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ValentineLove
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Bio

❤

Hi, I'm Val.
I am a very private person, but I am an open book. If you don't ask, I won't tell.


Beautiful Paradoxes
❤ I am quiet but talkative - it all depends on the subject
❤ I am equally patient and impatient
❤ I have deep wishes and shallow wants
❤ I am a genuine person with ulterior motives
❤ I crave both solitude and adventure
❤ I accept my present but secretly caress the 'what ifs' of the past and future
❤ I am cautious yet impulsive
❤ I yearn for intimacy and avoid it at all costs
❤ I am me and yet I am not

I'm not one of many words, so when I do speak I prefer my words to hold meaning and therefore tend to gravitate towards deep conversations as opposed to small talk.
I'm a solitary person. My door is open to anyone and everyone and those who enter will always be met with a warm welcome; but I rarely venture outside of that door to visit other people. This causes a lot of relationships and friendships to dwindle because my silence and lack of communication is often confused for disinterest.
Life has been a long and difficult journey. I still don't know who I am, or who I am supposed to be. I still don't know all the sides to me and often times those sides are constantly shifting and changing. One day I'm one version of myself, while the next day I may be another.
Whatever side I was when you found me and decided to learn more about me, I hope it left an impact on you and that I was able to help filter through the darkness that follows us all. Whoever you are at this moment, I hope you know how happy I am that you are still here and are working towards a better tomorrow. We all have beautiful paradoxes within ourselves and we all encompass equations that don't always add up; but we all deserve to take up space. We deserve a chance. Keep searching for the sunrise along the horizon, keep yearning for it; regardless of the night that comes before. Things will get better.

I'm Val, and it is a pleasure to meet you. ❤
Recent forum posts
a struggle of familiarity vs. growth
Relationship Stress / by ValentineLove
Last post
 March 12th, 2018
...See more I am in the midst of crawling towards the exit of a 7 year "relationship" with it still gripping my feet. Although its grasp is warm and familiarly comforting, I know from experience that its grasp holds pain. Amidst the pain lies good memories and moments where I grew to be the person I am because of them. But the foundation itself is crumbling from years of neglect; too many times where problems were swept beneath a tattered rug, a feeble attempt of facing the crude reality of it all. And as I stare at the exit, I can't help but periodically glance over my shoulder with longing and remorse. Even though the cheers in the distance are urging me to keep going, the pleading of the past makes it hard to focus on anything else. I feel as though I am being torn in two and the uncertainty that lies within me hurts almost as much as the familiar pain I once lived in. I feel as though I can't trust myself or the feelings that cling to my veins. I just want peace, but the turmoil of this journey to growth makes me want to turn back. And I'm so, so, tired. I suppose there isn't a question, or a request for advice. I'm just hurting all the time, and I hate it.
struggle of familiarity vs. growth
Relationship Stress / by ValentineLove
Last post
 March 11th, 2018
...See more I am in the midst of crawling towards the exit of a 7 year "relationship" with it still gripping my feet. Although its grasp is warm and familiarly comforting, I know from experience that its grasp holds pain. Amidst the pain lies good memories and moments where I grew to be the person I am because of them. But the foundation itself is crumbling from years of neglect; too many times where problems were swept beneath a tattered rug, a feeble attempt of facing the crude reality of it all. And as I stare at the exit, I can't help but periodically glance over my shoulder with longing and remorse. Even though the cheers in the distance are urging me to keep going, the pleading of the past makes it hard to focus on anything else. I feel as though I am being torn in two and the uncertainty that lies within me hurts almost as much as the familiar pain I once lived in. I feel as though I can't trust myself or the feelings that cling to my veins. I just want peace, but the turmoil of this journey to growth makes me want to turn back. And I'm so, so, tired. I suppose there isn't a question, or a request for advice. I'm just hurting all the time, and I hate it.
Teeny tiny itsy bitsy typo error!
Site Updates / by ValentineLove
Last post
 November 13th, 2015
...See more Hey @KrinkTheMellowUnicorn ! Hope your day is going alright, and that you're excited for the weekend!! (Hopefully you get some days off, that is.) Anyways, just happened to spot this and it isn't a big deal but I wanted to bring it to your attention, regardless. Path Path ! I see it when I'm on the home page of my member account. Just thought I would leave it here so you're aware of it and can get to it whenever you get to it. :) Have a great rest of the day!
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