Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-In : Monday, September 18th, 2017
Hello everyone! 
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I have had a lazy day so far as I am a bit down with cold 
. ( ▽ ` )ﾉ It is raining for the past few hours now and since the fall is approaching, the temperature is slowly going down each day. Nonetheless, it has been uneventful but good.
Mondays can be hard for a lot of people as from Monday we all look at a long week ahead. Sometimes it becomes challenging for us to plan it all the way while at times, we just decide to go with the flow and see where we end up.
Please let us know how is your day going, what all have you planned for the day, what challenges are your facing and how are you planning to tackle them.
And please remember..... We all are fighters, nonetheless. 
And that makes us special.
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@Halogen
Hi
You are new here, cant tell you things
@sensitiveShade5337
Hey Shade! It is absolutely fine, no worries There is no pressure to share I just hope you are coping well and doing good! xx much love
@Halogen
No I'm in pain again :(
@sensitiveShade5337 Hi Shade, how are you doing today?
@Halogen
I'm going to try something, simply because i'm sick of having to go searching through all the posts to find mine (really difficult on a tablet with the app because you can't just [Ctrl]+[F] to search and find your name.
It's that time of the month and i get quite upset due to previous trauma and abuse, i haven't left the house today, and i feel like i'm not actually doing that well today.
@Tenacity37 Hi Tenacity, sorry to hear you're having a tough time right now due to memories of trauma and abuse . Is there anything you could do to help yourself distract from what is upsetting you, something that could provide you with soothing and comfort? Its okay not to be doing too well each day, but finding that strength to hold on during the tough days is helpful. What do you feel could help you right now?
Hi Halo,
I hope you will bounce back from your cold quickly. Take care of yourself.
Today is a travel day for me. It will be nice to be out and experience a change of pace. Honestly, I am just tired.
The weekends are often a more difficult time for me than the weekdays. I felt safer in school and was happy to get away from my the house when I was growing up. After the most recent experience, I am still having trouble grounding myself. What used to be comforting feels very different.
I am feeling hopeful, however. The support and encouragement from friends, family and this community have really helped me work through a great deal.
Thinking of the people who make this community a safe place to be present. Thank you for reminding me that I am not alone. Remember that you are not alone either.
@Compassionatelistener108 Hi Compassionate, good to see you checking in today. Its always good to know how you guys are doing!
Are you doing anything interesting on your travel day? It can be nice to be out and about especially if most of the other time, you find yourself confined to home or school. If your tired today, try and do some self care, to ensure you do not exhaust yourself too much :) Finding some 'me' time in the day can be soothing and comforting.
What are you finding more difficult with regards using the grounding techniques that used to provide comfort for you? What do you feel has changed about this?
Im glad you have support around you and that you find the support and encouragement here, has helped you to work through a great deal. Always remember, we are here for you when you need. There are lots of lovely supportive members and listeners here within trauma and sometimes just not feeling alone, can help an awful lot And thank you for the reminder, that we too are not alone :)
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@dancingRainbow45
@dancingRainbow45
Oh my, I am literally all thumbs tonight! I was trying to reply to your thoughtful questions on my phone. I will try again tomorrow 🙈
I am enjoying the short trip. It was also a big step to help me begin healing again. I have been tired physically and emotionally. I was shattered after being assaulted recently. I am still shattered about feeling so fragmented after so many years of relative stability. It happened so quickly and it is difficult to navigate again. We all work very hard to heal. It took a long time and a gifted therapist to guide me through my childhood experiences. Intellectually, I grasp the dynamics. Emotionally and on an internal level, I am not close right now. Things will come together though and on the positive side of this, I know it is possible.
Hey alle :) It's my busy day at school today but I am enjoying myself none the less. I hope you alle find relief fom your woe today and have some fun. :)
@Halogen sorry you arent well. Ive got hubbys cold too today.
Not coping well today. Back at work. Waiting to hear how mums op went. Quite anxious and down about other physical crap im having now. Got therapy later which dreading as had another sh relapse at work.
Cant win and tired of it all. Need out desperately.
@inventiveOrange1 Thinking of you and your family as you await the results, Orange. Sorry you're struggling today. Fort is up and open if you need some shelter and sanctuary. Big hugs.⛺⛺⛺
I need to talk
i don't feel okay
@Halogen @inventiveOrange1 
Tired and somewhat brainfogged today after what seems like the bajillionth poor night's sleep in a row. Startled awake yet again in the middle of the night and found it extremely difficult to settle after that. Thankfully, I don't have much if anything on my plate this Monday, so I can be gentle and kind to myself as I try to manage through each moment (including any difficult ones that may arise) with as much compassion as I can muster.
So far so good on the self care front... ⛺
@melliotm Love the pictures <3 Sorry to hear you feel brainfogged after little sleep again. How long has your sleeping pattern been an issue Mellio and have you considered perhaps speaking to a doctor, or getting some plans as to how to make bedtime more relaxing in the hope you can get some deeper sleep? Its good to hear you are practising the self care, as that is important. Take each moment as it comes, dont put expectations on yourself, but if certain things as a priority need doing, perhaps plan how you will go about achieving that and for each thing achieved, remember to reward yourself for your accomplishment
Today is just getting going so I can't give any judgement yet on how it is. I got the kids to school on time and I'm planning to go to their school today to join the parent commitee. I've never done this before, but I thought it would be a good way to meet new people and to distract from my 'stuff' while I'm on medical leave and also to help find some work in the area (we moved recently). I also am trying to stretch my comfort zone a little bit as I can really isolate myself when I'm not feeling well. Not sure how it will go but I'm open to anything and think I can cope with it today.
As for my illness, it's often a russian roulette as to how I'm going to feel in the morning. Today not too bad, but I also haven't eaten yet. I seem to feel better on an empty stomach and that's not just an anorexic thing. :/ Things could be a whole other story by lunch. I really don't like not having control over some of this stuff but whatever..it is what it is...
@KatieMoon1 I hope as your day starts, it improves as the day goes on and turns out not to be a bad one for you. Its good to hear you managed to get the children to school and have joined the parent committee. This can be a great way of getting support around parenting issues as well as an opportunity to make new friends. Its good to hear that your able to recognise your patterns of isolating yourself and are pushing yourself to do different. That is a massive thing to do and well done you for giving this a go :)
@dancingRainbow45
Thanks for all the love today, that was needed. <3 I"m doing this in baby steps as that's all I can manage, but I know no one expects more of me than that. :D
@KatieMoon1 Good to hear about taking things on with baby steps. No one will push you harder than you push yourself that is for sure!! Remember that your best is good enough and all them baby steps add up to something much bigger :)
@dancingRainbow45
@KatieMoon1 This made me smile <3 I love this, and its so darn cute lol
@dancingRainbow45
Me too, which is why it had to be shared. 💕
@Halogen
Hope you feel better, Halogen! It's also raining here off and on. Ah, fall....
I like this season despite all of its little nuances. I'm happy that its fall... but fall and winter are kinda when all the negative stuff that I can remember happened. I kinda go into some regression stuff, a lot of PTSD stuff to deal with around the holidays and what not...
So far, I'm doing okay. Staying positive and continuing to work on what I need to. I'm taking the time lately to cut myself off from negative influences in people that I know. Rationing out my time wisely. Spending it by myself, rather than around people who sap time, energy, and emotional resources. Part of me really wants a connection with just SOMEONE but, when I look at these toxic sorts- I realize that I'm selling myself short. I got a new life to start, and they're not gonna be in it anyway. So why waste time on them? I feel more understood and connected here on 7cups and even others I run into every so often. It's not all bad. Just some rainy days and sometimes storms.