When your blamed for what happened...

@ArianaMay

That's really unfortunate that your best friend reacted in a way that made you feel so hopeless. I'm sorry you felt that way. I think it's very brave you decided to talk to them about it. Don't give up! Try to keep in mind that not everyone is capable of reacting in a healthy way to being told something so deep and traumatic to someone. It could shock them, and possibly trigger something in them as well. Maybe your friend was unsure of how to respond, and just said what first came to mind. I'm sure their intent was not to make you feel worse. Perhaps you could try letting them know that if you open up to them again, you aren't looking for advice on what your past self should have done! Let them know you are telling them this to help work through it, that sometimes you just need someone to listen to you.

I have told my best friend the basic outline of the trauma I'm working through. I've let her know that sometime soon I'd like to tell her the details, and some of my other feelings about it. Since it's not the first time she and i have talked about past trauma, hers as well, we know how to respond to each other in the best way. It has been amazingly helpful having a friend to speak to about this. But i do make sure she has an idea of my mood and feelings before we speak, so she can be careful not to overreact or say something that will trigger me further.

I really hope you can keep trying!