Sometimes I hate being a man
I know women suffer a lot of horrible things, but I'm tired of some women saying that all men are abusive and violent. I was in X once, and I said something about a case that had happened in which a hospital worker abused another person. I said that the problem wasn’t that he was a man, but that he was an abuser. I also said it was a matter of lack of professionalism—I regret saying that because I think it sounded insensitive, but I didn’t mean it that way. A girl said that being a man and being an abuser are the same thing. They insulted me a bit, and now I feel guilty, and deep down, I kind of hate being a man because of this. :(
@Theother172
do not take it personally.... nothing is ALL .......
feel empathetic by those who can not see the difference between ALL men and abusers. Those people who continue to make statements like that are both intellectually and emotionally immature. It is not worth trying to converse with those who feel people need to be labeled and grouped then stereotyped by their personal lens......
Thank you tiger 💜
Do not feel bad. Being a man and an abuser are two different things. Your comment was on point: that man was unprofessional and an abuser and does have nothing to do with gender. Sending hugs! Cat
También soy de Argentina jsjs, thank you Cat
Do yourself a favor and don't attach yourself to the ignorance of others. Let them talk; you know you. Know yourself as a man; vices are not excuses for being ignorant of virtues.
Thankss
@Theother172 I can appreciate how frustrating and hurtful it can be to hear those things. I can assure you that there are women out there, myself included, who are aware of the difference between abusers and the rest of men, in spite of our repeated adverse experiences with men, and lack of positive role models in our personal life. Not only that, we are also aware that there are men out there who are incredibly caring and brave, and who are actively helping others and making the world a safer place. I hope that you have women around you who can hold space for you and not react in a dismissive or insulting way when you express your feelings about this subject.
I have some, don't worry about that. My problem is that I don't like to be seem as a monster :(. Thank you
Hey, I get where you're coming from. As a woman with my own perspective, I can tell you that being a man and being abusive are not the same thing, just like being a woman and being a certain way aren’t the same thing. It’s so important to recognize that abuse is about behavior, not gender. Men are not inherently bad because some men behave badly, just like women aren’t inherently a certain way because of the actions of a few.
I get that it hurts when people misinterpret what you said or react negatively. You were expressing something valid. It’s okay to speak up, even if the response isn’t always what you expected. Just because someone doesn’t agree with your perspective doesn’t mean you’re wrong or that you should hate yourself. YOUR VOICE MATTERS, and you don’t need to apologize for it.
Keep being you, and don’t let one tough interaction shake your confidence. You’re not defined by anyone else’s opinion or reaction. You’ve got your own truth to stand on. And most importantly, don’t let this one moment make you feel lesser.
Thank you 💜, I will try
@Theother172 in my opinion women and men can be just as bad as each other. You being a man and feeling bad because of it, is really upsetting to hear🙁 I'm sorry sweetie 🙁 but you have no reason to feel bad. Labelling a whole group of people as one thing, is very ignorant🙁 I hope the positive messages here make you feel better ❤ gives you a giant tiny hug ❤
Aw thanks 💜