porcupine tree.
I get what you're saying. N soon enough, for everyone, almost all chat is about getting their ideas/Chat through.
@calmmoon2104 I'm sorry you've been experiencing that dear. Sometimes there are too many people in the chatrooms so some messages can be a little lost in the crowd. Try to find topics you like and talk about them since yo have a lot to share on them. Also open ended questions are a great way to boost communication. Don't hesitate to say something again if you feel like you haven't been heard. Thank you for sharing!
I can relate very much with what you said and I'm glad you had the guts to post this, I sure don't. Thank you :)
Ur not alone.....i feel that all the tume3
