What Does Love Mean for You?
As I am still in the process of recovering from trauma, I am also re-learning the concept of love and self-love ❤️ However, in the deeper level of my heart, I feel very lost and I don't even know how true love feels or if I have the ability to love myself or others. Even though there is still a black hole in my heart, I am making changes everyday and I believe one day I will re-establish my self concept and self worth! 🔥
It's very difficult to describe love only by words; however, love can manifest in any way of life. At this moment, I feel love is the unconditional trust from my pets! 🥰 How does love mean to you? Feel free to share your thoughts and spread the loving energy together! ❤️🌈💐
@wojiaozly123
Hey there! I love how you described it as "unconditional love from my pets"! That's so sweet.
I am hearing that you've not only survived trauma but have found within yourself a formidable sense of determination to heal and set a goal to begin reimagining love and self-love... and what that looks like in your life moving forward & 🌻 I am living for this! No matter what tried to break your spirit in this life, your radiance is still abundantly coming through loud and clear.
I encourage you to continue to share your journey with us. ♥︎ Thank you for being here and for bravely sharing today.
@zaatarHoney
Hello Zaati, I could use a long term listener. If you become available for new members, maybe count me in? I'll wait for your text. I wonder if I sound desperate. Okay, lots of love to you <3
@seashell145
Hey there! I want to first reassure you that I didn't sense desperation at all. I actually admire that you're using the platform to find Listeners you feel you might connect with well, rather than leaving it to chance when you're in need of support. That's incredibly resourceful and clever, if anything. I most definitely am up for connecting with you once I have the space to take on new members!
PS. thank you for not only reading my bio, but also honoring my boundaries at this time. I don't overlook these details, and it's very meaningful to me.
@zaatarHoney
Hello, I didn't read this reply before, so many positive things about me! Thank you so much, I was feeling really bad about myself haha. You noticing my positive qualities really matters to me, it brings hope.
The reason I didn't read this reply before is because I thought this might be a comment in one of my blog posts where there were some hurtful comments. I thought if I read another comment I would have to go through the hurt again, so decided to ignore it. If I knew it was your comment I would've read and replied a long time ago.
Thank you so much for appreciating my positive efforts, I try to be respectful of other people's emotions and try to support people when they are hurting.
Alright, hope to talk to you soon again. Take care. <3
Hey there! I'm glad you shared your thoughts with us. First of all, I want to tell you that you're really strong because you're still trying to un- learn and re - learn from various experiences of life. It is a difficult process but it can definitely shape us into better human beings. 🤍☀️
Personally, to me love is a part of healing. Something I connect it with prayer even though I'm not really a religious person. I started helping people when I was healing myself. I found out that if I could love others then I could love myself too. If I could fight for them then I could fight for myself too. The thought gave me hope in dark times. It's really hard to love again when you have been betrayed by life. But, I started seeing love in simpler ways instead of the complicated perspectives we put it into. The way you described it. In pets, in beautiful compliments, sunshine, reading, music...doing the things I once loved. Doing everything with love. It is hard to see it everyday and you need not force it but try to find it in small moments. I stopped forcing people or moments to stay. Just felt them and allowed them to pass by. If everything is temporary then those small temporary moments of love matter too. ❤️
There's a quote I read two days back.
"Make sure that the walls you build to protect yourself do not become a prison."
Allow the love to come in like a ray of sunshine. Let it touch you but don't let it burn you. ☀️🌻
Thank you so much for the awesome quotes and exactly! I love what you said "If you can love yourself you can love others" ❤️ And I totally agree with you, as we are healing we re-learn love!
@wojiaozly123 yes! And we will. ❣️☀️
@wojiaozly123 I am so sorry for the darkness that colors your life and your feelings about love. The more I focus on what I do not have, the sadder I feel.
Some days I wonder even if my ruminating about lost love is just lost time. There are many kinds of love. I have not found romantic love to be dependable.
I prefer to think of love as compassion for myself and for others. By caring for others, my concern for my own situation shrinks, while my love and concern for others expands.
I think my own expectations have sometimes been unrealistic, thinking that I would find someone that would make me happy forever. The basic problem with that is no one in a human body lives forever. That is a given, so maybe my expectations are the problem. By expecting the impossible, I set myself up for disappointment and confusion.
Hope you get the support you are looking for.
Thank you so much and I totally got you, that I also had negative experience in romantic love (and that's also the thing bringing me trauma) 😢
However, as we are sharing our own experience and helping each other, we can get the fulfillment of love from others as well! ❤️ I definitely will and you too, I hope you receive a lot of support!
@wojiaozly123
Love for me is accepting the person or a pet for whatever they are.
Loving a person despite their gender, so what if the are bisexual man or gay. They are still a man hehe.
And there's this feeling that even without words, there's a connection with the two of you. When your together everything seems magical and happy. You sometimes could finish each other's sentences.
For me the love of my life is also my best friend where we can be ourselves and no putting up the mask of being a nice person hahaha.
Long time no see everyone! I have been to travelling last week and it was amazing!! 😍 One thing I discovered during the trip is that love is the wonderful blessings in nature, as nature is always providing us with abundance diligently 🙏🏻🏞️
It's truly hard to love ourselves, especially when we never had good parental models of unconditional support, never formed that secure base in our developmental years.
It's taken me a while to learn how to "accept" myself, it is a lot like befriending yourself, providing that consolation, perhaps even reconstructing our "self care". It's a multifaceted journey, and one that is probably the basis of everyone's adolescent maturation.
Maybe even kind of cliche but I see it as learning to accept ourselves for the dirty animals we are, and yet striving for best possible intention to care for both ourselves and others, reaching for those divine principles even within a world that offers unanswerable pain and suffering.
Choosing to love even when we are beaten down, a very hard thing to do, then again a difference between caring for somebody and being exploited. Care for ourselves is also in defense of oneself, self respect. I digress. Best to you on your journey, a topic of great interest of mine, self image, acceptance etc. ❤😺🎉
I am impressed by every word you said and they really make sense to me!❤️ Yes, this journey is extremely hard especially when we don't have a healthy model to learn during our childhood 😢 However, listening to different perspectives of others help a lot with this process as well as self-care! Fortunately we are living in a resourceful generation and we can always get help if we really want ❤️
@wojiaozly123
We have to be able to love ourselves before we can love others.
Love to me is a very strong word, I only say it to only few people. Love is more than words too, like you said. Each one if us has different love language. To me, if I do things for someone (even if I do not get anything in return, tangible or intangible) it is how (much) I love them.
For me, love is sacrifice. In other words i found, someone define love by putting others first before you
@wojiaozly123 Love is acceptance
Acceptance that your significant other has flaws, and they may affect the relationship
Acceptance that your own love may falter, as well as theirs, and it's okay to
Acceptance that change can come in any way for the both of you
Acceptance that, even if all of that may be true, you'll still try again, because you believe in love
@MHFiver very inspiring words - thank you for sharing.
@wojiaozly123
i think love is mutual respect, caring for one another outside of lust, looking after each other not so much a A frame relationship where one leans on the other but a H frame relationship where each person supports each other...thought in every relationship there are challenges but it doesnt mean both can sort it out, with love both will sort it out, as long as the love is there between both partners!
