Survivor Songs -- Trigger warning

@ohanasystem

I love this and I might come back later with songs in links. But I do want to say I go to a lot of the songs by Evanescence

@BurningEmber
Oooh, yes, definitely! Evanescence have a lot of songs that I relate back to traumatic experiences and the like. Thank you! Please do feel free to come back and add more any time, as many as you like, or just a few, whatever works for you! :)

@ohanasystem

A song I particularly identify with is a song by Casting Crowns, Does anybody hear her. You can take a listen here

@BurningEmber

I love that song!

@BeeLeigh

its an amazing song!

There's actually a thread for this somewhere. I'll tag you in it when I find it :)

@BeeLeigh

Thank you for being so helpful!

@BeeLeigh
Thank you, and thank you for the tag! It's definitely similar, but I'm looking particularly for any songs about being a survivor of traumatic experiences, rather than specifically the uplifting ones. That's definitely a brilliant thread, though, and I'll be nabbing some songs off it, and adding my own, as well! <3

@ohanasystem

Scars To your Beautiful by Alessia Cara that's one of my favorites (says it in my profile lol)

@naturalPeace83
Thank you so much for suggesting that song! It's beautiful and I'd never heard it before. :heart:

@ohanasystem

Glad you liked it!!! hope it helps!! You can always message me if you need some extra support

I can really identify with Hurt by Christina Aguilera. It says a lot about my relationship with my father who died by suicide.

@lovelyllama13

I love that song!

@ohanasystem Just as an idea. you know we have the trauma video event running currently....Please see this link for details....how about one or all of you who have posted these songs here, put these together, with some images, video or slides to send a submission in for the video that is being put together by and for the trauma community. You may like to consider doing something like this and the submissions are open until just before midnight this friday!! https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/TraumaticExperiencesCommunityCreativeExpressionsCorner_1170/TraumaCommunityVideoEvent_78024/

Does anyone else get triggered by songs??? I feel suffocated when I listen to some songs, particularly evanascence. I always relapse (self-harm) but I can't resist listening to them.

@NICK1399 i have a few songs that trigger me. My daughter was still born and i had Chasing Cars played at her funeral....now everytime i hear it I get flashbacks and just go to a very very low place. The other major one that does is it Iris by the googoo dolls, 'And I'd give up forever to touch you, 'Cause I know that you feel me somehow, You're the closest to heaven that I'll ever be'......

then there are all the songs that played on the radio at hopsital etc etc.....i actually have so many trigger songs its ridicuolous

A good one that comes to mind, for me, is: I Will Survive - by Gloria Gaynor (1978)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gYkACVDFmeg

Hm, maybe time to revive this thread? I love music, and there are a lot of good lyrics out there, some really hits you, even though its rarley a 100% match with your own experience

But here goes:

Alive - by Sia

I was born in a thunderstorm
I grew up overnight
I played alone
I played on my own
I survived

Hey
I wanted everything I never had
Like the love that comes with light
I wore envy and I hated that
But I survived

I had a one-way ticket to a place where all the demons go
Where the wind don't change
And nothing in the ground can ever grow
No hope, just lies
And you're taught to cry into your pillow
But I survived

I'm still breathing, I'm still breathing
I'm still breathing, I'm still breathing
I'm alive
I'm alive
I'm alive
I'm alive

I found solace in the strangest place
Way in the back of my mind
I saw my life in a stranger's face
And it was mine

I had a one-way ticket to a place where all the demons go
Where the wind don't change
And nothing in the ground can ever grow
No hope, just lies
And you're taught to cry into your pillow
But I survived

I'm still breathing, I'm still breathing
I'm still breathing, I'm still breathing
I'm alive
I'm alive
I'm alive
I'm alive

You took it all, but I'm still breathing
You took it all, but I'm still breathing
You took it all, but I'm still breathing
You took it all, but I'm still breathing
You took it all, but I'm still breathing
You took it all, but I'm still breathing
You took it all, but I'm still breathing
You took it all, but I'm still breathing

I have made every single mistake
That you could ever possibly make
I took and I took and I took what you gave
But you never noticed that I was in pain
I knew what I wanted; I went in and got it
Did all the things that you said that I wouldn't
I told you that I would never be forgotten
And all in spite of you

And I'm still breathing, I'm still breathing
I'm still breathing, I'm still breathing
I'm alive (You took it all, but I'm still breathing)
(You took it all, but I'm still breathing)
I'm alive (You took it all, but I'm still breathing)
(You took it all, but I'm still breathing)
I'm alive (You took it all, but I'm still breathing)
(You took it all, but I'm still breathing)
I'm alive

I'm alive
I'm alive
I'm alive
I'm alive

@LoveFromSara oh this is too much...

Better Days

Goo Goo Dolls

And you asked me what I want this year
And I try to make this kind and clear
Just a chance that maybe we'll find better days
'Cause I don't need boxes wrapped in strings
And designer love and empty things
Just a chance that maybe we'll find better days

So take these words and sing out loud
'Cause everyone is forgiven now
'Cause tonight's the night the world begins again

I need some place simple where we could live
And something only you can give
And that's faith and trust and peace while we're alive
And the one poor child who saved this world
And there's ten million more who probably could
If we all just stopped and said a prayer for them

So take these words and sing out loud
'Cause everyone is forgiven now
'Cause tonight's…

Rise Up by Andra Day is one of my most favorite positive recovery songs

here's a sneak peek at the lyrics:

You're broken down and tired
Of living life on a merry go round
And you can't find the fighter
But I see it in you so we gonna walk it out
And move mountains
We gonna walk it out

And move mountains

And I'll rise up
I'll rise like the day
I'll rise up
I'll rise unafraid
I'll rise up
And I'll do it a thousand times again ...

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two song that helps me is Nathaniel Ratliff's you worry me, Nathaniel Ratliff's I need never get old. and Maximo park - the coast is always changing

You Worry Me

Nathaniel Rateliff & The Night Sweats https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BMWVUE5K-ZY

I'm alright today
You gonna find a way to cross and you gonna get there
And I'm on fire today
Ain't no water here to calm or even put me out
I'll find a better way
Am I crazy or the wind is gonna blow me down?

I'm gonna leave it all out there to dry
I'm gonna leave it all out there
I'm gonna leave it all out there to dry up
I'm gonna leave it all out there

You seem tired today
Were you up all night afraid of what the future might bring?
I feel fine today
I've had dreams of you in places I've not seen before
You get so carried away
Like lovers new to bodies first to touch you here
This ain't a getaway
You built walls around your heart to try to lock it in

I'm gonna leave it all out there to dry
I'm gonna leave it all out there
I'm gonna leave it all out there to dry up
I'm gonna leave it all out there

And upon the wind, it's carried
Over the cities and the plains
You got time you're on the mend babe
And everybody wants the same
Everybody wants the same thing

I'm gonna leave it all out there to dry
I'm gonna leave it all out there
I'm gonna leave it all out there to dry up
I'm gonna leave it all out there

But you worry me
You worry me
You worry me
You worry me
You worry me
You worry me

I Need Never Get Old

Nathaniel Rateliff & The Night Sweats https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-2hxU4UG3dA

Can we be there
Oh, just think of the time
Thought of love so strange
Said you never knew
While I try my best
To cover our eyes
It's a common way to blame and hide the truth

I know that some will say it matters but little babe
Oh, but, come on and mean it to me
I need it so bad

I needed to try
I needed to fall
I needed your love I'm burning away
I need never get old

Taking our time
Ah just standing in the rain
Meaning what you said ah and mean it to me
All of these lies
Oh and never again
Come on and say it now, say it's a game

I know that some will say
It matters but little babe
Oh but come on and mean it to me
I need it so bad
Oh, mean it to me
I need it so bad

I needed to try
Needed to fall
I needed your love I'm burning away
I need never get old

I said I needed to try
Needed to fall
I needed your love I'm burning away
I need never get old

I said I needed to try
Needed to fall (I needed)
I needed your love I'm burning away
I need never get old
I need never get old
I need never get old
I need never get old
I need never get old

Maximo park Coast is always changing https ://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WDczRUpruoI&list=PLiaAPk9K-sv2AlYYRcyaONAkO6tWwsRsp&index=20

I've met so many people who look the same
Most were forgotten but you still remain
Most of the time I don't care
But London so far away n when your there
And so it saddens me to say I'm only happy when I move away

I am young and I am lost
Every sentence has its cost
I am young and I am lost
You react to my ripost
We look out upon the sea
We look out upon the sea the coast is always changing
Ill bring my camera out to sea
The coast is always changing

Age makes a difference till you open your mouth
Use your time just to work things out
I no that you can't understand
When I tell you that this wasn't planned
And so it saddens me to say
I'm only happy when I move away

I am young and I am lost
Every sentence has its cost
I am young and I am lost
You react to my ripost
We look out upon the sea
We look out upon the sea the coast is always changing
We'll take the train out to sea
My heart is always changing

It won't be long before you've gone
I can't imagine leaving
I can't imagine leaving
I can't imagine leaving
I can't imagine leaving

We look out upon the sea
We look out upon the sea the coast is always changing
Ill bring my camera out to sea
My heart is always changing
We'll take the train out to the sea
My pulse is always racing
As we look out upon the sea
The coast is always changing

And though it saddens me to stay
I'm still waiting for that day

@CindyIsNotOkay Sorry i forgot to put 3

A song which acts as a survivor song is "Praying" by Kesha (2017). This singer was asked to record this song, whose lyrics are related to telling your perpetrator(s) that you hope that they are changing their ways, after they have engaged in things which have wronged you.

Here is a link to the song:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v-Dur3uXXCQ

Here are the lyrics:

Well you almost had me fooled
Told me that I was nothing without you
Oh, but after everything you've done
I can thank you for how strong I have become

'Cause you brought the flames and you put me through hell
I had to learn how to fight for myself
And we both know all the truth I could tell
I'll just say this as "I wish you farewell"

I hope you're somewhere prayin, prayin
I hope your soul is changin, changin
I hope you find your peace
Falling on your knees, prayin

I'm proud of who I am
No more monsters, I can breathe again
And you said that I was done
Well, you were wrong and now the best is yet to come

'Cause I can make it on my own
And I don't need you, I found a strength I've never known
I'll bring thunder, I'll bring rain
When I'm finished, they won't even know your name

You brought the flames and you put me through hell
I had to learn how to fight for myself
And we both know all the truth I could tell
I'll just say this as "I wish you farewell"

I hope you're somewhere prayin, prayin
I hope your soul is changin, changin
I hope you find your peace
Falling on your knees, prayin

Oh sometimes, I pray for you at night
Someday, maybe you'll see the light
Whoa some say, in life, you're gonna get what you give
But some things only God can forgive

I hope you're somewhere prayin, prayin
I hope your soul is changin, changin
I hope you find your peace
Falling on your knees, praying

@ohanasystem I follow rivers - Lykke Li. About people sticking together nomatter what happened. When we suffer trauma or are in depression we tend to go away...there are people who want to stick to us through these hard times nomatter what...