Trending Reluctance To See A Therapist

@OasisRedbeard I agree. I haven't noticed this trending, but then I haven't been taking new chats recently.

One thing I often point out is the total cost of therapy. You might see a $75 therapist once a week for 2 years, say, which comes to $7,500 using your figures, and with an inexperienced therapist you might get absolutely nowhere, and have to start again with a different therapist for maybe another 2 years. This is a pretty common experience.

Or you might see a $375 therapist for an assessment session and a treatment plan session, spend $750 and know exactly what you have to do to recover. This is also pretty common (but probably less common). Anyway, finding a really good, experienced therapist is very important, in my opinion, if you want to keep costs down and actually recover. A lot of therapists out there are good listeners, but good listeners are free at 7 Cups or on your local warmline.

Another thing maybe worth pointing out is you don't have to be mentally ill to benefit from therapy. Some therapists specialize in general problem-solving (particularly using Solution-Focused Brief Therapy). The assumption is that you are mentally well but life just got complicated, and an expert can help you untangle it.

And some therapists specialize in working with couples or families. Again, there's no assumption that anyone is mentally ill, just that relationships are hard to get right and experts can help.

Charlie

@RarelyCharlie Yes, an effective therapist is another thing (that's what I forgot to include in the OP, as well as needed self-copyedits - DOH!)

Generally speaking, though, a therapist who lacks knowledge, skills, and/or sensitivity is going to be fairly obvious after the first or second round with them - if it doesn't already show in their online reviews. That's what I was referring to when I mentioned "terrible optics". User reviews of any commercial service - including therapy - can be devastating for the merchant.

However, treatment failure can also be a compatibility/communication issue: some therapists are deadset on a particular approach (e.g. tough love, CBT, DBT, EMDR) that isn't going to be a one-size-fits-all success story for everyone. Still, it's up to the client/patient to research what the therapist's strategy/expertise is (beforehand) and bring up any concerns about therapy failure directly to THE therapist (or to the office that employs them).

@OasisRedbeard this is great. I will link to this when I have someone saying they don’t know how to go about therapy. I know it’s hard and complicated and it stinks to have to do the work of finding help when you are feeling bad enough to need help, but this is really good information!

I half agree with some of this.

Just because an issue is complex and long-term doesn't mean it's something that therapy can really do much to help with it.

I also also knowing where to go is very location dependent and can be fairly complex.

Here, I would say if therapy isn't available through an EFAP (this is something employers and schools choose to offer, it's not mandatory that they do) or other option through school or employee benefits, then going to the health system is a good first contact. If someone has a doctor or nurse in a PCN short term therapy may be offered for free and there are also other health care professionals who offer services to support mental health that isn't therapy, for example social workers and mental health nurses. Just to note as I have noticed that many understand a mental health nurse to be something different than what they are here. Here these are NOT psychiatric nurses. They can help with things like setting goals, developing coping skills, making a plan when dealing with a medical crisis, etc. If they feel like an issue would benefit from psychotherapy they will refer, as it's not something they offer.

If that's not an option/has been unhelpful the next point of contact I would recommend is the health care system's section for Addiction & Mental Health. They have a helpline which offers information about services and referrals, as well as support.

@OasisRedbeard thank you.