Ways to improve your resilience to feel happier in life

Resilience is the ability to adapt to and bounce back from difficult situations such as trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress—such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or workplace and financial stressors.

Resilient people emerge stronger after having learned to deal with and overcome hurdles in life. It does not mean though that people will not struggle, make mistakes, or need help. It means they have learned to use skillful behaviors, thoughts, actions, and are willing to be vulnerable and process emotions in order to navigate a stressful situation.

There are a few habits you can adopt to build your mental strength and resilience.

1. After waking up, greet the day and say hello to yourself in the morning. You can think of a brief compassionate self-talk to inspire you on this new day. 💙

You can ask yourself:

• How do I feel?

• What do I need today?

• How can I create a positive outcome today?

2. Compliment yourself for something you did (like brushing your hair or your teeth)

3. Connect with someone you like, it does not need to be a long call. If they are not available now by phone, you can imagine them smiling and sending you love and you smiling and returning love to them.

Brief moments of shared positivity contribute to feelings of safety and help to build trust and loyalty between people.

https://bewell.stanford.edu/the-power-of-positive-emotions/

What matters is that you see these shared moments of positivity as nourishment for your own — and even others’ — health and well-being.

4. Check your internet surfing habits and how you feel when you do that. If there are any times you feel worse with people or websites, you can reduce or eliminate them from your consumption. You can spend more time on websites which are more positive and supportive.

Your brain is built with a greater sensitivity to unpleasant news. It reacts more strongly to stimuli it deems to be negative. There is a greater surge in electrical activity. Thus, our attitudes are more heavily influenced by downbeat news than good news. Remember, what you feed grows and what you focus on is strengthened!

5. Set boundaries

Many of us know how it feels when we say “yes” to something just to please others despite the fact that we have no time to actually do it. Our sense of guilt might cause us stress and even make us want to avoid that person for fear they will ask us for another favor we cannot do.

Good personal boundaries build great interpersonal and professional relationships with honest communication.

Not being able to set healthy boundaries is a common issues in low self-esteem, needing approval from others, feeling helpless or fearing rejection or criticism.

What is something you can compliment yourself for today?

Do you feel you need to work on your boundaries?

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