Loss
Has anyone lost someone suddenly who was very close to them and it changed them completely?
I lost my father 8 years ago. Before his sudden death I was very outgoing I loved people I was a cheerleader at my school. I had many friends. After his death I went into a shell. I shut all my friends out so I no longer have any because they’ve moved on. I’m afraid to go out anywhere alone. I won’t even go in the store alone and I won’t get a drivers license…I’m too scared. I don’t know who I am anymore and I don’t know how to find that person. I don’t know what to do but I hate the person I’ve become because I have so much potential. I’m a psychology student and I’m terrified of graduating because I feel too broken to help anyone. I feel I’m not good enough the amazing grades I get in school make no sense to me as I dropped out in 9th grade got my ged and started college out of nowhere a few years later. So how is it possible to get great grades when I feel so dumb.
If you have lost someone and it changed you as a person how did you start believing in yourself again? How did you relearn to live yourself? I just don’t know what to do or even where to start at fixing this problem. But I cry every day and I can’t take it anymore it’s miserable.
@blueCranberry4808
Losing someone so close to you can be a very difficult and profound experience, and it's not unusual for it to affect a person deeply and for a long time. What you're feeling is understandable, and it's important to remember that everyone grieves in their own way and at their own pace. It's good that you are acknowledging your feelings and reaching out for support.
It's also important to know that you are not broken or unworthy because of the struggles you're facing. In fact, your pursuit of a psychology degree shows that you have the ability and the drive to help others, which is a beautiful thing. Don't let your doubts about yourself hold you back from using your talents and skills to make a positive impact on the world.
Here are a few ideas for how you can start to feel better:
1. Talk to a counselor or therapist: It can be incredibly helpful to talk to a trained professional who can provide you with guidance, support, and strategies for managing your emotions and finding your way back to yourself.
2. Practice self-compassion: It's natural to feel a range of emotions after a loss, including sadness, anger, and even guilt. Try to be kind and compassionate towards yourself, and remember that you're doing the best you can under difficult circumstances.
3. Take small steps: Break big goals down into smaller, manageable steps. For example, if your goal is to get your driver's license, start by scheduling a consultation or lesson. From there, you can work your way up to getting behind the wheel and taking the test. Remember that progress is a journey, and it's okay to take it slowly.
4. Seek out support: Join a support group for people who have lost loved ones or who are struggling with similar issues. It can be comforting to know that you're not alone, and to have a community of people who understand what you're going through.
Remember that healing is a process, and it's okay to take the time you need to grieve and to find your way back to yourself. You are strong and capable, and you can overcome these challenges with time, support, and self- care.
Thank you so much for your kind words. It means a lot just to see someone heard me. I would love to go see a psychologist I used to until the state cut off me and my sons insurance out of nowhere and I’m working on getting it back. But for all the others I will start working on one at a time and hopefully slowly I can start accepting it. Again thank you so much this meant the world to me (:
@blueCranberry4808. I experienced a very difficult time also. It took me several years and a lot of help but I was eventually able to relearn how to live again.I did see a therapist and attend grief support groups. Some of them were free and offered by community organizations and churches. I was not a member of the church and wasn’t required to join in order to attend the support group. Sometimes Universities have mental health programs for the students also. I agree with all of the wise words said by @VioletVeritas.
