I'm confused on what this was...
So a while back I had a boyfriend and we hadn't been going out for a long time and I'm not really sure if this was sexual assault of if this is just normal but here's how it went:
So it was after school and he had just asked me to the Christmas Banquet and I was about to leave to go to the ortho so we hugged and then he went in for a kiss and I wasn't really ready and I thought it was just going to be a peck on the lips and it was until he shoved his tongue into my mouth and started making out with me and I didn't know what to do so I went to the ortho and I couldn't stop shaking. I avoided him for a while and eventually was confronted by him so I told him I didn't like it and he was like okay but then he tried to kiss me again but I said no. Afterwards he was always touching me and when we talked he would have me up against a wall and it made me very uncomfortable and when we would hug he would pull my body up against him and I didn't want this.
After I eventually broke up with him he got really mad at me for moving on and getting another boyfriend. He wouldn't let me go.
Maybe it was just a really clingy boyfriend and I know it's not super serious like rape but...I just need to know if I'm being paranoid or if it was something else.
He refused to respect the boundaries you had placed for yourself, and that's terrifying when our boundaries are breached. It can cause us to shake and simply feel shaken to our very core. It's hard to rebuild our foundation after something as violating as that, of course.
Have you spoken to anyone regarding this incident, so as to seek some closure and understanding? I think your brain is attempting to make ends meet, so to speak, and is trying to analyze what happened. I'm hesitant to label this for you becauseI'm not a professional. And to be honest, I think what matters most here is you healing and moving forward stronger than ever before. WhatIcan tell you that you dodged a major bullet by breaking away from him. Someone that refuses to respect personal boundaries is not someone you want to trust.
Please talk to someone about this. If you don't close this door correctly, it could open up later on in life. I'm very sorry you had to experience that sort of panic, but I'm so happy that you got yourself out of it. That's more than I was able to do once upon a time. Keep your head up.
I told a couple friends but no one's really said anything. They all pretty much say "Wow what a perv" and that's about it. The guy stares at me at school and I've confronted him about it but he just denies that he does it. Even my boyfriend after him knew about it and didn't really say anything. I wouldn't want to tell my parents because I don't want to cause any drama.
