Family Drama :' )
Hey uh-
(Kinda TW - (Sexual Assault) )
So lets start where it all started...
So, last summer my grandpa moved into our house and he kinda gave me bad vibes. (I was raped before by my uncle so I get PTSD about small things). I was upset with my biological dad one day and my grandpa was walking towards me (like we were going to pass each other) but he kind of wrapped his arm around me and stopped me and asked if I was okay. This was the first time I really felt uncomfortable around him. Another time he was asking me weird things like- "do you have a boyfriend?" or "Has anyone else besides Josh (my uncle)?". He would bring up my uncle a lot and it would give me flashbacks every time. Almost everyday he brought him up I would cry myself to sleep that night and sometimes the night after.
One day I was coming home on the bus and I usually sat near my siblings because they would get bullied a lot. When I got on though, they were not there. So, I sat with my friends instead. When I got home I ran inside and was going to ask my mom where they were but my stepdad and my mom were gone along with my siblings. So I asked my grandpa. He told me to look at my phone. I grabbed my phone and saw my mom and stepdad sent a text saying that they were going to California (I went with just my mom to California a few weeks before). I had drivers ed (online) that day so I was sitting in the kitchen, setting up everything. My grandpa walked inside and yelled at me to let the dogs in and feed them. The meeting just started and they were taking attendance so I couldn't leave and I told him that. He started yelling at me more and my PTSD was building up. I also have anger issues so I kind of raised my voice at him, we were yelling at each other for about 10 minutes and he eventually said "I'm moving out". I didn't know what to do so I called my mom. A while later we agreed that my older brother would come pick me up so I didn't have to be with him. While I was with him after our argument he wasn't feeding me or anything. A few times he would get dressed up and I asked him where he was going and he told me he was going out to eat. He told me to clean the whole house and feed and water all the animals. And every night he would order or pick up food from somewhere. He never brought food home and if he did I wasn't allowed to eat it.
Ever since this weekend last summer, we haven't talked to him. He blocked all of my family on everything.
My mom's friend, Lilly wasn't blocked on *** and saw that he posted something. When she saw the post it was him with another family. We had no idea who any of them were so after looking for over 3 days we found out, my mom has a sister and twin nephews. My mom is 40 and we are guessing my aunt is in her early 30's or late 20's. My mom talked to her aunt and her aunt said that she knew he had another daughter, apparently he found out last summer (a little before the weekend he moved out). We think another reason he was trying to move out is because he wanted to meet his other daughter.
My mom is my closest family member and I love her so much. She is always tired, depressed, quiet, she never gets sleep, shes almost always cranky, and I've heard and seen her crying in her room, looking at her phone. This has been off ever since she found out this news.
I also just needed to get this off my chest. It hurts me so bad to see her like this.
If you have read this whole thing I want to thank you. If this triggers you I am very sorry.
(Moved to an appropriate forum, Sunisshiningandsoareyou, 01/12/23)